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A Small Act of Kindness Can Make a Big Difference

“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion.  If you want to be happy, practice compassion.” ~Dalai Lama

I had an old trench coat that was balled up on the floor of my garage gathering dust near the washing machine. It was raining. It was unusually cold (for California, anyway).

I was driving home when I saw a man in a short sleeved shirt wandering through our neighborhood, pushing a shopping cart. He was walking painfully slow. He was dripping wet.

I paused at the intersection to my street and watched him for several minutes, thinking. My heart was heavy seeing him move so slowly, so wet, so cold. I suddenly remembered the crumpled-up coat. But what if I needed it sometime in the future? A story I had once heard at a church conference came to mind.

An Inspiring Story of Kindness

Two boys walked down a road that led through a field. The younger of the two noticed a man toiling in the fields of his farm, his good clothes stacked neatly off to the side. The boy looked at his older friend and said, “Let’s hide his shoes so when he comes from the field, he won’t be able to find them. His expression will be priceless!” The boy laughed.

The older of the two boys thought for a moment and said, “The man looks poor. See his clothes? Let’s do this instead: Let’s hide a silver dollar in each shoe and then we’ll hide in these bushes and see how he reacts to that, instead.”

The younger companion agreed to the plan and they placed a silver dollar in each shoe and hid behind the bushes. It wasn’t long before the farmer came in from the field, tired and worn. He reached down and pulled on a shoe, immediately feeling the money under his foot.

With the coin now between his fingers, he looked around to see who could have put it in his shoe. But no one was there. He held the dollar in his hand and stared at it in disbelief. Confused, he slid his other foot into his other shoe and felt the second coin. This time, the man was overwhelmed when he removed the second silver dollar from his shoe.

Thinking he was alone, he dropped to his knees and offered a verbal prayer that the boys could easily hear from their hiding place. They heard the poor farmer cry tears of relief and gratitude. He spoke of his sick wife and his boys in need of food. He expressed gratitude for this unexpected bounty from unknown hands.

After a time, the boys came out from their hiding place and slowly started their long walk home. They felt good inside, warm, changed somehow knowing the good they had done to a poor farmer in dire straits. A smile crept across their souls.

Inspired by the Story

I drove home took my coat from the garage and went looking for the old man in the rain. I spotted him. He hadn’t gone far. The rain had let up some. I pulled up alongside him and asked him to come over.

He hesitated, then walked closer. I asked if he had a place to stay. He said he did and was close. I offered him my jacket. He looked stunned, like I was violating some accepted code of conduct. I urged him to take it. He slowly reached out and took my old coat. He smiled.

So did I.

We all have poor farmers toiling in the fields of their trials and difficulties along the roads of our lives. Their challenges might not be known to us. But their countenances often tell a story of pain. We have opportunities to hide shoes or hide silver dollars in them.

This day, this time, I removed a “silver dollar” from the floor of my garage and slipped it in an old man’s shoe. A life was blessed for having done it. And I think the old man’s life may have been blessed by it as well.

When I hear of stories of kindness being done to others, I’m inspired to do the same. I think most of us are like that. We need each other’s inspiration as we travel life’s highways, trying to figure it all out.

So please share your experiences with us. We need them. They help make us better people.

What acts of kindness have you performed?

What kindnesses by others have blessed your life?

Please share your thoughts.

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Ken Wert is a teacher and personal development blogger at Meant to be Happy where he inspires readers to live with purpose, act with character, think with clarity and grow with courage. Sign up for his free eBook, A Walk Through Happiness and newsletter! Connect with him on Twitter.

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  • fragment of heaven

    This is one of the first times I have ever told anyone about the kindness I perform.  I usually do it in secret, because I don’t want other people to think that I am showing off.  But you are right, it inspires me when I read about others doing kind things, and I know I can inspire many. 

    I tithe 10% of my income and donate to KIVA, and other online charities.
    I live in a warm place, but sometimes I take my kids to cold climates.  I had a lot of left over winter clothes.  I mailed them to a Goodwill in NYC, anonymously.
    I did a collection at work and packed up a big box of clothes and medical supplies for a rural clinic in the Philippines.
    At the start of the new year, I gave away ALL of my clothes to charity ( a minivan full).   I went shopping for a $400 new wardrobe. I have less and it feels better.
    Each day, I try to remind myself that I am a fragment of heaven and that I am here to be a gift.

  • Sam Brown

    Today I took all my sons teachers in a cake and his nurse , they all do such a great job x

  • http://www.meanttobehappy.com/ Ken Wert

    I love that, Sam! I’m a high school teacher and always feel so touched when kids bring me cookies or a cake or surprise me on my birthday. Keep spreading the love and joy, Sam! It’s a wonderful thing to do.

  • http://www.meanttobehappy.com/ Ken Wert

    I so love that line: “I try to remind myself that I am a fragment of heaven and that I am here to be a gift.” We all are those fragments and you have inspired so many people here to increase the nature of the gift they are to the world.

