Dear Going Through Life:

I am glad that you feel safe working under your father and that he is guiding you like you always wanted 🙂

Also, I am 🙂 that you are starting to forgive her and yourself, particularly yourself. You deserve peace in your heart and forgiving yourself for all past mistakes while holding yourself accountable for your behaviors today is the way to go.

And I am 🙂 that you are opening yourself to new possibilities.

In regard to one such new possibility, a romantic one with SS’s ex-boyfriend, I’d say- don’t rush anything, go slow, one step at a time. I’m saying this because the fear of being alone and the need for comfort can cause a person to rush: to feel too much, too soon, without getting to know the person well enough. And as a result, to act too soon.

I think that you need a partner who you can trust, particularly one who is very unlikely to cheat on you. Getting to know the person in this regard before investing emotionally too much will be very helpful.

I wonder how he feels about his experience of being cheated on. Talking about it more (if you already talked about it) will give you information in regard to shared values/ compatibility on this important matter.

🤍🌈🌿 Anita

Dear Going Through Life:

Got you, in regard to terms of a platonic relationship with SS’s friend’s ex-boyfriend. I hope that a deeper friendship does develop 🙂

You do deserve trust and integrity, and these must be the cornerstones of your relationships, platonic or otherwise!

🤍🌿 Anita

You are very welcome, Going Through Life. No doubt you need someone you can fully trust, we all need such a person in our lives.. someone- however imperfect (no one is)- someone we can trust.

🤍🌿 Anita