Dear Brian:

It just occurred to me that you wrote earlier today: “I’m usually guarded around new people. I’m trying to keep my thinking out of fight/flight mode“, and that means that you are guarded around me too, in this online context. I think that you are afraid that if you share more, I will have more material to judge you for, so you don’t share much. Less sharing=> Less judgment. Is this the case?

If it is, we can work around it, make sure that you will not be judged here, not by me!

anita

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Dear Brian:

“It seemed you were suggesting I wasn’t sharing enough with my response. If that’s not the case, then maybe I misinterpreted what you wrote” – I do think that you are not sharing enough here on your thread because I think that it will help you to share more.

But notice: I am not judging you for not sharing more; I don’t think negatively of you for not sharing more. I figure that like so many people (including myself), you were judged many times before, and you are afraid to be judged again. Is my understanding accurate?

anita

Dear Brian:

You are welcome to post again here, or to start a new thread, so that maybe other members will reply and be better able to help you. I wish you well and goodbye!

anita