I met a guy recently, we’ve become sort of friends I guess. He’s always talking about his relationships and primarily about beautiful women, he loves these perfect-faced women and he complains as how they’re not smart enough, etc., but can’t stop noticing them. I have always agreed on how beautiful they are but I honestly have never thought of love in such way, I don’t feel very pretty either even though I’ve dated some handsome men, but the people I’ve really fallen in love with have always been pretty standard, even not handsome at all.

I started feeling like I wanted him to like me and I realized where this came from and just dismissed it. But last week we were talking about these girls and I said, you know? I think you have ridiculously high standards in terms of beauty and you’ll never find love thinking like that. And he answered, “well, if that was my only concern I wouldn’t be here with you.”

OKAY. I asked him if he was telling me I was ugly, he said no, “but you’re just not one of them, I mean, you’re not *somegirl*, and I don’t get bothered when they don’t see me as Brad Pitt.” I kinda laughed with disgrace and he insisted on how he thought I was such a great girl and should not feel offended because he was not saying I was ugly and he had told my friends how he felt he could fall in love with me. Later he said that he thought that a combination of my brains and personality with *somegirl’s* face would be just the perfect & ideal woman. I answered him politely and said he was being truly offensive, that he should NEVER EVER again say that to a girl in his whole life especially because I was not comparing myself to anyone so I didn’t need some guy comparing me to other girls (which I could in all honesty find gorgeous myself) And I said: You know? If I were even close to liking you, you would’ve broken my heart. Good thing you didn’t pal!

I acted as some casual friend but truth is I’ve been thinking about this more than I should and bdaaagghh. Last week the guy seemed just a superficial friend, and now -why, I don’t get this- I feel almost grateful that he found me slightly attractive and a girl to fall in love with. What’s wrong with me?!!! I’m afraid I’ll treat this guy in a way he doesn’t even deserve to be treated. As a “pal”? Is this better than showing him this was offensive to me? My question is, how would you think of someone who said this to you? Would you even bother in showing him this is not cool? would you stop being friends or something? Or what would you say to yourself? In a way I really feel he’s just an idiot and I shouldn’t pay attention, but man… I’ve felt like he told me something I’ve felt my whole life: that guys don’t really find me that attractive, that guys like him would never date me but at least this one felt that I was great? Good grief.

Also I just broke up with my 4 year boyfriend, we were on long distance since january, so I guess that doesn’t help.