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  • #450128
    Tom
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    Hi Anita,

    Yes, i will try and do this and continue to be myself. I have always tried to do this where i can and have always treated people with respect and how I would like to be treated since the day I joined.

    #450136
    anita
    Participant

    You are a good man, a good person, Tom. I just wish you’d feel somewhat comfortable in the work context, at least at times.

    🌿 🤍 Anita

    #450199
    Tom
    Participant

    Thanks Anita,

    I head away with work next week to Singapore so anxious about that as a long way and different time zone to my partner back home. As always, I will do my best.

    #450221
    anita
    Participant

    You are very welcome, Tom, and thank you for always doing your best!

    If you can think of something positively exciting about visiting Singapore, a certain sightseeing location perhaps.. certain foods to try, maybe there’ll be something positive to look forward to regarding the trip..?

    🌿 🤍 Anita

    #450376
    Tom
    Participant

    Hi Anita,

    Yes, I will try and enjoy any aspect of it i can and it’s a new country that I have not been too before. I do worry about not interacting too much when there as i have no real allys as mentioned above but I will do what I can and do my best.

    #450380
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Tom:

    You might enjoy Singapore Botanic Gardens (so I read), or St. John’s Island or Lazarus Island: accessible by ferry, these offshore escapes offer peaceful beaches and walking trails. Great for a day of solitude with the possibility of light interaction with fellow nature lovers.

    You might enjoy quiet cafes, tucked-away cafés perfect for solo brunches or reading. Maybe The Book Café or Kreams Krafthouse for their cozy ambiance. (.. So, I read)- these are the things I would enjoy if I was there.

    🕊️🙂 Anita

    #450446
    Tom
    Participant

    Hi Anita,

    Yes, I will try and explore a little. I arrived last night, guess what I don’t like is that the trips aren’t as organzied as I’m used to with a planned schedule etc. I have a few tasks to do here but not tons etc and it makes me miss home

    #450447
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Tom:

    You posted the above on Oct 1, 10:19 am, Singapore time, right?

    Only 25 min ago..

    You’ll make it through, Tom. Try to make the best of it. Focus on the positives…And post here, anytime you feel like it. I am here!

    🌿 🤍 Anita (Sept 30, 7:44 pm here, U.S.)

    #450487
    Tom
    Participant

    Hi Anita,

    Yes, it was Singapore time on my post. I am here now until Saturday.
    Am doing my best and trying to do what I can and stay positive while here even through the uncertainty and lack of structure.

    #450499
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Tom:

    In the absence of structure in the external, work context, it can help to rely on structure in the internal, personal context, things like taking a walk every day at about the same time, maybe at the same location.. keeping a routine of doing the same things every day, as well as maybe repeating a mantra first thing in the morning, every day, such as “I am strong. I am capable”.

    It’ll be Saturday soon enough. Please take good care of yourself!

    🌿 🤍 Anita

    #450583
    Tom
    Participant

    Hi Anita,

    The trip is over and I am returning back to the UK (arriving Monday AM). I then go away again tuesday – thursday just in Europe this time ahead of a big work presentation on Friday in the UK to 100+ people. This is something i have never done on this scale before and i haven’t really had time to prepare due to the travel etc. If i felt prepared, I feel like I would feel ok about this but i’m anxious due to lack of prep. I will try and do what I can this week to get ready but will be tricky with the travel again.

    I will likely write again in the build up and hope i will feel better come next week when a little bit of normality will return to my schedule.

    #450609
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Tom:

    You must be in the UK by now. I hope you arrived safely!

    Wow, that’s impressive, a presentation in front of 100+ people!

    I can understand you feeling anxious over not feeling prepared.

    The Serenity Prayer: God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change (feeling unprepared, not being able to prepare as much as you’d like to prepare), the courage to change the things I can (get prepared as much as possible, practice presenting), and the wisdom to know the difference”..?

    🌿 🤍 Anita

    #450698
    Tom
    Participant

    Thanks Anita,

    I am trying to prepare but away again until late Thursday and the presentation is Friday so very tricky.

    I will do more later and on plane home tomorrow if I can. I will do my best and at the end of the day, that is all I can do.

    #450704
    anita
    Participant

    You are welcome, Tom!

    “I will do my best and at the end of the day, that is all I can do.”-

    I will add to the above: sincerely, Tom:

    Your best is good enough. Please let this truth sink in 💡

    🌿 🤍 Anita

    #450737
    Tom
    Participant

    Thanks Anita,

    I needed to hear that, today has been a tough day with quite a few issues that have made me doubt myself even more. I am waiting at the airport now, will hopefully have a good sleep when home tonight and then do my best tomorrow and hope it goes well.

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