August 11, 2014 at 7:23 am #63078
Recently I’ve gotten my second tat(a Chinese symbol representing happiness) since that’s how my life has been feeling lately, and I wanted to have a reminder everyday so I can focus on what’s important; my ambitions, my quality of life, my happiness. Anyways, I know that my mom hates tattoos with a passion and when I showed her the new one, she was pretty ticked off. I laughed it off since I was expecting it but I’ll continue getting more which brings me to my question. I would like for her to have a change of heart towards them because I don’t want to be the reason my mother has her first heart attack haha. I wanted to dedicate one for her and I’m coming here for suggestions. I want a symbol of a strong woman, mother, anything that represents what my mom is and how much I appreciate her. Something more than a birth date, but not a portrait either, because these tattoos are free since it’s an apprentice doing them. I know I’m pretty crazy for letting someone practice on me but I have faith in this artist. It kinda has to be basic so that’s why I’m asking for a symbol. I see the body as a work of art(reason why I’m posting this thread here) and I want to fill my body with positive and meaningful tattoos so I would appreciate some suggestions if anyone has any.
August 11, 2014 at 8:13 am #63083MattParticipant
- This topic was modified 8 years, 1 month ago by Vic.
If you wish to honor your mother, consider giving her a gift that she’d like, rather than giving her a gift to try to change her. Maybe you could dedicate a patch of skin to her that you will never tattoo.August 11, 2014 at 8:19 am #63086The RuminantParticipant
My suggestion would be to not do it. I’m someone who hates tattoos, and if someone I loved would dedicate one for me, I would be so angry that I can’t even begin to describe it… How on earth would it change her opinion on it that you would dedicate one for her? What’s for Christmas? Running over her pet?
I know this sounds harsh (even after I took out all the really mean words), but I really want to describe how someone who hates tattoos feels about them.August 11, 2014 at 6:00 pm #63125Big blueParticipant
It’s good to express yourself. However, if your mom does not like tattoos and you’re going ahead with a “MOM” tattoo anyway, maybe you need to ask yourself why.
Another good question would be why she does not like tattoos, do you know?
If you want to get her on this, how about getting MOM done up as a temporary tattoo? If she screams and yells “Fourteen hours I’m in labor to bring you into this world and this is my birthday present from you?” then wash it off in front of her right there. If she says “I thought I’d never say this, but that doesn’t look half bad,” then ask for her preferences on color, etc. and have it made permanent.
Lastly, what would be a nice gift that she would like? Get her a nice gift – as a backup plan.
(Full disclosure, I am running at v55 of my operating system and, alas, I am still not “tattoo-compatible.” Looking ahead, I have a new release coming out this year and tattoos are not in the plan.)
Big blueAugust 12, 2014 at 6:42 am #63171
Hahaha, you guys made me laugh. I guess this was one of those ideas that sounded really good in my head but was just the opposite in reality. I see what you guys mean and I’ve reconsidered my initial idea because of it, it’s the thought that counts right? lol. I didn’t really think it out much, I just love em so much I wanted to share one with her but I’m going to go with Big Blue’s recommendation of the temporary and gift. Thanks to everyone for helping correct my fool of a mind! 🙂August 12, 2014 at 8:41 am #63180rosamundiParticipant
Maybe think again about the temporary one. I’m not saying definitely don’t do it, but maybe look at it like this.
If one of my daughters did that, I wouldn’t be self-controlled enough to lie and say “I thought I’d never say this, but that doesn’t look half bad,” but many (maybe most) mothers would. And their sons/daughters would never know just how upset they felt inside.
As I can be rather volatile, I’d probably come out with something mean that I’d deeply regret later, about how upset I was, and how selfish to think that I’d appreciate it etc etc which would be impossible to really take back even if the temporary tattoo was washed off. I also hate being misled, so I’d be very upset that I’d been tricked into thinking it was real. Maybe more my problem, but relationship-damaging all the same. (And I’d probably see the gift as trying to buy my approval, which is what it’s for really, isn’t it?) Yes, I need to chill a bit more.
As you said, it’s the thought that counts. Is the thought about how much you love tattoos, or how much you love your mum? Talking to her about why she feels upset by them, and maybe giving her time to reconsider and see why they mean so much to you and that you would like to dedicate one to her, might be a much gentler way to show her what she means to you, and she might well change her mind given time. (I’m not keen on tattoos and luckily neither of my daughters are either, but if they changed their minds, and I knew it meant a lot to them, I’m sure I’d come round eventually.)
Hope things work out happily for you and your mum.August 12, 2014 at 12:58 pm #63207
rosamundi, I get where you’re coming from. You’ve brought up some valid points and questions like, Am I doing it for myself or for my mom? Good intentions were there but maybe I am being a bit too selfish. I will take the even safer approach and talk to her first.
Thank you for your kind and wise words 🙂August 12, 2014 at 1:38 pm #63213Big blueParticipant
Yay!! 🙂August 18, 2014 at 5:53 am #63569rosamundiParticipant
I’m so glad you read my comments constructively. 🙂