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Oh pat02,
You are a victim of Gang Stalking! This girl IS obsessed with you. With her personality, I think she *might* find someone/something else to be obsessed with one day.
I know it’s not fair, but can you go off social media? Block and/or hide her and her friends?
Some other thoughts come to mind. Secretly (the key word here) transferring, moving, changing your numbers. Travelling abroad.
Giving her a restraining order. THAT will give her something REAL to talk about! There is no socially acceptable way to say, “Can you believe so-and-so gave me a restraining order?” without sounding crazy.
Can you be direct with her: “Stop shadowing my life”.
My DH’s ex girlfriend used to do that to HIM: She joined his club, got a job in his office, became friends with his parents. By always being in each of his sub-worlds she would be in his life. When he met me and moved on, she did eventually quit the job and the club, and finally moved after his parents told her he was engaged.
She could be romantically obsessed with you. And acting all angry because she doesn’t like it herself. I know it sounds weird. But the good news is that as more time goes by the more likely it is that she will focus on her next victim.
Good Luck!
Inky
This sounds like a person that has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. All the actions you described is typical Narc behaviour. Her “friends” are called flying monkeys. The word “friend” is in quotation marks because Narcs typically use people for their own personal gain, they are not capable of true friendship.
You are correct. The Narc is upset because she was unable to manipulate you.
“For those who don’t know this term, “flying monkeys” are people that a narcissist uses to do their bidding. Sometimes, a narcissist will not attack you publicly in any way–which makes them look good–but they are privately telling carefully chosen people how evil and awful you are. They select these people the same way they chose you. They are experts at reading people and realizing who will make an easy target and a puppet. They also know who won’t, so they avoid the people they can’t easily use. Narcissists usually choose other, lesser, narcissists who will enjoy attacking you, or they choose very empathetic people who believe their stories and honestly believe they are supporting an innocent person. These flying monkeys then proceed to stalk you and report back to the narcissist–again, either to be mean or because they think they are helping the wronged party. Or, the worst flying monkeys will spread the lies the narcissist tells them privately by taking them public. The lies don’t come from the narcissist’s mouth, so they can claim they are “taking the high road,” but the words the flying monkeys spread are *exactly* what they heard from the narc. They do the narcissist’s evil, but make it seem like the narcissist isn’t really involved. They have no idea they are being used. The term comes from the flying monkeys in the Wizard of Oz since the wicked witch sends them to carry out her attacks. Most of the time, the narcissist has convinced the monkeys that the narcissist is the victim and the real victim is the abuser, so the monkeys go after the real victim and treat the real victim like the abuser”
I would advise everyone to do a little research about NPD because these toxic personalities have the ability to cause damage in your professional and personal life. It is best to avoid them and learn educate yourself on red flag behaviour.
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