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October 7, 2025 at 3:41 pm #450670
GoingThroughLifeParticipantThank you for your response Anita
I don’t why girls are so immature dear Anita. Without any hesitation she just went out and did this and blamed the relationship for it. She had been betrayed so many times before and she did exactly that. I just want to feel better about myself and it just hurts, that she’s easily getting physical with someone else, someone who doesn’t even love her.
I don’t know if we are even meeting tomorrow. I just want to turn back time to the old days.
GoingThroughLife
October 7, 2025 at 6:45 pm #450673
anitaParticipantDear Going Through Life:
I am so sorry that you are hurting 😔
“she’s easily getting physical with someone else, someone who doesn’t even love her.”-
Do you love her enough to forgive her if she sincerely regrets it, if she was confused and troubled and feeling so alone at the time..?
🤍🌿 Anita
October 7, 2025 at 7:37 pm #450675GoingThroughLifeParticipantDear Anita,
Yes, I was ready to forgive her, but she never asked for my forgiveness, she never showed me remorse, never showed she loves me, came to meet me. What I mean she did not try to look for me even a bit. I’m the one who’s doing that. I’m very sad this came out to be the result, when I tried to love her for who she is apart from her quirks and short comings. We even got pregnant once, and I was there for her throughout, even I was scared and scarred.
We are meeting today Anita. I just miss her and our time together. Hope whatever happens I come out strong and happy. I’m trying to choose her out of love and passion, than fear. I’m ready to let go out of love rather than fear.
GoingThroughLife
October 7, 2025 at 8:02 pm #450676anitaParticipantDear Going Through Life:
“she never showed me remorse, never showed she loves me… just miss her and our time together”-
In your time together… she never showed she loved you.. ?
🤍🌿 Anita
October 7, 2025 at 8:08 pm #450678GoingThroughLifeParticipantDear Anita
In our time together she showed me a lot of love. Maybe I did not shows as much as I should have, but I was her rock for every important thing. I was referring to the time after I found out she kissed someone else in the previous message.
GoingThroughLife
October 7, 2025 at 8:09 pm #450679GoingThroughLifeParticipantI’m planning to talk to her if we can continue going on casual dates, as after a few months she will be moving to another city most probably. As I will be meeting her today, I hope you can guide and reply to my messages today dear Anita.
October 7, 2025 at 8:16 pm #450680anitaParticipantI will get back to you, Going Through Life, Wed morning- Tues evening here, yet it feels like night time (8:16 pm here). Back to you in the morning!
October 7, 2025 at 9:36 pm #450683GoingThroughLifeParticipantSure Anita.
We are not meeting today. We had our goodbye over text, she just wants to be left alone and she’s okay with the consequences. I think I need to move on now. I’ll cry, I’ll hurt, maybe I’ll find no one better or more fun, but I’ll have to move on. Push has come to shove.
October 8, 2025 at 9:42 am #450697GoingThroughLifeParticipantDear Anita, I hope you had a restful sleep.
I just wanted to let you know that I don’t want to talk about SS for the time being. I need to give myself distance from her and her memories and move on. I hope you won’t mention SS in the subsequent messages.
But I’m not closing our conversations, we can still talk about general guidance regarding my life, maybe I’ll ask for advice when I’m missing SS a lot, and maybe I can get to know more about you and your life or your day, ofc if you would like to share with me.
Hoping to hear from you soon friend.
GoingThroughLife
October 8, 2025 at 10:46 am #450702anitaParticipantDear Going Through Life:
Thank you for letting me know.. no mention, promise!
I just feel grateful for this precious opportunity to go Through Life alongside you 🙏🤍
About my life.. there are quite a few threads I started here in the forums where I shared about my life. I’d say my life is quite emotional.. a journey of healing and becoming more and more the person I want to be: attuned, caring, relational, healed in places I need healing.
🤍🌿 Anita
October 8, 2025 at 12:46 pm #450711GoingThroughLifeParticipantDear Anita. Thank you for understanding. It hurts how someone just changes so much soon, when you yourself did all you could in and out of the relationship, maybe I wasn’t the best at tending to her feelings, but at least I never betrayed her. Today is the first night without her and without me planning to text her at 3 am in the night and it’s hard. She wants to date other guys, I know she still has feelings because she was calling me by my pet name, last time I met her, and said baby and I love you, when I called her during panic attack. It’s sad how someone you love dies suddenly in front of you. I’m actually sleeping with my sister and mother to seek safety and comfort.
I’m glad to hear this about your life, only thing we can do is continue to grow and heal. I hope you keep getting healed and happy in your own journey of going through life Anita.
I miss SS. Maybe it’s just about time.
Hoping to hear from you soon friend.
GoingThroughLife
October 8, 2025 at 12:51 pm #450712GoingThroughLifeParticipantDear Anita.
Something else which hurts is that she chose to cheat on me, betray me like that, and after the breakup she went to that guy again. I’m afraid she’s gone forever now, she’ll just makeout with other guys to get over me fully. While I’m stuck her picking up the pieces. I don’t want to waste my precious short time feeling sad about such a girl.
October 8, 2025 at 7:30 pm #450719anitaParticipantDear Going Through Life:
I hear your pain, I hear your angst. I am glad you have your mother and sister to comfort you.
I think that the ship has sailed, so to speak, as far as she’s concerned.
Time to recover, time for a new beginning.
🤍🌿 Anita
October 8, 2025 at 10:55 pm #450722GoingThroughLifeParticipantDear Anita, I agree with you. As time passes i am becoming aware of the problems the relationship had, where we both were wrong and I am starting to forgive us both. I am opening myself to uncertainty again. It is the only constatnt. I have also realised she was not the one, or everything would have worked out. I have started to make space for something new and uncertain and unfamiliar.
Anita, I made a friend who maybe feels like a small brother, he his SS best friends boyfriend, i care about him, but there is something which is scared in me to lose him, maybe because of the memories we made together. We went on 2 couple trips together. I am hoping to start a new beginning with him too, maybe we can tranform our friendship to something else. Any guidance on the same friend Anita?
I have been working under my father for 2 weeks now, it feels safe, he is guiding me, like i always wanted. I took a loop of faith out of intution, fear and faith. I hope everything works out in my career too.
Hoping to hear from you soon
Goingthroughlife
October 8, 2025 at 10:58 pm #450723GoingThroughLifeParticipantsorry i meant ex boyfriend, we both broke up together, as we both found out our partners cheated on us together and that too from each other.
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