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  • November 4, 2024 at 1:02 pm #439143
    Zenith
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    Lol. She has zero knowledge about mental health or therapists.

    November 4, 2024 at 1:13 pm #439144
    anita
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    Dear Zenith: yes, you said something like this before. Well, I wish you and her saw some wise person from the Indian-Muslim community in your area, a religious counselor of sorts, and have the two of you sit together with him/ her to clarify and fix things!

    anita

    November 4, 2024 at 1:29 pm #439145
    Zenith
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    Thats not going to happen Anita. I have to learn to let go of people who dont care my about feelings.

    November 4, 2024 at 1:30 pm #439146
    Zenith
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    Sometimes I want to relocate to a different house so that I dont think about her anymore. It  feels like a friendship breakup which hit me hard this time. I had 2 friends who ignored me like this in the past few years I got over them. I dont know why this one feels tough. I have only one friend left in the city. I dont trust her anymore I know she would do the same. I just dont want anymore friends. My husband is only my best friend that I trust now. He is the best and I love him. I am spending more time with my daughter and husband. But sometimes I feel so empty that we are just 3 of us and dont have friends to hang out with. That feeling is so weird. Then I look at social media and feel bad that how come people have so many friends.

    November 4, 2024 at 1:50 pm #439147
    anita
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    Dear Zenith:

    “My husband is only my best friend that I trust now. He is the best and I love him. I am spending more time with my daughter and husband. But sometimes I feel so empty that we are just 3 of us“- I am glad that your husband is your best friend, this is a lot more than many women have. I do understand though that you need more: we are social beings with great social needs. I wish you did have a group of friends with whom you’d socialize a few days or evenings every week. It makes a big difference.

    I just looked it up, and wonder if IAMC (Indian American Muslim Council) can provide social+ opportunities for you..?

    anita

     

    November 4, 2024 at 1:55 pm #439149
    Zenith
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    lol. I am not ready yet. I do come to office everyday and talk to my colleagues. I get enough social interaction. May the empty feeling is just my OCD is guess.

    November 4, 2024 at 2:00 pm #439150
    anita
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    Dear Zenith:

    The Empty Feeling.. I remember how intense my empty feeling used to be, being as isolated and lonely as I was. Lots and lots of people suffer from that empty feeling. I hope it gets easier and better for you!

    anita

    November 4, 2024 at 2:07 pm #439151
    Zenith
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    How did you overcome that empty feeling ?

    November 4, 2024 at 2:12 pm #439152
    Zenith
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    I had that feeling when I suffered from  religious OCD. I feel like I am feeling the same exact like something is wrong with me or I am not complete blah blah.

    November 4, 2024 at 3:19 pm #439153
    anita
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    Dear Zenith:

    The intense, persistent feeling that “something is wrong with me“, that empty feeling, I stopped experiencing it when I stopped being loyal to the person who instilled this terrible empty feeling inside of me, when I turned my back to her and to her devastating teaching/ indoctrination (that there was something terribly wrong with me). In the context of me and her (I am referring to my mother), there was nothing wrong with me and everything wrong with her.

    When I am saying that there was nothing wrong with me, I don’t mean in any way that I was a perfect specimen physically or mentally. What I mean by it, is that my love for her was perfect. And she turned viciously against a little girl who loved her so. That she did just that, again and again for decades is something terribly wrong with her.

    In other words, I placed the original wrong- in my life- where it belongs.

    anita

    November 17, 2024 at 6:32 pm #439457
    anita
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    I hope you are well, Zenith!

    anita

    December 7, 2024 at 7:56 pm #440005
    anita
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    How are you, Zenith???

    anita

    December 9, 2024 at 12:59 pm #440038
    Zenith
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    Hey Anita, I am doing great. How are you doing ? I was thinking about you yesterday. I have made peace with my friend and  stopped expecting from her. We still meet for the sake of our kids. I dont want to get close again and get hurt. We went to Disney last week and had a wonderful time. My husbands brother came over so my little had a great time with her cousin. My little one is so cute and full of life. Once I came home from Disney , the other day I was crying thinking about how my little is growing up so fast. I feel like the days are going by so fast once started going to school since last year. On the other hand I am worried about getting old, retirement and old age. I am still in my mid thirties lol. Just thinking how lonely it would be. My kid will move out. I I hate being alone because of my anxiety. I feel good when I am surrounded by people.

    December 9, 2024 at 1:12 pm #440040
    anita
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    Dear Zenith: So good reading such a positive update! I will reply further when I am back to the computer later in the day.

    anita

    December 9, 2024 at 5:45 pm #440047
    anita
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    Dear Zenith:

    It’s great to read that you’re doing well and had a fun time at Disney! Spending time with family and seeing your little one so happy must have been wonderful. It sounds like you had a really nice trip to Disney. Family moments like these are special and create great memories.

    It’s normal to feel emotional about your child growing up. Those feelings of time passing quickly can be bittersweet.

    Good to read that you made peace with your friend. Setting boundaries is smart, especially if you don’t want to get hurt again. It’s good that you can still meet for your kids’ sake.

    Worrying about getting older is a common concern, even for someone in their mid-30s. At 35, many people reflect on the past and future goals. Even though 35  or so, is still young, some people start noticing physical changes, such as slower metabolism or the beginning of age-related health concerns.  Concerns about financial stability and planning for retirement can become more pronounced, and uncertainty of future economic conditions contribute to these worries.

    Maintaining and building strong social support networks becomes more important as people think about their future social life.

    I hope that you connect with reasonable and supportive people and find ways to manage your anxiety best you can.

    You’re doing great, and it’s okay to feel the way you do. Whenever you someone to talk to, I’m here.

    anita

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