I understand, Q. Thank you for telling me how it is for you. I will write more tomorrow. (Late here)

You are very welcome. I understand not wanting to keep Going Through Life stuck in indecision.. and regret. I’ll write more tomorrow.

🤍🌿 Anita

Thank you, Dafne! I want to reply to you with a fresh, rested brain tomorrow morning.

🤗💖 Anita

Dear Dafne:

“I’m starting to think that I was too naive thinking that it will be easy or will happen at this age. What shall I change in order for this to be possible?”-

I’d say: first, become very clear about your objectives, that is: what is it that you need, want & expect in a relationship.

This way, you can be in the center of your story, you make the rules in regard to your life.

I hope I’m making sense (Am I, Dafne? I spent more than 4 hours straight in front of the computer.. tired 😩)

Not too tired to send you a virtual 🤗.

🌿 Anita

Dear Tom:

“I don’t feel like anyone ever made an effort with me and perhaps I haven’t also.”- what if you make a couple of small efforts this week to connect with just two people in this big team..?

If the efforts fail, you’ve lost nothing; if they succeed, you may gain a bit of something important: a moment of belonging, of companionship 🫱🫲

What do you think, Tom?

🌿🤍 Anita

Dear GoingThroughLife:

Again, thank you for your kind words, they mean a lot to me 🙏

“I wanted a pure relationship with less wound exposure.”- what a positively interesting way to say it, a pure relationship with less wound exposure.. original wording.

I am glad that you are receiving emotional support from your mother and from your older sister.

“Anita, I ask your help in this change, not from a perspective from focusing on the past, but on the present and the future. I need your guidance Anita.”- I feel honored that you are asking me for guidance 😊

And I acknowledge and respect your need that I focus on the present and the future, and not on your childhood.

I just went over (again) our communication since Jan 2024. You shared about 4 romantic relationships: Sofi (2019, when you started college- Oct 2020), SK (Nov 2020-2023), EN (Sept 2023-..Dec 2023, mostly long-distance), SS (Feb 2023- Sept 25).

What stood out to me this morning is what you wrote on Jan 30, 2024:”Even now when I think someone will love me I will end up pushing them away. I’m scared of that deep commitment. I was not scared when I started it with SK, but with time I guess the thought of settling down made me scared.”, as well as what you wrote on June 3, 2024: “I think besides feelings I’m starting to get attached to SS which I’m not keen of. I was never attached to EN.”-

I think that it’s safe to say that you desire a stable, loving connection with a woman.

But will it also be true to say that once you feel something stable and loving (which you need and desire), you also feel trapped and need to escape?

Commitment to a stable, loving relationship = trap ?

In regard to the career topic, you wrote 2 days ago: “I am not able to stick to do one thing, which may make me a jack of all trades, but not a master of one.”-

Commitment to a stable job/ trade= trap ?

I hope that these questions are not too distressing for you to consider..? Please let me know, I am concerned.

🤍🌿 Anita

It means a lot to me, Going Through Life, to read your kind words, your open heart.. thank you..!!!

I will write more Mon morning (It’s Sun night here)

🌿 Anita

I know you are charming, me! I’ve known it all along. I have no doubt that you are charming irl 😊.

I’ll write more Mon morning!

🌿 Anita