Samantha,

Are you concerned if he is lying to you or not?  Or do you care more if he is drinking?  Or that you want him to weigh less?

My take is that it does not matter whether he loses weight or not if you like him the way he is now.  Or whether he is drinking less because you didn’t mind his drinking in the first place.

BUT if you do mind that he is heavy or if you do mind that he drinks a lot then that’s another issue.

Mark

Samantha,
I found your other postings especially about the one of your concern about your boyfriend’s drinking.

If you are going to stay with him then I encourage you to go to Al-anon.  This is a support group that have friends, family and loved ones who have an addict/alcoholic in their lives.  It will help you recognize that your worries and concerns are not unusually and what to do about them.

I take the approach that people are going to do what they are going to do no matter what I say or do, especially those who are addicts.  I cannot change them.  I can only change myself.  The person who is responsible to change is that person themself.  I am only responsible for me, not my partner.

I can only express my concern, love, and boundaries about what is acceptable.  I value clear and honest communication in all relationships.  It is up to you to decide how acceptable it is if your boyfriend lies about significant things that are against your core values and exhibits behavior that affects the relationship.

Mark

Are you interested in taking pills or something like that? I have heard juice or pills might work for you. all the best!