Dear Going Through Life:

“I’m glad to be your youngest friend here, maybe I can get you in touch with your younger side and you bring me in touch with my older side through our conversations. It will be wonderful experience.”- you are so positive!

Actually, I think that you have a lot to teach me about.. my older side. You come across to me as mature beyond your years!

“Rain and a warm cup of coffee always go hand in hand. Maybe you can utilise this time to focus on some of your other hobbies/work.”-

I am very much a creature of habit, following a daily routine, starting in the morning at the computer (tiny buddha), noon/ early afternoon- walking/ working as a volunteer, mostly outdoors (if it’s not raining hard), then socializing with people, then back home and repeat the next morning, 7 days a week, 365 days a year.

“I’ll be happy to listen to your problems and challenges if you want to share friend, maybe I’ll not be as wise as you in giving advice but I’ll happily be your listening ear.”- thank you 🙏

“But I’m intrigued where do you find your hope dear Anita?”- this morning, I find it in the no-rain, unexpected sunlight and blue skies! If it stays this way (dry), I will take my 3-mile walk, finding hope in the cool, fresh air and beautiful trees all around ☀️🌳🌲🌳🌲🌳🌲

Maybe I didn’t thank you before, but thank you dear Anita for being with me through my latest breakup, you were/are an upliftment in my life, I’m grateful.”- You are very kind, Going Through Life. Hope to read from you whenever you feel like talking to me!

🙂 Anita

Dear Going Through Life:

“I still inherently feel immature and need to build up more in the sense of my composure, integrity and aura. I need to become more masculine”-

I think that you have quite a solid foundation of Composure, Integrity, Aura and Masculinity (CIAM, if you will.. I like acronyms),so you have something solid to add to!

“what kind of volunteering work are you into if I may ask”- doing some work in regard to apple and pear trees (thousand and thousands of those), removing blackberries, collecting squash (recently, for a Fall festivity), organizing for social events (arranging tables and chairs, cleaning), and helping people in all kinds of physical ways (examples: setting booths for selling their products, placing squash in someone’s car, for the animals she raises- that was yesterday), being of service.

“And you’re building up on your social skills a lot by interacting with people throughout the year. That’s great to hear.”- thank you, and yes. It’s practice, a much needed practice, I’d say 🙂

“But Anita, what do you hope about in general? About life in general?”- if I dared to hope in this regard, it’d be for peace on earth, for the cessation of aggression, of people hurting people.

Tell me more about what you hope for..?

🤍 Your friend, Anita

Dear Going Through Life:

Almost a farmer, yes. This is a farming area, people growing potatoes, seed crops (growing things broccoli, brussels sprouts, cabbage) specifically for selling- not the vegetables, but the seeds, as well as lots of raising cows, goats (haven’t seen pigs around).

“Why do you say it’s a much needed practice?”- in regard to building/ developing social skills: it’s a much needed practice to me because I am learning that in communicating with people, way more important than Intent, is how my words and behaviors impact others. How they land. It’s about attuning not just to what’s happening within me, but to what’s happening inside other people.

“And this brings me to share with you that I have planned to take myself out on a short solo trip, I will stay in a hostel and maybe make new friends. I’ll be going to a place which is very close to my heart and it’s been calling me for some time now. Earlier SS and I planned to go there before all the drama happened.”- how exciting to hear (read)!

“You’re a gentle creature Anita, I also ask for everyone’s happiness when I’m praying to the god I believe in. I hope for everyone’s happiness, me, my family, my friends, their families and for everyone on earth. That’s my prayer ritual.”- thank you, Going Through Life, for a foundation of Composure, Integrity, Aura, Masculinity, and Kindness (CIAMK)

“On a side note, today was my first session of acne scar treatment, so my face is still swollen but I’m excited to see the results after a week or so. And I have also lost around 3 kg of weight, I’m on the right track. The only thing left behind is my studies, I have a very important exam in February 2026”-

I am excited at the thought of reading about your experience looking in the mirror after a week or so. Glad you’re on the right track, and hoping you will soon study for the exam three months from now.

“Anita, I still miss SS sometimes, thinking I could have done better, I should have shown up more and taken care of my avoidant attachment style.”- I wish she could or would have done better too..

“I miss her and I’m sad the SS I knew is no more. She’s just an image in my mind.”- I relate to this kind of sadness 😔

There will be a she in your life who will be more than an image.. a breathing, living, 3-D person 🙂(later, no rush).

Well, my day has been so far in front of the computer, will be out and about soon. I don’t know how it would be like. I’d love to tell you about it later.

🙂 🤍 Anita

Dear Going through Life:

I did very little volunteering work today and not much socializing, but feeling fine nonetheless.

“I think I need to read your message again and go through those feelings to solve them myself from the inside.”- please do and let me know what comes up for you..?

🤍 Anita