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@Tim thanks for being real with me it always helps me grow and I’m working on it. Anyway, I’m so so so excited for you! You’re going to be a DAD 🥰 omg my heart feels so warm and could explode right now reading your news. Rupert will always be with you and waiting at the end of the rainbow to meet you all again one day. I’m sure the little kumquat has grown by now! I hope you and your beautiful partner have a safe, healthy pregnancy x
@Danny Sorry for my absence and not replying sooner, I see you have received plenty of amazing advice, you’ve taken it on board and come such a long way.
Don’t worry it’s evident to those of us who have the experience that you have actually LOVED HER all along. It explains that pang, you are feeling it physically. To feel so upset and hurt by what you did means you’ve always cared about her deeply. Your feelings were true and deep, it’s hard to admit sometimes, isn’t it?
‘B’ is everything you wrote, reading the ‘It went like this text..’ to her fort date night theme for you makes me jealous in a good way. It’s so cute and I see you have the chemistry still!! She’s funny, kind, and clearly has a big heart to forgive you, what more could you want? You have turned into a real man of honour and respect. Continue that growth.
I love that your softer side is appearing, it’s ok to cry, you don’t have to be the HERO all the time. Share that vulnerability and those tears with her and I can only surmise that your love for each other will solidify.
I’m sure you’ll be able to contain yourself out of respect too. As a woman, I have to say it’s sometimes more exciting and intimate having that SEXUAL TENSION. So get your gratification from the fact you are respecting her and building it to a point you’ll both feel comfortable, and no doubt it will be incredible and significant when it does happen because it will be borne out of real love. I really hope the love will just flourish between you and the fears and insecurities that plague us all do not win. Best of luck Danny!
@Shelbyville Congrats on the ILY milestone. You must be over the moon! I’m glad you’ve found someone you adore. You really do deserve it!
@Kkasxo Hope you are OK..we haven’t spoken too much but I wanted to say you only realise your own strength when you are forced to be strong on your own. You are a fantastic, kind insightful woman and capable of living a fulfilled life. Happiness awaits you. Cut the cord, I know how hard it is but I’ve done it and I was shaky for a while but I’m getting there I’ve realised what I deserve in a relationship. I’m finding myself and willing to be entirely authentic to one day find a relationship like Danny’s and Tim’s. Someone who understands me deeply helps support me emotionally and regardless of my flaws chooses me! I believe in myself and believe I deserve that… You should do, plenty of posters have remarked how wonderful you are <3
@Lucie I hope you are well, you’re also incredibly strong and more than your past, so keep on pushing through those barriers. You can and will get your happiness!
@Rhaenys Time is only wasted if you didn’t learn the lesson. You have and want better for yourself, that’s a milestone. Those guys were users and for them to never give you the closure and respect is a reflection of them. It will all catch up with them. It always does. Focus on your own self and be happy. Good luck!