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  • #92979
    Seaisland
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    I agree, I was probably being defensive. Inky I accept that I may have been harsh and apologize.

    I went off to cook breakfast and was also singing a Beatles song in my head–Give Peace a Chance.
    Thanks Jock, anita, Inky

    I am happily humbled
    Seaisland

    #92980
    Anonymous
    Guest

    * Dear Seaisland:

    Talking about inaccurate projections, this is what I was worried about this very morning, before turning on the computer- it may amaze you, maybe: yesterday, on this thread, I wrote to you that when I fell off the deck I screamed like a slaughtered pig. This is what I said to myself this morning: Maybe Seaisland is a vegetarian and felt badly when I wrote “slaughtered” pig. Then I proceeded to think how terrible for pigs to be slaughtered in such a way that they scream like that… and then I doubted my right to eat meat and proceeded to think about the way cows (around where I live) are humanely raised and killed and that it is okay to eat the… And I was afraid that you, Seaisland are now angry at me, or turned off to communicating with me.

    And then I get your post above about kinship and was relieved… so I inaccurately projected that you were angry with me for the comment above… and yet I don’t know for sure if the comment did cause you discomfort or disgust… so to CHECK projections for accuracy, I can ASK: did you, Seaisland, feel discomfort about my comment? Are you a vegetarian (if you are okay for sharing that…)?

    So, I need to “catch” myself when I “jump to conclusions” and check, ask for clarification.

    And this does tie to jock’s post about humility and being humble, and it ties to Inky’s comment about who is RIGHT: checking, asking for clarification before we are sure about our interpretation.

    And I appreciate your humility, Seaisland! I like you!

    anita

    #92984
    Seaisland
    Participant

    I am guilty of so much of same things u worry about. worried about being perceived differently than intended when trying to be kind,etc.

    You wrote something similar to you didn’t know what a slaughtered pig would sound like-and my thoughts were how much I did know what a pig did sound like. I grew up with both grandparents being farmers.

    I spent my childhood in a backwards little town where racism, guns, and ignorance was the norm. It was a sin to dance in churches eyes. We went to church 4 hours on Sundays and then again on Wednesday night. Very little of what they tried to teach me sunk in except feeling guilty or ashamed. But I still was often a free spirited rebellious wild child with some major hang ups.

    I am like you in that I do only eat meat that is humanly raised. I rarely eat red meat and only because I had a pot belly pig can I no longer enjoy pork. He ruined bacon for me. But I laughed when you said about the pig squeal because I thought of my pig. I used to keep a harness on him and walk him. When we would come across a bunch of acorns-he would want to stay and eat and eat. when I pulled his leash he would squeal like I was killing him. Now the harness was so I never did–he just wanted to stay and eat and eat. Neighbors would come out of their houses because the noise was so loud. It was deafening.

    I am like you that I worry about being rejected when I am trying to be myself and do not want to offend. I believe you and I will always be ok with each other. We are part of the mutual admiration club that we never tried to become members of.

    Seaisland

    #92988
    Anonymous
    Guest

    * Dear Seaisland:

    It is a delight to read your post above! And I can “hear” your pot belly pig squealing so loudly just for being pulled away from his favorite food (I can relate, ha ha)- and I appreciate your answers, so you are not a vegetarian- wrong assumption on my part (based on you describing yourself previously as a hippie of sort) and you were not offended then by my attempted joke. So my projection was completely inaccurate. This is encouraging me to check in the future.. with others as well … and it motivates me to encourage you to check with me regarding anything I post on this forum, to clarify what I mean by any particular post.

    I bet wars are fought between nations based on inaccurate projections.. I bet lots of violence is committed based on such.

    Take care of your shoulder!

    anita

    #92994
    Seaisland
    Participant

    I once left a husband who I should have left years before-based on inaccurate projection. I should have left him because he was selfish, drunk, beat holes in the walls, tore doors of the frames. Beat me when I tried to stop him.

    one day I had lunch ready and he came home for work and couldn’t find something………I tried to help him find it, but he yelled at me “GO EAT YOURSELF” I was so insulted, it was the last straw. I packed up what I could in my little car–took $40 and never came back–moving 3 hours away.

    Later I realized he meant for me to go eat my lunch without him. I laughed then and I laugh now. Thanks for the memory

    #92996
    Anonymous
    Guest

    * Hilarious, Seaisland: the small inaccurate projection that served you well… to act on the accurate projection you ignored before… that he was selfish, drunk, etc. !
    anita

    #92999
    Seaisland
    Participant

    Thanks–I hope when Jock reads this (and others) he knows how much good this thread of “never stop searching” has done to make this day happier and feel a kinship.

    off for now
    Seaisland

    #93003
    Inky
    Participant

    Wait! Hold on! When I wrote my response I wasn’t talking about people on this forum AT ALL!! These are two of my friends IRL (off the computer screen!!) Yikes! Projecting nothing, these other people really are becoming like that in their “Right-ness”.

    #93028
    jock
    Participant

    Hi , just dropped in a rare insomnia episode to read this. And wanted to add that my partner’s favourite movie of all time is Babe, the story of the pig who learns to be an assertive and much loved sheep-dog pig. Great movie I thought too. But the truth be known I love bacon and egg toasted sandwiches! 🙂

    #93033
    Inky
    Participant

    Hold the egg and sandwich part and give me just the bacon please! LOL

    My DH loved the movie Babe so much that’s when I started calling him Babe!!

    #93037
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear All:

    You are all spoiling bacon for me… (attempted joke)- I really am having fun with this thread and appreciate the latest posts by all of you: Seaisland, Inky and jock! What a pleasure in the middle of this grey day!

    anita

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