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    Noor
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    Dear Readers,

    I have had really bad anxiety ever since I was sixteen which stems from childhood and domestic issues. I have gradually learned how to deal with it but usually when anything negative happens in my life then my anxiety gets worse. My worst habit is overthinking and creating countless “what if” scenarios, it becomes a vicious cycle where I no longer can enjoy my present. I am always thinking about the future or the past and it has taken away my ability to enjoy my life for what it is right now. I am currently living at home because of the pandemic and dealing with the difficulty of getting a job as a new graduate (my heart goes to all of you in a similar situation, times are certainly tough), as well as dealing with my very first breakup, which has escalated my chain of overthinking. I have learned some coping techniques in the past but lately, I feel all I do is worry about future problems that may not even happen….any advice on how to possibly reduce such chain of thoughts….?

    #360345
    anita
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    Dear Noor:

    I hope other members answer you as well, not just me (it has been slow here, fewer members reply than before).

    “Any advice on how to possibly reduce such chains of thoughts”?-

    1. A daily routine of exercise, including aerobic exercise such as a long, brisk walk outdoors.

    2. A daily routine of guided meditations, perhaps one in the morning, one in the afternoon and again, before bed. When I was first introduced to guided meditations, I didn’t like it, I was too anxious to slow down and relax. But once I overcome the initial resistance, and made it a daily routine, it helped me a lot. My therapist at the time (2011-13) introduced me to Mark Williams Mindfulness series of guided meditations, starting with the first, listening to it for a week or so, then proceeding to the second, etc.

    3. Incorporate other Mindfulness exercises to your daily routine. There are online resources (some on the home page of this website, point to BLOGS and scroll down to “MINDFULNESS AND PEACE”), and books, workbooks, magazines, all on Mindfulness. Also, traditional yoga and tai chi are excellent mindfulness practices.

    4. It may help if you share here about the “childhood and domestic issues” you mentioned. It used to help me a lot to talk or write/ type what troubled me. To feel comfortable about sharing private information, after you type away anything and everything that comes to mind, read what you typed so to remove identifying information such as names of people or of places, exact ages perhaps, etc. Or, if you don’t feel comfortable sharing here, do it off line.

    anita

     

    #360391
    Noor
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    Dear Anita,

    Thank you for sharing! I am going to focus on the meditation part as I have always wanted to try meditation but was just anxious and impatient to give it a start. I will try to start tomorrow and then take it from there. I do want to share some of the childhood and domestic issues but I think I will just take a little time before I can really open up about those things. I hope meditation will help me untangle some of those issues since my mind will be more clear.

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    anita
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    Dear Noor:

    You are welcome. I hope you do the meditation even though you will be “anxious and impatient to give it a start”. I was anxious and impatient too, but I was able to get into it and it was very helpful. Take your time regarding opening up more. When you do open up (or post here regarding your meditation practice, etc.), I will attentively read from you and reply.

    anita

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