She want to buys a to toy or key chain every week. My husband spoils her with all the toys.

Yeah I know. Thats what I tell my husband. Dont spoil her. I feel like such a bad mom. I dont know i give her all the cuddles. I say I love you to her everyday. I get triggered when she doesnt listen to me. Should I take her to a therapist  or should I go to therapy ?

Thats what I keep telling my husband. She should learn how to spend her alone time. She cannot go the neighbors house everyday or every weekend. I dont know why my husband gives in so easily. He has the typical indian mentality when it comes to parenting. May be because she is an only child. He keeps telling me that kids get bored and they need/want kids to play all the time. we take her to library and she talks to kids over there. We had a great time on Friday as a family. We went to out to ice cream, then chuck-e cheese, then had pizza. But after all that she wasnt happy.  No matter how much we do nothing is good enough for her. My husband prepares her lunch everyday. He cooks what she likes. She hasn’t been eating lunch for the past one year. She is wasting food since one year that triggers me a lot. She skips eating that food is spicy or its not spicy. I dont know how I deal with her at this point. I feel so lost. She throws a fit because she doesnt like spicy food. I add hell lot of butter to her food. I taste it before giving it to her and its not all spicy. She says she  has very less spice tolerance. If she wants a toy she will keep us nagging for half day. She doesnt want to brush her hair every day because its tangled. Every task we do is mundane for us. I dont know what’s going on her little brain. She is cute though and fun to be with. I love her a alot.

My husband tells me that setting rules will push away from us. She will become more rebellious.

That makes sense. My little one sometimes blames me that I put too many rules and I feel guilty about it. I have set a rule since  last year saying that she will not get screen time if she doesnt eat food. Its only during the weekdays. Sometimes she doesnt care about the consequences. Last week she did the same.

Hey Anita! How are you doing ?My friend texted me asking why I stopped talking to her. Last time when I asked her to set up a play date with her daughter. She said she wants to take her kid to the park with other group of friends. Since then I stopped talking to her altogether. I told her she is not putting in the efforts to meet us. Every time when we go out , we are inviting them but they are not joining us. She told me that the other group preplans everything as they keep meeting very often and we always call them in last minute. I have accepted the fact we call last minute sometimes but she doesnt even put in the effort. Before going to India I invited her for lunch the day before she said no. Then we set up play date with her daughter she showed up so late. I always feel like we are inviting them. I told her to stop expecting from me when you dont put the efforts. Then she got defensive and told me even I said no to her. Yes, I said no to her couple of times once I got periods and the other day my daughter was injured. Atleast I am not busy visiting other friends. I understand when says no to me everybody is busy with thier life. What pisses me off is the very next day she meets her other group of friends. One day she texted me asking me to send my daughter to her house as her other group of friends visited her unexpectedly. I feel like her priorities have changed. I have accepted the fact and moved on. But still she expects me to text her.