The pain of loving someone you can't have.

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July 22, 2014 at 3:04 am #61466

yogabunny
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http://www.gettheguy.co.uk
Just saying!

July 24, 2014 at 11:42 pm #61716

NehaMehra
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Well the story that you said is something i went through. Damn girl, the feelings that you are going through will drain you in such a way that you will lose yourself . First of all sweetheart you are head over heels in love with that guy and that is true love but but but the reality is- YOU CANNOT HAVE THAT GUY because he is in a relationship with someone for years.
He msgs you and stares at you because he is bored of his relationship, if he really liked you, he would have ended his relationship with his girl but he didn’t so he is just playing around because you are like a toy to him. Every word you mentioned i can relate to you because the exact situation has happened to me and my ending was pretty rough so from my experience i would suggest you to not waste your time and focus on yourself and move on because the relationship with your PT won’t have any future. You are young and beautiful,i bet you are good soul that’s why he loves talking to you and that means you can get much better than that guy. It will hurt for a while when you will move on but eventually you will and don’t forget to read this, it will help you out – http://www.sevenswag.com/6-truths-about-love-that-every-girl-should-know/

July 24, 2014 at 11:52 pm #61718

Kristopher
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Find a new trainer. Maybe a woman would help. Besides, a gym is just another meat market. It’s like trying to find a meaningful relationship in a bar at 1:30am. There are better, non game playing guys out there who will notice you for the beautiful person you are, not how you look when doing squats.

February 8, 2017 at 6:15 pm #127072

Hopeless Wanderer
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I realize that it has been a while since this thread and the replies have been posted.

But I was looking up this exact same topic and came across this.

SpinBunny, I am going through exactly what you are going through. You have described every single feeling I have felt in my hopeless situation.

I can say ditto to everything you said.

Iam in love with my co-worker. My colleague, friend and unfortunately committed to someone else love of my life.

We have the same intangible connection that is hard to explain. He makes me feel happy, fulfilled.

I have suffered in silence for almost 9 years. And none of my feelings have diminished or changed in that period.

How are you doing? Are you still taking classes with him?

I can’t believe I am actually putting this in writing. And can talk about this.

February 8, 2017 at 11:02 pm #127084

Newton
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Good advice from everyone! My two cents, and I’m going to keep it short and get to the point. 1) You’re paying him, don’t underestimate the importance of this. As was already said, he’s getting paid to be nice and to be supportive. Ever talk to your very friendly bartender after they get off work? 2) He’s not immune to chemistry. He’s a guy! He’s probably a professional, but that doesn’t mean he can’t also have his weak moments just like you. Close situations like this are naturally tempting for both parties. Forbidden fruit is powerful stuff. 3) Most important of all. Either find a new coach, or open your mouth and ask what gives? Ask him if he’s interested in you and if so what is the next step? You can use your own words and your clever mind to figure out what to say exactly, but you’ve got to break the ice (this will help you to grow as well and teach you to deal with situations like this in the future). Either that or just continue to feel the pain of his touch that you will never get to really experience without a lot of complexities that you really don’t want to get into. (remember, he has a girlfriend). Hope that helps. Oh one other thing 4) Date someone! Anyone! You’re way to obsessed about this and you need to be distracted with something healthier. Get out there and date!!!!
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