Hi Silent Rossi

I would agree, honesty and communication are important in relationships. I think a partner with those traits sounds ideal. Perhaps you are too hard on yourself and you have a better understanding of what you would like in a romantic partner than you realised?

Regarding bullying from peers. Children and teenagers can be sociopathic. A lot of people mature in their 20s and 30s. There are some good people out there, I promise. I hope that on your quest to find a partner you meet some kind people that value compassion as much as you do.

Dear Silent Rossi:

In my first reply to you, after reading your original post, I wrote that there is a simple, straightforward, bare and rare honesty in your writing that I didn’t encounter before, no wishful thinking or fantasy, no rationalizations (convenient yet untrue explanations), no efforts to make yourself look better or worse than you are, and all with a touch of decency. Six of your posts later, and I feel proud of myself for getting it right: you really are these things I mentioned in my first reply, only that I see a heavier touch of decency now than I saw before.

Here is an amazingly honest and straightforward sentence in your recent post that sums up much of your philosophy of life so succinctly : “I think self-reliance is a virtue, and that putting any trust in a person has to be a well-observed and careful affair“. (I agree).

“I would be glad to continue chugging along in my own solitude, but I found out that this is not how human nature operates. And, well, we are all humans” – human nature is social, and there is nothing you (or I) can do to change this fact.

In regard to the title of your thread (Not good enough for any girl)- I disagree: I think that you are more than good enough for many girls because of all that I mentioned above, your intelligence, your emotional self-reliance and one more thing: there are women who do not want to be seen or treated as sexual creatures, they want to be seen as sexless, or asexual humans, they crave it and you would be rare find for such a girl who also cares about rare honesty, decency etc.

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anita

Dear Silent Rossi:

You are welcome and if you ever need to post again, on any topic (here or in a new thread), you are welcome to do so. My best wishes for you!

anita