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  • January 16, 2014 at 8:48 pm #49249
    Ireland
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    Can someone please help me,, I feel like I am a nobody, and am taking up space that could be used for someone else,I am alone day in and day out,, I am overeating,, to fill the emptiness,, No matter what i try to do , it is never enough,, I am angry alot of the time,, and i am a cutter,, people are always taking advantage of my kindness, //stealing from me,, please let me know that someone hears my cries

    February 16, 2014 at 1:59 pm #51110
    Matt
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    Ireland,

    I hear you, friend. Sometimes those around us are unkind, and we have to find out how to be kind to ourselves and others. It can be tricky. Have you tried talking to a school counselor? It can often help to find an ally, someone that can help us figure out the pieces. Feel free to post more here at tinybuddha, but something face to face may be more helpful for you.

    I hope you find peace.

    With warmth,
    Matt

    February 22, 2014 at 6:10 pm #51548
    Eddie
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    Hello Ireland,

    I hear you, i understand what you’re saying.

    It sounds like you have a bunch of things going on in your life right now, the loneliness and the over-eating, and the cutting, but i want to tell you that you are a beautiful, unique and valuable person, i want you to realise this, you ARE somebody, and you’re not taking up anyone elses space, you are taking up the space you have every right to take up, and that’s your own space.

    I think the over-eating and the cutting may stem from your loneliness, i’m lonely too in a way but it’s not a situation that we have to accept, if we want to we can join any local group that gets together to share a hobby, yeah it’s scary, but it beats being alone.

    If you can, seek advice from your doctor, i did and it helped me, with regard to those people that treated you badly, don’t give them any more thought, i know it’s hard, thoughts come to us, but make a conscious decision and let those people go, let them out of your life and out of your thoughts, you have your own life to lead, your own future to make and new people to meet.

    Lastly, love yourself, have mercy on yourself, be good to yourself, you deserve your own love as much as anyone else on the planet, you must realise Ireland, you are worth so much.

    A strong hug for you,

    Eddie.

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    February 22, 2014 at 10:02 pm #51551
    The Ruminant
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    You’re not taking up space. I’ve had those same thoughts, and it’s just an illusion. You get stuck in that kind of thinking pattern and somehow believe it to be true, but still there’s at least this small voice that says that it’s not true… And it really isn’t.

    Seek help and be kind to yourself. One of the best advices I ever got was to stop all negative self-talk. Even if that thought starts that you’re this or that, just stop the words. You don’t need to hear them. That stops giving them power and you get a bit of peace and tranquility from the self-destructive thoughts. Also, it’s not just others that should hear your cries for help. You have to hear it yourself as well, be compassionate towards yourself and protect yourself!

    There is hope and you definitely can change everything, but that is the key: you are the one who changes how you talk to yourself and how you treat yourself. It’s not about other people. We tend to gravitate towards the people we think we deserve. You deserve much better, and we know it, but you have to believe it yourself first.

    Everything is going to be OK.

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