Hi Network7

After reading your 7 posts on different forum topics started in the last 2 months by yourself suggest one thing to me : no one on TB forum seems to be understanding your issues or the answer that you seek is not being provided by anyone on the forum. Either way, it is a difficult situation that you are facing. My personal experience tells me that unless you change your mindset from “WHY” to “HOW”, there is no one who will be able to assist you to get out of the situation you find yourself in many arenas of your existence.

“Why me, why that, why this ?” etc needs to become “How can I change things around for myself” . When you do that, I assure you that the universal forces will come together and assist you in changing your circumstances for the better. If you don’t believe me, why don’t you try it ?

Many a times we get stuck in the rut as it becomes easier to blame everything and everyone around us rather than take responsibility for our own life or actions. Sometimes, there is a pay off for staying in such circumstances such as getting sympathy from people or a need to feel like a victim. If you are purely attention seeking or need to kill time on TB then I rest my case here. However, if you are serious about changing your life for the better then I recommend that you take some time out of your schedule to listen to BK Shivani once. Like yourself, she is an Indian and you will be able to relate to her as she is a professional as well. She is a young and vibrant spiritual teacher who travels widely across the world to help people out with deciphering life’s dilemmas in a simple manner. She also teaches meditation but doesn’t follow any particular religion or faith. I think that if her simplicity resonates with yourself then you won’t need to ask anyone else for help with anything ever. You can upload her videos on you tube and you can google her as well if it makes it easier for you.

Good luck and I sincerely hope that you will take an action to bring more positivity in your life. Do remember that the more times that we write a negative life story on paper or on forums, the more difficult it becomes to initiate a positive change in life as we start to form a neuropathway of miseries in the subconscious brain and then that belief system becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Blessings

Jasmine

@minismita

No worries. I will be happy to hear your good news in a little while. You are worth it 🙂

J

Don’t for a moment believe that everyone has it figured out and control of their life but you. Very few people do. Most people just haven’t given it that much thought yet. When they do, later in life, they often get a bit of a shock. Not that this should matter to you. As long as you measure yourself against others you will never be happy. Your happiness is not determined by how well you are doing or whether you have the things that society says you should have.

It is said that the guys who get along best with women are the guys who can get along without them. It’s so true on so many levels. And I think it applies to more than just relationships. I suspect you can’t get the things you want from life until you learn to live happily without them.

Stop being so hard on yourself. Stop berating yourself for the things you don’t have, and start congratulating yourself for your good qualities and the good things you have done. Anyone who matters isn’t judging you based on your career, or whether you are married or have kids. What matters is your smile, your humour, your warmth, your empathy. I can sense from your few words that you have no lack of those. Once you truly learn to believe in yourself, everything will start to fall into place.

@anoor413 Thanks Batman for your kind words. You have obviously come out of your darker moments and emerged stronger and brighter 🙂 Now you are able to share your light with the rest, which hopefully @minismita will be able to do shortly too. I understand that you are a student of medicine – practicing student or a real student? Unfortunately, learning never stops either in medicine or in this life, eh ? lol. I hope that you are practicing meditation everyday to charge your battery. You must come in contact with so many different types of energies and they will always try to deplete you but meditation will keep you on top of them. May you be the healer that you wish to be today and always. Lots of positive energy,
Jasmine

@jasmine-3

I would never claim to have all the answers. All I can do is tell you about my life situations that in a way mirror yours.

I felt like a loser at age 26 because I had dropped out of college whereas all my friends has graduated and started working in their careers. I was working at a restaurant and was desperately unhappy and depressed, not knowing what to do with my life.

The answer for me, was just to start doing something. Whenever I have waited around for life to come knocking at my door, providing me with the perfect job, boyfriend, or life purpose, I have been sorely disappointed. I started out finding a good therapist. I have always had a lot of on-going, negative, dialogue running through my head (thanks to an abusive domineering mother) and I needed a positive person to show me a healthier way to self-talk. I have also been on and off anti-depressants for years, which have helped.

When I felt stronger, I started college again, quite successfully, and graduated at age 29. But I had to get over the negative label I gave myself about being an “older student.” After that, I worked many different jobs, some successfully and some not so successfully. I married at 32, had a child at 35, lost $100,000 from my husband’s poor investment strategies, and divorced at age 48. At age 51, I’ve been working on getting a secondary teaching credential. Talk about being older than everyone else! The other people in my program are an average age of 25!

So what’s the point of all my ramblings? Recognize the negative labels you apply to your life, consider the idea that you might be clinically depressed, find support, and then go out into the world and do something…anything. Don’t wait for some divine inspiration. And don’t be fooled by the people around you that appear to have their lives completely together. They don’t. And anyway, in a millisecond, loved ones can die, fortunes are lost, and we are again forced to start over again with nothing.

I would never claim to have all the answers. All I can do is tell you about my life situations that in a way mirror yours.

I felt like a loser at age 26 because I had dropped out of college whereas all my friends has graduated and started working in their careers. I was working at a restaurant and was desperately unhappy and depressed, not knowing what to do with my life.

The answer for me, was just to start doing something. Whenever I have waited around for life to come knocking at my door, providing me with the perfect job, boyfriend, or life purpose, I have been sorely disappointed. I started out finding a good therapist. I have always had a lot of on-going, negative, dialogue running through my head (thanks to an abusive domineering mother) and I needed a positive person to show me a healthier way to self-talk. I have also been on and off anti-depressants for years, which have helped.

When I felt stronger, I started college again, quite successfully, and graduated at age 29. But I had to get over the negative label I gave myself about being an “older student.” After that, I worked many different jobs, some successfully and some not so successfully. I married at 32, had a child at 35, lost $100,000 from my husband’s poor investment strategies, and divorced at age 48. At age 51, I’ve been working on getting a secondary teaching credential. Talk about being older than everyone else! The other people in my program are an average age of 25!

So what’s the point of all my ramblings? Recognize the negative labels you apply to your life, consider the idea that you might be clinically depressed, find support, and then go out into the world and do something…anything. Don’t wait for some divine inspiration. And don’t be fooled by the people around you that appear to have their lives completely together. They don’t. And anyway, in a millisecond, loved ones can die, fortunes are lost, and we are again forced to start over again with nothing.