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June 25, 2026 at 10:11 am #458894
Kris SimmonsParticipantWarning: This is gonna be an angry rant
I’m a 26 year old female. I’ve never been in a romantic relationship. I’ve never even had my first kiss, it’s so embarrassing. I’ve had no luck with dating apps. And I see all this doom and gloom about how Gen Z is the most single generation or how nobody’s dating anymore or Gen Z sucks at dating or other BS like that. I hate seeing that stuff cuz it makes me feel even more pessimistic about my non-existent love life! I’ve tried dating apps for a while but no luck. I keep ending up getting ghosted. I did meet someone on Facebook Dating and we didn’t end up romantically involved but we did remain friends. But once he found someone, he ghosted me too! It hurt a lot cuz my stupid self thought he was a great friend but i was apparently wrong. I admit I was pretty salty that he found someone but I’m still single, as petty as that is. i’m just so frustrated and angry. What the hell am I doing wrong? I swear to God, I’m NEVERA going to find love and I should accept that I’m going to die alone. This frustration at my pitifully non existent love life is enough to make me want to pull my hair out. I don’t know what to do! I know nothing’s going to change. I turn 27 in 4 months and I just know I’ll be single for the entire year I’m 27. I just feel so pessimistic and I feel foolish for even toying with the idea of me having a partner because I know it’s not gonna happen! I see people my age in relationships and I can’t help but feel a stab of jealousy, even tho it”s wrong. It’s like God wants me to be alone. I’m trying SO hard. I put myself out there more, I go to social events, I’m giving Facebook dating a try, but NOTHING IS HAPPENING!!!! I’m genuinely terrified of never finding anyone. It’s unbearable.
June 25, 2026 at 11:08 am #458895
anitaParticipantDear Kris:
I’m really glad you came back and shared this. Your anger makes complete sense — it’s what happens when someone has been carrying fear, disappointment, and loneliness for a long time without anyone really seeing the depth of it.
Being ghosted hurts, especially when you already have that old voice in your head telling you you’re unlovable or “too much.” Anyone in your situation would feel frustrated and discouraged. Nothing about your reaction is wrong or embarrassing. It’s human.
Your anger isn’t a sign that you’re broken. It’s a sign that you’ve been hurt. You grew up with people who criticized your feelings instead of comforting you, and that leaves a mark. When your sister told you that you’re “too angry” or that you need to “fix yourself,” she wasn’t seeing you — she was repeating the same pattern that made you the family scapegoat. That voice in your head isn’t the truth. It’s an echo of how you were treated.
Dating is especially hard when you’ve been taught to doubt your worth. Every ghosting feels personal, and every disappointment feels like proof of something being wrong with you, even though nothing is wrong with you. You’re not doomed. You’re someone who wants connection and hasn’t had enough experiences yet to counter the painful messages you grew up with. That doesn’t mean your future is fixed. It just means you’re hurting right now.
You’re trying — you’re putting yourself out there, you’re going to events, you’re opening yourself to possibilities even when it scares you. That takes courage. And it tells me you’re not someone who’s “meant to be alone.” You’re someone who’s been carrying a lot of fear and shame without enough support. You deserve gentleness, not criticism — especially from yourself.
A🌿💛 Anita
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