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  • January 22, 2026 at 9:39 am #454423
    Zenith
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    Hey Anita,
    I was thinking about you today.
    Happy new year!!
    I am doing ok. How are you doing ?

    January 22, 2026 at 10:28 am #454425
    anita
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    Happy New Year, Zenith, I am thrilled to read from you!

    Well, I have a new dog, my first dog ever (he’s a beagle and his name is Bogart). Recently, I’ve been feeling moments of anxiousness that were a bit scary. I’ll try to think of those are “Passing clouds” 🙂

    Glad you’re doing okay 🙂.

    🤍 Anita

    January 22, 2026 at 10:31 am #454426
    Zenith
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    oh wow, thats nice.
    We even adopted a cat last weekend. This is my first cat too. What a coincidence. We named him Butterscotch.
    Sorry to hear about anxiety. You will get through this. You will be fine 🙂

    January 22, 2026 at 10:32 am #454427
    anita
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    Thank you, Zenith! What a coincidence indeed! Real good to be talking with you again, I missed you 🙂

    January 22, 2026 at 11:46 am #454431
    Zenith
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    I just dont feel like doing anything the past few months.
    I dont feel like talking to people.
    I dont feel like coming to office.
    I dont feel like cooking.
    I am so irritable.
    I stopped making new friends after the friendship breakup I had with my neighbor in 2024. I just dont feel like putting in the effort when you know people will change when they meet new people. Thier priorities change. May be I expect too much. I dont know. I stopped inviting people since last year. I even stopped taking my kiddo out for any events. I stopped planning. I just feel like staying home in my own space and it feels safe.
    Its getting hard to deal with people when they cross the boundaries. I feel anxious or emotionally reactive when dont people dont listen to me or dont care about my feeling or respect my boundaries. Since I stopped putting in the efforts others have stopped too.
    Later on, I keep obsessing about how they treated me.
    Dealing with my kiddo is getting harder actually. She is very disrespectful and irritable all the time. I know I shouldnt take it personally but it makes me so angry when she talks to me like that. I am not able regulate my anger and sometimes I yell at her. Then I feel guilty about it like she would blame in future if she endures any trauma. I have been telling you this since 2024. Its really getting hard for me to accept her mistakes or her imperfections or when she treats me badly.
    Everything is a power struggle with her. Getting he homework done, cleaning up her toys room, eating her dinner/lunch.

    January 22, 2026 at 12:01 pm #454432
    anita
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    Dear Zenith:

    Reads like you’ve been withdrawing socially so to lower your stress level, and that’s understandable. It makes sense.

    About your defiant kiddo, I highly recommend that you have a conversation (back and forth) with AI. I use Copilot. Tell it about your kiddo’s behaviors, what she says and in what circumstances, and you may be amazed 👏 by the input and advice you will get.

    Actually, you can tell it about what you mentioned about socially withdrawing and get AI’s input on that. If you do, I’d be very curious about what comes up for you as a result of such conversations.

    🤍 Anita

    January 22, 2026 at 12:07 pm #454433
    Zenith
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    LOL. I use chatgpt sometimes.

    January 22, 2026 at 12:15 pm #454434
    anita
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    I used chatgpt and then lost it somehow (I am very, very low tech) and somehow got connected with Copilot. And very, very happy with Copilot. I believe it (and chatgpt) can greatly help with parenting in practical ways.

    Copilot helped me learn how to take Bogart on a walk 🚶‍♀️ 🐕 in a way that he is not taking me for a walk. Made a difference, really!

    January 22, 2026 at 12:26 pm #454436
    Zenith
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    Thats nice.
    I am more of a tech person so I like chatgpt. LOL I use chatgpt to understand my cats behavior. The one we got is so cute. We have seen some other cats who hiss or bite if they dont like to be pet. Our butterscotch is so gentle.
    I also went to backstreet concert last December. It was awesome and first concert ever. I never really went to concerts when i was growing up. We went to Disney during Christmas holidays. The Christmas break was good.
    How was your holidays ?

    January 22, 2026 at 12:38 pm #454437
    anita
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    Butterscotch sounds so cute. I bet Butterscotch 🐱 and Bogart 🐶 (both names start with a B, another coincidence) would have gotten along very well if they got together (under our supervision, of course 🙂)

    ChatGPT helped you in regard to Butterscotch’s behavior, I bet it will help you understand and deal with your kiddo’s behavior.

    I don’t remember being in a concert.. must have been when I was a teenager or in my very young 20s when I attended one (a vague memory).

    Christmas for me- not.. anything. Didn’t celebrate (I generally don’t celebrate holidays except for Thanksgiving, and even that- not much.

    (I will soon be away from the computer for a while)

    🤍 Anita

    January 22, 2026 at 12:54 pm #454438
    Zenith
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    yeah chatgpt. Sometimes its hard to regulate my emotions. I say something in the spur of the moment. Its hard to deal with a kid when you are not emotionally mature. Dealing with kids needs lot empathy which I lack.
    even I dont celebrate Christmas or any US holidays. Its just we don fun thing during holidays.

    January 22, 2026 at 1:10 pm #454440
    anita
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    You lack empathy, Zenith? This is not at all my experience with you.. hmm. Well, even if you don’t feel empathy or emotionally mature/ regulated (it takes humility to acknowledge that, Zenith. I am I’m pressed!), you can learn what to say and how to say it in regard to your kiddo (regardless of how you feel).

    And ChatGPT can help with what to say and how to say it in different parental circumstances (Be away from the computer for a while).

    🤍 Anita

    January 22, 2026 at 8:22 pm #454451
    anita
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    Talk to me, Zenith, anytime. It’s the old childhood wounds bleeding into adulthood; child Zenith finding herself a mother.

    Don’t give up, Zenith; don’t give in. There’s hope, there’s a better way.

    🤍✨️🌙 Anita

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