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  • in reply to: I just randomly and suddenly fell out of love #454483
    anita
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    Hey Confused:

    As I read your recent post of only 20 minutes ago, this stood out the most: “because at some point in my life someone needed me too much and I resented that.”-

    Someone who was supposed to be what you needed- needed you instead.

    Makes me think of course, of my mother: how much, how desperately I needed her to be that person of calm, a person- a world I could rest in. But no rest for me.

    “I perceive it as pressure and responsibility”- what was supposed to be love and calm was- not at all calm.

    “Now I am mostly numb towards everything, even sadness is gone, fear too.”- that’s okay. Be numb as long as you need to be numb. You are a good person, I know it! You are allowed to take a break.

    🌙😴✨Anita

    in reply to: Too invested in others- feeling tired of that #454482
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    And again, just in case you are reading- How are you, Milda?

    in reply to: Too much #454481
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    How are you, M?

    in reply to: Understanding someone who's recently divorced and not ready #454479
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    Almost 4 months since you posted last, Dafne. I hope 🙏 that you’re okay 👍.. and even better than okay.

    🤍 Anita

    in reply to: Should I Forget about him, or was he the one that got away? #454478
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    How are you, Emma???

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    Gregory, if you are reading this, how are you?

    in reply to: More friend drama #454476
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    How are you, NYC Artist?

    in reply to: Feeling behind in life at 27 #454475
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    How are you, Eva?

    in reply to: Ex is with someone else #454474
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    Dear Sushmita:it will be 3 months since you posted last (it will be in 2 days). How are you???

    in reply to: Trying to find a new job #454473
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    How are you, Calm Moon 🌙?

    in reply to: Moving on from the past break up #454472
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    Dear Clara:

    3 months and a day since you posted last. How are you, Chau/ Clara???

    🤍 Anita

    in reply to: Feeling Stuck #454465
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    You are very kind, Mollie 😊. Thank you. Hope to speak to you soon, anytime 🤍

    in reply to: Parent Life #454462
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    Dear Alessa: Praying for your healing and recovery 🩵 🙏 🤍 🩵 🙏 🤍

    in reply to: I just randomly and suddenly fell out of love #454458
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    Good morning, Confused:

    I was confused yesterday but realize this morning that the questions I asked you yesterday require emotional access you don’t yet have because of your emotional shutdown.

    At one point last evening (my last message to you), I thought you were avoiding my questions, not realizing you weren’t yet able to answer them.

    I was trying to help you name what you feel, but it may have put you in a position where you feel that you must “perform clarity” for me.

    Instead of asking you to define the pressure, fear, or responsibility (cognitively demanding questions given your emotional state), I better shift toward trying to help you notice rather than explain, asking questions that don’t require clarity — only observation. Here are two such questions:

    1) When you think of being responsible for her feelings, what sensation comes up?

    2) When you imagine her needing you, what’s the first thing you feel — even if it’s numbness?

    🤍 Anita

    in reply to: Passing clouds #454451
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    Talk to me, Zenith, anytime. It’s the old childhood wounds bleeding into adulthood; child Zenith finding herself a mother.

    Don’t give up, Zenith; don’t give in. There’s hope, there’s a better way.

    🤍✨️🌙 Anita

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