Dear Lisa:

I came across a poem yesterday, and I thought of sending it to you because it fits you too:

“In the quiet of the night, where shadows play,     And the silence whispers what hearts cannot say,

Know that even in the darkest of days,     There’s a light within you, guiding your way.

Your heart feels heavy, burdened with care,     The weight of the world, too much to bear.

Yet in the midst of pain, there’s a spark,     A reminder that hope still ignites in the dark.

When love feels distant, and solace is scarce,     Remember, dear soul, you are strong and fierce.

In the echoes of doubt, find your inner voice,     A whisper of strength, a reason to rejoice.

Though the path seems lonely, you’re never alone,     For within you lies a courage well-known.

Take each step forward, with grace and with might,     For brighter tomorrows are born from this fight.

Let the tears flow freely, let the heart mend,     For in brokenness, there’s a chance to transcend.

Embrace the journey, with all that it brings,     For you are resilient, a soul with wings.

In the quiet of the night, hold on to your grace,     With each breath you take, find a serene space.

Know that you are cherished, valued, and dear,     And with each new dawn, let go of your fear.

May you find comfort in the love that remains,     In the strength of your spirit, despite the pains.

For you are a warrior, with a heart so true,     And brighter days will come, just for you.”

anita

Dear John/ Everyone:

The quotes you offered, John,  on another thread: “Life is not a problem to be solved, but a reality to be experienced”, “Life is NOT about seeking shelter from the storms; life is about learning to dance in the rain”,

Right above: “Gassho… The premise of the practice is that, as humans, we constantly desire: something more, somewhere else, to be with someone else, to be thinking something else, to be someone else, to be feeling something else, to be doing something else. It seems to be our nature, as humans, to be discontent“- very well said, John, if you don’t mind me saying so.

Dear Rising Flower:

I want to better address your questions in this post:

* “Now, why I’m unable to move away from him despite he mistreated me several times…“?

Possible answers: (1) Emotional attachment can make it incredibly difficult to move away from someone, even when they mistreat you. This attachment is often rooted in deep emotional connections and past experiences that create a strong bond,

(2) The Hope that L might change or finally leave his marriage can keep you hanging on, despite the negative experiences.

(3) Sometimes, a lower sense of self-worth and the fear of being alone can contribute to staying in an unhealthy relationship.

* “Why I’m still waiting for him to turn up as he is genuinely taking time to break his marriage that he never wanted to be in”?

Possible answers: (1) Belief in His Promises: It’s natural to hold on to the belief that L will eventually follow through on his promises, especially if he has been convincing and manipulative.

(2) Emotional Investment: Having invested so much time and emotion into the relationship, it can be hard to let go and start over.

Final thoughts: It is important for you to recognize that your feelings are valid and that you have the strength and resilience to overcome this challenging period. Healing takes time, but taking small steps toward self-care and personal growth, you can create a better future for yourself.

Seeking support from a quality therapist or counselor can help you navigate this challenging situation. Building self-worth, setting healthy boundaries, and surrounding yourself with supportive people can also make a significant difference in your journey towards healing and finding a healthier relationship.

Here is a little poem for you: “Each step you take, each breath you draw,     Reveals the courage in your core.     For you are more than pain and fears,     A soul that shines through endless tears.    With every dawn, a chance to start,     To heal and mend your precious heart.     Embrace the love that lies within,     And let your journey now begin.

“For you are worthy, brave, and true,     A warrior spirit, through and through.     The road ahead may twist and bend,     But know your strength will never end.    So rise, dear heart, and take your place,     With grace and beauty, embrace the space.     For you are more than you can see, a Rising Flower”.

anita

Inspirational/ comforting words:

“In the quiet of the night, where shadows play,     And the silence whispers what hearts cannot say,

Know that even in the darkest of days,     There’s a light within you, guiding your way.

Your heart feels heavy, burdened with care,     The weight of the world, too much to bear.

Yet in the midst of pain, there’s a spark,     A reminder that hope still ignites in the dark.

When love feels distant, and solace is scarce,     Remember, dear soul, you are strong and fierce.

In the echoes of doubt, find your inner voice,     A whisper of strength, a reason to rejoice.

Though the path seems lonely, you’re never alone,     For within you lies a courage well-known.

Take each step forward, with grace and with might,     For brighter tomorrows are born from this fight.

Let the tears flow freely, let the heart mend,     For in brokenness, there’s a chance to transcend.

Embrace the journey, with all that it brings,     For you are resilient, a soul with wings.

In the quiet of the night, hold on to your grace,     With each breath you take, find a serene space.

Know that you are cherished, valued, and dear,     And with each new dawn, let go of your fear.

May you find comfort in the love that remains,     In the strength of your spirit, despite the pains.

For you are a warrior, with a heart so true,     And brighter days will come, just for you.”

anita

Dear Mahvash:

You are very welcome, and thank you for expressing your appreciation- which I am touched by! It is just a matter of time before you see the ray of light again and stand strong. I hope that it’d be sooner than later. I am here for you!

anita

Dear Mahvash:

The name you chose is derived from Persian, where “mah” means “moon” and “vash” is a suffix meaning “like” or “resembling.” Thus, Mahvash translates to “moon-like” or “as beautiful as the moon.”

The moon is often associated with beauty, tranquility, and a gentle light that guides through darkness. Therefore, the name Mahvash conveys a sense of elegance, beauty, and calmness.

You wrote two days ago: “even in the group of people I feel I am the worst person who have no smile and happiness“- may you see the gentle light within you once again, and may it lead you through the current darkness in your marriage. Please do return here, to your thread, anytime you’d like to share about the darkness around and the light and beauty within you.

anita

Dear Rising Flower:

“Within less than 2 years of my marriage I fell for a family friend who was having access to me and my family, I wouldn’t say I was trapped or anything but it was an emotional manipulation I feel or realised later… but I admit I loved him no matter what and stayed true to myself… Deep down, I knew he is bad for me but unable to kill my love for him”-

– Can you define the words/ terms I boldfaced above, as in giving your personal,  authentic, clear, simple-to-understand of falling for a man, of being emotionally manipulated by a man, of loving a man, of being and staying true to yourself; what kinds of things/ people  are bad for you, and lastly, what does killing your love means?

Clarity and sensible solutions are in the definitions we assign to the words we use. I hope to read back from you!

anita