hi Samiha
i would say you are a courageous girl..manyatimes we just sit back and dont do anything..but you stood up and told about ur situation openly to your family.. der would rarely be an instance when family takes things like this positively.. dont blame them.. neither the guy nor his father… but yes believe in yourself and your God…your source who made you… that power has not made you to suffer….sometimes we dont see light ..but der is always a way.. God’s way..believe in him.. MIRACLES DO HAPPEN.. and to those with faith in themselves…n in GOD…..
I would suggest you to write all your problems..and then solutions as you want of those problems…
keep reading the solutions daily thrice(solutions should be positive…not of negative impact to anyone),…. why i m telling you to read it thrice…is because it would make u feel that all that is happening..and u would be in a state of positivity.. i knw it would be little difficult..but things would be great if u have faith and be positive…. pray for ur uncle’s health also.,..pray for everyone… your prayers would be answered….
all the best Samiha..never loose hope….as God is great… 🙂 he will make all good for you…..

I don’t think it’s right to be forced to give up your happiness for the sake of pleasing other people’s personal opinions on how things “should be”.

Your parents might be angry and upset for a while, maybe even a long time, but I don’t think it’s possible for them to ignore how happy you are with your own choice forever. It’s your life, and if you’re happy with your decision and open about it with everybody involved then they should all be happy seeing you happy. If they are not then those are issues they should deal with themselves, it’s not your fault.

• This reply was modified 10 years, 11 months ago by memm.

Hi Samiha,

Perhaps quiet the mind of all the external voices who never will know the complete you…
finding a quiet place with no other human around will make this process easier…
not thinking of anything in your past including those other human voices…
not thinking of any future which you or anyone else creates within a human mind…
and listen to your Voice only.

Know this…
you are loved regardless of any choice you make…
Loved by all that is pure…
Loved by all that is positive and smiling…
and you are supported by that which is pure…
it comes from within your eternal energy.

If you make a choice which you allow others to force you into making…
a happiness will be short lived and the happiness will be from the outside…
when not sustained from within you the energy required to maintain any happiness will soon destroy both you and those around you…
including those others who wish only the same thing you do in the end…
Peace.

Many times in the past of me I have allowed others to make choices…
just to get them off my back…
and this process seemed easier…
easy only lasts a short time when we wish to cease negative thoughts thrown our way…
but the long lasting affects may create negativity within our inner being…

Peace comes from within I believe…
When we create a peace from the inside of us we can radiate the feeling out in all directions and help others help themselves…
and for me, the is the key point…
we cannot create a peace for anyone else through decisions we try and make for others…
we must love and do what is right and pure for the self first which will create both Love and Peace…
others will feel this…
others will see this…
even when they do not agree with you, it they are positive, they will respect your choices when your choices come from Love…
and the personal choices you make when you make them from listening to your Inner Voice…
will create the long lasting Peace we all desire to have.

Listen to others…
but do not loose your Voice…
for, the Voice of you knows you best…
and the Voice of you comes from Love…
and the Love is Pure.

We will never be able to “make” anyone else happy…
no human has this ability…
nor do we really want this ability?
create your Happiness Samiha…
and in the long run…
others will feel it.

Peace to you on your individual Life Path…
Blessings to you as you make Your Choices in Life…
Know that you are loved from all that is Pure…
May you find Happiness in all that you do…
I believe you will…

🙂