Dear Kittycat100:

To understand better I ask:

When you wrote that you were “seeing a man”, do you mean dating? If so, for how long did you date him?

were you in an exclusive relationship with this man, that is in a relationship where you both expressed that he is the only man you are dating and he expressed that you are the only woman he is dating?

anita

Hi Kittycat100,

I’m sorry to hear what you are going through. Did he tell you he was intimate with these women, or was it rumors or gossip? Did he do this before he was seeing you exclusively. I once fell for a man at work..hard. They had a strict “no dating” policy. So, we just met up for drinks outside the office, went to dinner, movies. I was smitten. Then he asked me to a Christmas party. My friend was there. I introduced them and went to the bathroom. When I came out I could not find him. I went out to the balcony where they were drinking eggnog and slowdancing. I never spoke to him or my friend again..even though he said “it was nothing”. I swore I would never date a man I worked with. Too much awkwardness.

Hello dear,

Thank you for sharing your concerns. Your worries matter a lot to others, and I’m glad you opened up.

What I can suggest to you is now that you know of this man’s character, then steer clear of him. He gives you negative vibes now, does he not? I know this is simpler said than done, but know that it really is not worth it spending time thinking of him any further. Instead, think about yourself and the people who are more significant in your life like your family and friends.

He is now like a thorn that needs to be plucked off before it continues to hurt you any further. Nobody can help you except for yourself in moving on, but let me know what you feel because we all will be here to give you moral encouragement in this journey.

Lots of love,

Jun Na

You are welcome, Kittycat100. Post again, if you’d like.

anita