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    ztwilliams
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    Dear Angry,

    Personally I dislike the term “let it go” – how do you do that when something meant so much to you? Acceptance makes more sense to me. It’s a step in the grieving process. I’ve dealt with a few things within the last few years and found that when I tried denying my feelings, I ended up feeling worse – like relapsing. Nurturing myself physically, and setting frequent time aside to allow my emotions to surface made my process a little smoother.

    You are grieving, and the fact that you are a man with feelings does not make you less of one. No offense to anyone, but I disagree with actual revenge. This is not about “them” – it’s about you and your healing. And you should take all the time that you need.

    Much strength and luck to you! 🙂

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    angry after so long
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    Thanks Clay/Jackie/ ztwilliams, I agree with the self healing part and this being an opportunity to grow, but i feel stuck, Stuck as in I need to spew this poison out to move on. I hate the phrase moving on too, but acceptance, how am i to accept the woman i trusted more than myself did this, accept that I let her walk all over me even while we were dating, how can i accept i wasnt good enough for her or man enough to tell her what i felt after and still feel. She really bullshitted me for months after i found out, and i kept buying it saying nothing, just crying, even though in the back of my head i knew she s lying. and then she lied some more, at that point i just let her go queitly and did not contact afterwards even though she kept telling me shes sorry and wanted me to take her back. But i never got to really tell her what i feel of her doings and her fake apologies, about the other guy and how i want them to suffer something similar someday. and these things haunt me, prevent me from moving on. She s even made sex dirty for me, I recently had a connection with someone and a chance of intimacy, but i bailed out , almost insulting the other girl. its really emasculating, this feeling of self hate and inadequacy. I really hope some counselling helps me, apart from the buddhist principles of compassion and forgiveness (which i need so much right now)

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