Hello everyone,

I need your advice, I am sure  I know the answers but I have been struggling with a sad situation.

I work in a international company, I got together with a colleague that at that moment only had a girlfriend – was already divorced- and moved to my country. I helped him as I was the only one that speaks his language and we got friends really fast. He is 22 years older than me… we had a real talk after 4 months of being hooking up, about our feelings.

One year after he got married with his girlfriend -claiming visa issues.

I still had something going on with him… that was for 3 years and then his wife moved back to his country and we started living together – well for 4 months as he also had to moved back to his residence country, his contract was finished.

We had the most funny months, we realize that we understand each other very good, we loved each other but anyway I never understand why he could not finish his marriage to be with me. Now he is gone and I am really sad…. I am not sure if it´s correct to keep contact with him, of course it was always a relation with ups and downs, because I felt in 2nd position.

I know now with distance it is easier to move on, but everything here reminds me of him… I miss him.