I was not sure which forum this would fit in and decided on this one.

I have seen the same therapist since 2022. I like her and do feel she has helped me. I’m at the point now where I make an appointment when I feel the need to check in or am going through something in particular. I had a session Wednesday and something she said has really bothered me. I was telling her about a situation with my nephew and his now ex-girlfriend (they were together 4 years) that triggered a reaction in me due to my own past trauma in a bad marriage and his ex-girlfriend and I are close. My nephew emotionally cheated on his ex-girlfriend and the way he broke it off with her was unkind, to say the least. My nephew immediately went into a relationship with this other woman. I have worked through it by reminding myself that it’s not my pain. I was telling my therapist that I had a lot of anger and disappointment toward my nephew that I journaled about and worked through but for my own well-being I’m just taking a break from my nephew and am not reaching out as I usually would. What my therapist said that is just not sitting well is…”shame on you for judging your nephew.” Ouch. She went on to say I don’t know his side. He may have been very unhappy, the relationship wasn’t fulfilling his needs or desire, etc. I understand all that and I agree. My judgement was harsh because it based on my own past relationship where my ex cheated (physically cheated), left our marriage and got into an immediate relationship with someone else. BUT…her saying “shame on me…” seems wrong especially as a mental health professional. She did try to back pedal by saying she didn’t actually mean shame but the words were already said.

I didn’t say anything in the session (my protective instinct is to shut down) and am unsure how to proceed. As I said I don’t see her regularly anymore just when the need arises. Part of me wants to make another appointment to talk about this but then I don’t want to spend the money on a session just for that.

Am I overreacting to her choice of words?

Thanks in advance for your opinion.