Thank you Angela for the reminder, as a single parent myself I am very much committed to self care so that I can be the best Mother for my precious little soul, who is 3 years old.

Also I believe in leading by example and nurturing a generation that is aware of the benefits of self care, and knowing that this is not selfish. At times it seems like I am doing a million things at once and not doing them particularly well, self care is also the ability to be kind to ourselves with our thoughts, our words and our actions.

My son does spend quite a lot of time with his Dad so I am blessed with the gift of time and the opportunity to turn that precious time into self care. I am very careful to select only activities that nourish my soul during that time, and I have become very good at saying NO and only spending time with the people who nourish my soul.

That’s a really good point. I don’t want my child letting himself get run down, overextending himself, neglecting his needs. Thinking of it as setting an example is very helpful.

Now I am enlightened… This topic change my perspective.People always think that loving yourself first is selfishness. And I believed it. Analyzing this point now made me realize that what majorities view is not always the right one.

Thank you for the reminder! I have found that it’s important to remember that we are all a part of humanity. There is no “us” and “others.” That’s a ridiculous way to split people into groups! We’re not alone in a group of one.

This past winter was one of the darkest times I had ever faced. I needed to spend a lot of time taking care of myself, and soul-searching. I had to examine my deepest held beliefs about myself, and about life. (I had been in an abusive friendship as a teenager, and was still spending most of my waking hours beating up on myself. These beliefs and thoughts led to me spending 10 years in a very unhappy work situation, which was slowly destroying me. Things really came to a head in January, as my situation worsened). I used to feel really bad, because I didn’t give my daughter (who has autism) very much attention during this time. In fact, I didn’t pay much attention to my husband either.

But, I’ve realized that the priority at that time was that I was OK. If I had stayed in that situation, especially with the negative thought patterns, I don’t believe that I would have survived. I needed to give myself all of my energy at that time, and I needed to seek support. Neglecting my family, for myself, at that time was not selfish. They needed me to be all right, and to lead them into the changes that we ultimately made. (I quit my job, we signed the house over to the bank, and took the few possessions we kept, 1200 miles south, to start a new life in the city).

spent some time for ur self like hobbydo thing which u like most .u can also spend time with ur children and enjoy doing thing together. take care of ur financial resources .make plannd take decision .be assertive and polite