    I personally think it’s wonderful that you give anonymously. I do the same, though admittedly, on a smaller scale than you. I’ve never given away my closet-o-clothes before! I know the blessings of tithing as well and am so grateful you opened up and shared your acts of kindness here.

    Some people and organizations give to be seen. The gifts given are helpful and I hope they don’t stop. But giving anonymously is a clear reflection of the heart and soul of the giver.

    Thank you.

  • http://www.meanttobehappy.com/ Ken Wert

    Those are very special stories, Jamie. Thank you for sharing them. I’ve had similar experiences where the person was so stunned they never smiled or said the words, thank you, but there was something in the face, in the eyes, that spoke more clearly than words could have.

    The power we have to lift and encourage and spread hope and love and change lives, even if only for a moment, is simply awesome.

    Thank you for sharing your experiences, Jamie.

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  • urooj shahid

    Thank You so much Ken! :) Well said, helping others does make us feel good about us and respect ourselves for doing something great! It also makes us think how fortunate we are to be able to help!
     I loved this article and I’m learning too many things from your e-book! The tips there actually work amazingly! Great work! You’re helping me and many others this way! Stay blessed always! 

  • http://www.modernmom.com/blogs/wendy-irene Wendy Irene

    Ken you are absolutely right! Hearing an act of kindness
    is extremely inspiring. It makes you want to get up and make a difference.
    Thank you for sharing this beautiful story! You have inspired me today and got
    me wheels turning. I really appreciate that! :)

  • http://www.meanttobehappy.com/ Ken Wert

    You absolutely made my day with your comment, Urooj!

    Thank you so very much. This is a very wise addtion to what’s been said: “It also makes us think how fortunate we are to be able to help!” I really like that thought.

  • http://twitter.com/AlannahRose Alannah Rose

    When I was going through the most difficult time in my life a couple of years ago, I will never forget every tiny act of kindness that I received… from total strangers, aquaintances and friends.  Many days when I was at my lowest, the right word from a cashier or someone holding a door for me before I entered a building or even just smiling made my whole week.  I also came to realize that, in the midst of my sadness, I was in the best position to be kind to others as well.  Every time I see a stranger, now, I think that they could be where I was back then, barely keeping it together and feeling totally alone.  I never want to be anything less than kind and thoughtful to others.  That period of my life totally changed my whole outlook and how I interact with people.

  • Tinarose29

    this article made me cry. I odnt think i will complain of not having enough of anything again. Gratitude is something I will never forget….I always smile to people. There is a lady at the gym that everyone ignores apart from me, we have a special bond and that makes me smile and I know it makes her feel good aswell. In return for my small kind act, I am living rent free with my sister, till I find my feet. That is HUGE especially in these trying times.

  • http://www.vidyasury.com Vidya Sury

    Beautiful post, Ken. Thanks, Lori.So heart-warming to read this.
    We have a family habit of always carrying something with us each time we leave the house – be it food, clothing, things that can be reused, even empty water bottles, bags that can be reused, etc. I have a close relationship with the homeless and the street-dwellers. I make it a point to give them something every day. Along the road I live, there are several constructions going on, with workers living on site. It is not easy for them. I actually plan my cooking menu with them in mind, some days. 

    I am grateful for this habit handed down by my grandfather, who believed in giving without expecting something back. I am happy to say my son feels the same. 

  • http://www.meanttobehappy.com/ Ken Wert

    You’re welcome, Wendy. It’s very popular to be inspired by thinking about what Jesus or Gandhi or Buddha (or whoever your favorite example of goodness is) would do in certain situations. That can be a very powerful tool to use to inspire us to do good too. But we also have each other. The stories here, yours and other people’s blogs, Lori here at Tiny Buddha of course, and so many other people and their stories of service inspire me everyday to do a little more, to live up to the best inside me, to aspire to bless the lives of those I’m blessed to come in contact with.

    So thank you, Wendy, for the bit of inspiration you and your writing are to me and so many other people!

  • http://www.meanttobehappy.com/ Ken Wert

     These are, indeed, trying time, Tinarose. What a wonderful thing that you have people who love you nearby to help while you find your footing. I wish you well.

    I so love that you reached out to the lady at the gym who others ignore. You mention your “small kind act,” but I believe no kindness is small. What you have done is to reach into the heart and soul of another person. You’ve extended yourself to another human being. That’s no small thing.

    So many people live in isolation, surrounded by people who never lift their gaze higher than their own navels to see the need of others. So what you did at the gym, and all your smiles given so freely to others, is a profound act of love.

    Thank you for sharing it with others and with us here. Your life is so important. It’s a life that makes other lives better. You are such a blessing to humanity as you spread love within your circle of influence. If we all did the same, just think of all the overlapping circles filled with love and acceptance and compassion and decency that would be radiating out in ever-widening circles of influence.

