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  • January 23, 2022 at 12:23 pm #391782
    Brian
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    Dear Anita:

    I like to get to the point when I communicate. I did respond to the questions you asked. I’m not sure why it is important to share the subject I am studying.

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    January 23, 2022 at 12:43 pm #391784
    Anonymous
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    Dear Brian:

    It is not important to me that you share about the subject that you are studying. What is important to me is that you do “get to the point” and share about anything that is relevant to the point. You don’t have to, not here. It really is up to you, what you share and what you don’t share.

    anita

     

    January 23, 2022 at 6:16 pm #391795
    Anonymous
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    Dear Brian:

    It just occurred to me that you wrote earlier today: “I’m usually guarded around new people. I’m trying to keep my thinking out of fight/flight mode“, and that means that you are guarded around me too, in this online context. I think that you are afraid that if you share more, I will have more material to judge you for, so you don’t share much. Less sharing=> Less judgment. Is this the case?

    If it is, we can work around it, make sure that you will not be judged here, not by me!

    anita

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    January 24, 2022 at 10:06 am #391809
    Brian
    Participant

    Dear Anita:

    I get to the point by sharing things that are relevant to the topic. It seemed you were suggesting I wasn’t sharing enough with my response. If that’s not the case then maybe I misinterpreted what you wrote.

    January 24, 2022 at 11:01 am #391811
    Anonymous
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    Dear Brian:

    “It seemed you were suggesting I wasn’t sharing enough with my response. If that’s not the case, then maybe I misinterpreted what you wrote” – I do think that you are not sharing enough here on your thread because I think that it will help you to share more.

    But notice: I am not judging you for not sharing more; I don’t think negatively of you for not sharing more. I figure that like so many people (including myself), you were judged many times before, and you are afraid to be judged again. Is my understanding accurate?

    anita

     

    January 24, 2022 at 11:20 am #391813
    Brian
    Participant

    I really didn’t think about it that deeply. Maybe you can spend your time trying to help someone else.

    January 24, 2022 at 12:03 pm #391817
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear Brian:

    You are welcome to post again here, or to start a new thread, so that maybe other members will reply and be better able to help you. I wish you well and goodbye!

    anita

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