June 18, 2017 at 8:25 am #153824
I am an older lady who has for many years been crippled by shyness, couple that with very low self confidence due to having extensive facial scarring results in my inability to have close friendships. Casual contact with people is fine as I know I will probably not see them again but any longer than a few minutes and I want to run. Work is fine also as in my country we have very firm discrimination and anti bullying laws so people are naturally not prone to this sort of thing. Its the social side of the real world where my failure lies. So I was thinking that in this digital age I may be able to make some online friendships where I can chat and not be consumed by how the other person is seeing me. But where to start to look for such a thing?June 18, 2017 at 9:00 am #153838
I am glad you posted here and hope you find the information/ the connection you are looking for.
I think there are many opportunities to chat online with people based on shared interests, hobbies and such. I hope other members can give you such information. I am active only in this very website, tiny buddha. At the top of the Forums page here, it reads: “To Connect, Help, Share and Inspire”- so this is the objective of these Forums. My personal goal and passion is healing from emotional injuries and leading more functional, healthier, calmer life. Healing for me tightly connected to learning about people. The more I learn about other people, the more I understand myself… and the more I understand myself, the more I understand others.
If you share my interest as I stated it here, we can chat right here. You can also state your own interests and passions, so that I can see if there are other interests we share. Other members, reading your interests/ passions may find commonality and they may chat with you, based on shared interests. Or, other members may be more interested in connecting and chatting about anything and everything, nothing in particular.
anitaJune 18, 2017 at 1:12 pm #153866
I also don't like how I look and I am self-conscience around other people. I think we can all sense that times are changing. As someone said in another post I read, people don't seem to desire face-to-face interaction as much anymore. Everyone is on their smart phones and online, and it is this technology that is being created that is the future many of our children and grandchildren will be raised in. Things we couldn't even imagine growing up will be their reality. I think we can all do a lot of good if we realize this potential for either a lot more darkness or light online and then do what we can to make the world brighter for the future. I think you will find the more you focus on helping others, and especially the future, the more you will begin to love yourself and life more.
Online is cool because you can totally control the image you project to people, but it can also be sort of fake, too. Lately I have found a lot happiness in working on myself by identifying the things I do that make me happiest, and the people who make me unhappy, and doing more of the former, and being around less of the latter. Every day we can become better, especially if we know the person who we want to become. I only have a vague idea of this person now, but every time we improve we move closer to this person.June 18, 2017 at 1:32 pm #153872
Also, I just wanted to add awareness has really helped me get in touch with my spiritual side. I am not that good at meditating, but I find when I am able to string together five or ten breaths where I am continuously listening to sounds I become more clearheaded and balanced. I think balance is important, especially in spiritual progress. You can also learn a lot by reading. “Nothing Special” by Charlotte Joko Beck, “Radical Acceptance” by Tara Branch, and “The Art of Living” by Epictetus are some of the books that have helped me the most.June 18, 2017 at 4:01 pm #153880
Have you tried Facebook? If you create a profile on there, there are so many different groups with people of different interests. I met a lot of online friends that way.
I also like amateur photography and Google plus is a great way to meet people. You don't have to be a photographer to be on there. You can just post your favorite quotes or funny posts, many people do that. It's a fun social media site. Keep us posted.