  • http://www.meanttobehappy.com/ Ken Wert

    You are such a beautiful person, Vidya. The more I get to know you, the more I’m inspired by you! There is so much suffering out there in the world. It can be truly overwhelming. But if we concentrate on the difference we can make where we are, reaching out to those in need, we can start to change the world, one person at a time.

    Thank you so much for the inspiration your life is to me and us all!

  • urooj shahid

    You make all our days with all those positive advices Ken! :)

    And Thank You, Feels overwhelming! 

  • http://www.meanttobehappy.com/ Ken Wert

    Hi Alannah,

    While I would never wish pain on anyone, sometimes pain becomes our best, even if not always cherished, teacher. We need those challenges in our lives from time to time, I think. They burn off the dross, leaving the golden us a little brighter and shinier. Still, so glad the most difficult time is behind you now and you can be a blessing to others like others were to you. Thank you so much for sharing that. Those kinds of stories help us feel confident and hopeful about humanity!

  • http://www.hitenvyas.com/blog Hiten Vyas

    Hi Ken,

    Do you know you have the ability to bring a groan man to tears?

    This was a beautiful post.

    It reminded me of the time a very rough looking homeless man came up to me while I was standing at the train station.

    He wanted some money and told me a story about how he wanted to get home to his mother but didn’t have the trainfare to get home. At first I didn’t believe him and thought he just wanted it for drugs or alcohol.

    But then he started to cry. Tears were streaming down his eyes. So, I gave him 10 pounds. The truth is he might still have spent it on something to satisfy his habits. Whatever his true intentions, there was no way I could have ignored his suffering when he began to cry.

  • http://www.hitenvyas.com/blog Hiten Vyas

    Hi Lori,

    I just wanted to say thank you for having Ken guest post on your blog.

    Take care,

    Hiten

  • http://twitter.com/lori_deschene Lori Deschene

    You’re most welcome! It was my pleasure. I love Ken’s post. =)

  • Lanaesthetic

    I was at the Denver airport struggling to balance a container of food, my luggage, and a glass of water.  A passerby stopped and offered to take my water to my table for me.  It was such a small thing but so considerate.  I was really touched.

  • Tinarose29

    Oh wow, I never thought of it that way…thanks :)
    I think you too are a special person and I thank you for your encouraging words

  • http://julielangdonbarrett.com Julie

    We are all here to act as earth angels to one another.  It may be a simple word that we’re inspired to share, simply listening when someone needs to be heard, or a physical gift like you gave…and many other things.  We don’t always realize it when we are divinely inspired, as wrapped up in our worlds as we can be.  So it is incumbent upon each and every one of us to be acutely aware of where we are and what we choose to share in every moment.  That is the best thing we can do.  Notice also when you resist the urge.

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  • http://www.meanttobehappy.com/ Ken Wert

     Hey Hiten! Don’t know how I missed your comment a month ago, but was just looking through the article and bumped into this gem!

    Thank you so much for sharing your experience reading my guest post here. I love the compassion you showed the homeless man at the train station as well.

    I know what you mean when you hesitated giving for fear of where the money will go.  We can actually be hurting people int he long run by funding their self-destructive habits. My wife and I sometimes carry food in our car to give to those in need to avoid subsidizing those habits.

    Thanks for this awesome comment, my friend, and sorry for the delayed reply. :)

  • Xo-xo

    awh! its so cool that i came across this article today because just today i did a small act of kindness that made me happy. so..
    i was in a restroom messing with my hair (which was annoying me cause it was down but i was hot and i couldn’t put it up) but then a woman in a wheelchair came to the sink next to mine and started washing her hands. i noticed the slight difficulty it was for her to reach the soap dispenser and i started thinking, here i am irritated about my hair and going about my day frustrated by it, but then there is this woman having to live her life in a wheelchair..as she was leaving i realized that i probably should help her open the door..but i didnt want it to be awkward and like a pity-act or anything, so i didnt. i just stood there. i left soon after feeling bad…but then as me and my boyfriend were leaving the store, we turned&we saw this same woman in her wheelchair but she had obviously gotten stuck in a bit of mulch (you know, mall “aesthetics”) my boyfriend wanted to turn the other way (he’s a nice guy and all but it appeared to be a difficult situation) i HAD to help her though. it was my redemption. so i walked over to her and she humbly asked me if i could help her. it was the sweetest plea for help. we did get her wheelchair back on the sidewalk and she was super thankful. my boyfriend ended up getting his finger jammed and i got muddy, but it was so worth it to help her. we are just two teenagers and i know it was difficult for her to ask us, but it felt good..and i hope that from now on i can do an act of kindness every day :) )

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    If you are interested, here is a short Youtube film about how one woman began to change the world with just $100 and a lot of love.

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4WbqD5WD-Sk&feature=youtu.be

    Thank you!