Hey Peter.

Thank youvery much. Anytime.

Desire, expectation, and wanting belong to the ego, which is nothing but an accumulation of thoughts. Nirvana is simply the dropping of all of them.

When this happens, only pure consciousness remains, just as before physical birth, in deep sleep, or after death.

In this recognition, it becomes clear that nothing has ever truly happened.

Yet the body and universe still appear. If the leg breaks, there is pain, but it belongs to no one—therefore, there is no suffering. The body is a perfectly functioning system: the breath flows on its own, the heart beats on its own, and the mind is astonishingly intelligent. All these systems harmonize effortlessly, with no need for interference.

Thus, consciousness, what you truly are—simply watches life through the body, like watching a film, knowing that the film itself is also made of consciousness.

Stillness is the absence of mental chatter—the ever-present silence, untouched and eternal.

Therefore, Stillness is the end of grasping. Grasping means reaching, clinging, holding to thought, desire, fear, or hope. When the grasp relaxes, mind becomes quiet, like an open hand.

Hi Allessa,

Thank you very much ❤️

Radical acceptance is not passive. It is the deepest strength.

When fear comes, you don’t resist it; you let it be seen.

When anger arises, you don’t judge it; you allow it to pass like a cloud.

Even danger, even uncertainty, welcomed without resistance, they lose their sting.

The paradox is: by accepting everything, the heart opens completely, and care flows naturally. You don’t “try” to care love, compassion, and right action simply arise.

As Rumi says: “This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. Welcome and entertain them all.”

Anytime Ms. Alessa,

Best Regards,

Dear Anita,

Radical Acceptance is not just about accepting situations outside of you, it’s about accepting what is happening inside you / your thoughts, emotions, fears, and impulses without resistance. It’s a full acknowledgment that life, including all feelings, is unfolding exactly as it is.

When I say, “When fear comes, you don’t resist it; you let it be seen,” what I mean is: notice the fear fully, without trying to push it away, judge it, or fix it. In practice, this looks like allowing yourself to feel the sensation of fear in the body, observing the racing thoughts, the tension, the urge to control without identifying with it. You don’t become “the fear”; you simply let it appear and pass through. Pure Consciousness itself watches, and the fear begins to lose its power because there is no resistance feeding it.

Similarly, “When anger arises, you don’t judge it; you allow it to pass like a cloud” means that you stay with the moment, letting the emotion move through your body and mind without clinging. The inner dialogue is simple: “This is here, it is happening, and it is passing.” There is no need to argue with it, suppress it, or attach meaning to it. Pure Consciousness supports the release because you see clearly that the anger is temporary, not you, and has no ground once you let it be.

As for “Even danger, even uncertainty, welcomed without resistance, they lose their sting,” the key is this: it’s not the external danger itself that you welcome, but the fear of it—the internal reaction. When you allow yourself to fully face that fear, without trying to flee, control, or resist, it transforms. The thinking that supports this is: “Everything that arises is part of life. I do not need to control what is happening. I can rest in Pure Consciousness, and the mind will respond naturally.” This radical openness turns fear into clarity, and tension into effortless presence.

In essence, radical acceptance is resting as
Pure Consciousness while life unfolds, allowing every feeling, thought, or uncertainty to rise and fall without clinging. In doing so, the ego loses its grip, and the mind and body act naturally, smoothly, and intelligently.

I hope it helps.

With love,

Dear Anita,

The instinct to flee danger is natural and built into the body, it’s a perfect protection mechanism. The body knows exactly how to react, often faster than thought or ego could intervene. You don’t need a “me” or “you” to manage survival; the body responds automatically, intelligently, and instantaneously.

For instance, imagine someone suddenly faces a car accident. In that moment, the body reacts immediately brakes, swerves, or jerks without any conscious thought or ego involvement. There is no “me” controlling it. Pure Consciousness simply is, and the body moves perfectly. Only after the event does the ego step in, saying: “I reacted quickly, I saved myself,” creating a story of ownership.

So when I say, “allow yourself to fully face that fear, without trying to flee,” I mean this: fear itself is just a sensation in the body and mind. You don’t need to resist it. You don’t need to overthink it. The body already knows what to do. What you welcome is the fear — the inner reaction — not the external danger. Pure Consciousness allows the fear to arise, and the body acts naturally, flawlessly, without interference.

The distinction is subtle but clear:

Reacting to real danger: the body acts instinctively. No “me” is involved. Life flows.

Resisting fear internally: the ego tries to control, anticipate, or avoid danger unnecessarily. That creates tension and suffering.

Therefore, When fear arises in response to actual danger, rest in Pure Consciousness and trust the body. It is perfectly equipped to protect itself. The ego only interferes after the fact, claiming credit or creating tension. Real skill in life is letting the body do what it is naturally designed to do, while your presence remains relaxed, spacious, and unattached.