Hi JB,

I’ve recently got to know astrological maps myself – even for my own surprise. I still don’t know what I really think of astrology, but I must admit that I sort of like the symbolical perspective it’s based on. Like my friend said: astrology considers the rhythms of time instead of actual stars: stars being only symbols for the rhythms of time.

Astrology is bit like a weather prediction: it doesn’t make you do anything, and it is impossible to predict the future. And the only reason I’m writing this is to tell you, that the astrologer you’ve met obviously isn’t a good one.

What astrologers often look for in one’s astrological map are things that seem to be easy for the native – and the things that may require more effort to get familiar with. Birth chart, so to say, doesn’t tell you who you are or how you’re life will be – no. It only shows the energy of the time you were born, and makes it easier for you to understand why you seem to find some things more challenging in your life than others.

The philosophical idea in astrology, I’ve come to think, is that it helps you to pay notice to the obstacles you must overcome until you may feel free and independent. Take notice for example to the compatibility charts: astrology can never say who we will fell in love with. All it does is that it shows the energies between the two people. If either of the two person is developed as individuals and don’t know themselves very well, a lots of controversial energy between the couple may cause a controversial relationship. If, on the other hand, the individuals have worked on their weak spots, they are able to master the energies instead of feeling empowered by them. There may well be an awful marriage then, between a couple who is astrologically a perfect match – and a perfect one between a couple who isn’t. It’s all about how you master the energy given.

Now- if the astrological lady saw this problem in your chart, it might be a good thing. It tells that you’re getting to know the challenging energy in your life that you need to learn to master/to live with. But it does NOT mean that it’s your “faith” not to overcome this! No. If there happens to be the faith, it would be the opposite: this is exactly the thing you need to overcome to be free and developed as a person! So no worries, my friend – you’re exactly on the right path now!

Unfortunately I can’t help with the exact problem this time. But just keep in mind that if you ever meet an astrologer again, remember, that in astrology there are no good or bad things, and there are no curses in anyone’s chart. A person having the most luckiest chart may have the most undeveloped personality (and life) in case he/she refuses to grow with time. And then again a person with a lots of challenging aspects may become to have the most luckiest life if she/he realizes that the controversial energy is there to challenge him/her & to make the person more wise, experienced and courageous. I’m sure though that you have all it needs to overcome the issue – just wanted to tell you that don’t even once think that no one is allowed to convince you otherwise. Good luck!

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I do know your feeling, actually, as I came to this same page because of concentration problems. What Moon wrote though is pretty much true I guess: much of the upload and obstacles/ways of being stuck are in our minds. Human brain is simply an amazing organ – the main problem often being that the energy and capability very often isn’t in full use – as we need to process so many things at the same time in our daily lives. (Think of autistic people: the amazing skills they often have might give a clue over the potential we all could have if much of the outer influences & mind wandering to those issues were shut off).

As said – I’m myself also stressed at the moment and came to this site to find something to help me concentrate. So no – it’s not an easy task to master the stress…!

First of all: keep in mind that you are here to live your life – and the only person you need to show off is yourself. You wrote that your family is all the time worried about your future, and this actually sounds like it could be a weight on your shoulders. Let it go. Your parents are grown ups and responsible over their happiness: you don’t need to handle this issue to make them feel safe. It might be a good thing to close these things out of your mind for a while: don’t let their emotions come to you. Protect yourself from other people’s stress, so to speak.

Now, face your stress. I do know how it feels – this constant feeling of being trapped. The time is ticking, there’s no room for failing, and at the same time, you already feel worn out carrying the weight of past mistakes. What you obviously should let go are the past failings – and also the huge pressure to succeed. (But this for sure isn’t the easy thing to do).

I suggest you to look for things, images and people that make you feel confident and good about yourself. Take some emotional distance to people who you feel you need to prove something to, or who is worried over you, and concentrate on people who support you and believe in you. The kind, who trust you and see you as someone skillful. This person might be yourself too: think of all the skills you have. And all the things you’ve already been able to do.

Think the amazing person you are. Do everything it takes to switch your mind on to positive things. And try to accept the level you are now: you can’t jump before you can walk. Stress often comes from the fact that we think of the outcome (huge thing to swallow) – when everything is built from a simple practices and small steps, eventually.

Accept that this is an important time in your life, and you have every right to concentrate on yourself. Give up pleasing others, and take the time to practice you need. And most of all: to get in to and to keep on to the mindset you need!

Eventually, try to reach the math as game or a mystery. Try to give up the previous images of struggling, and distance yourself a bit from the tasks ahead. Math is a language, actually, or a form of art. Behind all those symbols is a hidden beauty, a logical structure created to tell stories that would be too long to explain with natural sentences. Imagine yourself being someone who is determined to learn how to read and write in this language. Dive into it. For a while try reaching it as something neutral: not a life or dead issue, but as something having value and point in itself.

You know that brain is a bit like muscle too? It is formed by the way you use it – new neuropathways are created depending on your actions. And just as any muscle, also brain needs some rest and relaxation too, between practice. (By the way, exercise is a very good thing when it comes to learning – as it literally makes you ready to built new networks in your brain. It also relies stress). Best luck!