Self-forgiveness

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September 10, 2016 at 3:39 pm #114845

Tammy
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Hi,

I have been going through the battle for being unable to forgive myself for my past mistakes. I have put myself so down that I question whether I am a good person or not. I was an arrogant person in the past and I have also made mistakes in terms of boys. My arrogance was a hard thing for me to accept and I still think it makes me a bad person. I just wanted to ask advice on how to practice self-forgiveness.

Thank you 🙂

September 10, 2016 at 5:35 pm #114857

Anonymous
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Dear tammy9125:

The mistakes you need forgiveness, the arrogance you mentioned: how many years of mistakes and arrogance do you need (your own) forgiveness for?

How long have you felt that you are a bad person?

I need to know about how old you are and the answers to the above so to get a beginning- understanding of the nature of the forgiveness that you need.

anita

September 10, 2016 at 6:48 pm #114870

Livelovelifeeleni HappyMotivation, Advice, Outreach & LifeCoaching
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Hi beautiful ngel you keep growing and learning dont let the past tie with who u are. Yeah u made mistakes we all did but its about how u deal and letting go and what u will do after. You are a kinder person now so mission accomplished U DOING GRRAT5. SO PROID OF U REALLY, yourr gonna do just fine . Remmeber fovus on your happiness comparing and crititzing ovranaalzying steals joy and u dont eant that so everytime u feel need to analyxe be like thisnonly puts me doen this doesnt serve me any good, i learnt from mistakes i am a good person, you help peoplr and u matter. U are a good person we love u keep telling urself this and focus on ur daily happiness Love Leni ♡Livelovelifeleni Positivity&Motivation ♡ forgive yourself because u are a good person u are human u learned and u deserve kindness alwlays so start with u too

September 10, 2016 at 7:17 pm #114878

VJ
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Dear tammy9125,

A best practice for self-forgiveness is the ancient Hawaiian technique of Ho’oponopono
It’s a simple technique and I have explained it here. Check for point No 1) of this post-
(http://tinybuddha.com/topic/i-can-not-live-normal-anymore-i-can-not-accept-it/#post-113485)

I’M SORRY – PLEASE FORGIVE ME – THANK YOU – I LOVE YOU

Do it with as much feeling as you can while saying those. But don’t worry much about getting the feeling part right. In that case simply do it.

Take care,
VJ

September 11, 2016 at 2:50 am #114909

Sann
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Hi Tammy 9125,

We are all humans and we all need to learn things in our life, and we all make mistakes and sometimes take on attitudes that are not the most helpful. I don’t know if we are ‘good’ persons or ‘bad’ persons. We are just persons that sometimes do good things and sometimes do bad things – or things who are labelled in such way.

Would you like to tell us about the way you were arrogant? And do you have an idea why, for exampe, were you trying to meet certain needs within yourself, did you learn it at some point?
If you don’t like to answer here, maybe it could help you to look at this for yourself.

September 11, 2016 at 4:41 am #114914

John Coppin
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Hi Tammy. I am not going ‘religious’ on you’ but the words “Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive others who trespass against us” comes to mind. If by arrogance you mean being assertive then that is no bad thing especially in a woman. But arrogance in the sense of always being right and riding roughshod over others is not good.
I don’t honestly think you are that kind of person, and may be beating yourself up without cause. We all say and do things we may regret and if we can make amends and feel we need to apologise then we should. But you must not believe YOU are always in the wrong. Sometimes it may harm being done to you. Only you will know that.
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