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April 2, 2026 at 8:30 pm in reply to: growing up – becoming adul / procrastination – in connection to childhood trauma #456597
anitaParticipantThe idea 💡 that you and your girlfriend might get married in Poland 🇵🇱 crossed my mind.
How long have the 2 of you been together- in person and LD?
🇵🇱 🇷🇴 🇪🇸- where is your heart at this time, Robi?
🍃 🤍 Anita
anitaParticipantHoping you’re okay, Thomas. Hope your daughter and wife are okay 👍 and that all the practical tasks are not too overwhelming for you.
I miss reading from you
🍃 🤍 Anita
anitaParticipantWell, Confused: it’s okay if you don’t want meds. Those didn’t serve me well on the long run.
So, you have conversations with AI on a regular basis? Is it of any help?
I was dissociated since I was 5, I think. That was how old I was in a vivid memory: running to my mother, wanting her to pick me up and hold me and hug me and tell me everything was okay.
But she didn’t.
Don’t underestimate the power of a mother on her boy’s or girl’s life and mind.
🍃🤍 Anita
anitaParticipantHow is Going Through Life going through life these days, GTL?
🤔 Anita
anitaParticipantNichole.. ?
April 2, 2026 at 7:02 pm in reply to: On Purpise and Shame- what is my purpose? What is yours? #456590
anitaParticipantThank you, Peter, for 👉 to where the talent was buried. I buried it because I believed the message of the Harsh Authority (HA) in my life.
That I was the Problem.
She, my personal HA, wasn’t religious, never a mention of a god. No religious background. Nothing.
Her rage made her God to me, like the god of the old testament (like the prayer at the pentagon: no mercy to those undeserving of mercy).
No more surrender to that rage- or that control, no more going belly up.
I wonder how many parents have taken their children to church, never expressing aggression at their children directly, but letting the church do the job?
Like I said, it’ll take me some time to process your recent post.
👉 Anita
anitaParticipantHow are you, Kelly?
anitaParticipantHey 👋 Confused:
Back to my 📱, which means plenty of emojis but no conversations with AI.
Remembering what happened (events) but not your emotions: that’s classic dissociation, very common. Again, it’s the 🧠 trying to protect you from the intense emotions at the time.
Your reactions- the dissociation, the shutdown: these are normal reactions to.. abnormal circumstances (abnormal circumstances like mine: a mother who feels dangerous vs safe).
I understand you 👻 -ing your psych. So, now what?
🤪 👻 👽 Anita
anitaParticipantHey Dear Confused:
Confused: “Hmm it wouldn’t be surprising but it’s very hard for me to connect my past to my present still and I don’t know why!”-
I asked Copilot (AI) what you asked above. It gave me several answers:
1. a gentle and normalizing answer: It actually makes a lot of sense that it’s hard to connect past and present. When something was overwhelming or painful, the mind often separates it just to help us survive. You’re not doing anything wrong — this is a really common human response.
2. a curious + inviting answer: That sounds really frustrating. When you say it’s hard to connect the two, is it more like the past feels far away, or more like it feels disconnected from who you are now?
3. a reassuring + validating answer: You’re definitely not alone in that. For many people, the past feels like it happened to a different person. Sometimes the mind protects us by creating distance. It doesn’t mean you’re stuck — it just means you’re human.
4. an insightful + gentle answer: Sometimes the past stays disconnected because it was too much to process at the time. The mind kind of ‘files it away’ so you can keep going. Connecting it to the present usually happens slowly, when you feel safe enough.
5. an empathic + reflective answer: I hear you. It can be confusing when the past shaped us but still feels strangely separate. Sometimes that separation is actually a sign of how hard you had to work to cope back then.
6. an encouraging + grounded answer: It’s okay that it’s hard. You don’t have to force the connection. Often it starts with tiny moments of recognition — little ways you notice how old patterns show up now. It’s a gradual unfolding.
My answer based on our 3+ months communication (from above): When something was overwhelming or painful, the mind often separates it just to help us survive, so the past feels far away, like it happened to a different person. The mind protects us by creating distance. The mind kind of ‘files it away’ so you can keep going. But what it filed away doesn’t die or disappear, it rises to the surface from time to time, like those tears instantly running down your face.
Sounds like you are indeed depressed. Did you contact the psychiatrist?
🌿 Anita
April 2, 2026 at 4:34 pm in reply to: On Purpise and Shame- what is my purpose? What is yours? #456585
anitaParticipantHi Peter:
At the computer earlier than expected. There’s so much in your recent post. Reads brilliant to me, wow! I’ll need time to process and absorb it, at least a portion of it.
For now, I invited Jung, Campbell, Krishnamurti and Alan Watts to tell you what they think about your recent post:
Jung: Peter, you are doing the sacred work of reclaiming a symbol that once claimed you. When you question the identity of the “master,” you are withdrawing your projection from an image that once held your psyche hostage.
This is individuation: the courage to confront the inherited god-image and discover that the true Self is not the harsh judge, but the one who sees through the mask. You are retrieving the gold that was buried in the shadow of that story.
Campbell: Ah, Peter — you are rewriting the myth from the inside. The third servant you once feared has become your ally, your mirror, your threshold guardian turned guide.
You are doing what every hero must eventually do: challenge the authority of the inherited story. You have stepped out of the village of unquestioned belief and into the forest of your own experience.
And look at what you’ve discovered: that refusal can be a form of courage, that integrity can be a boon, and that the “outer darkness” is not exile but the beginning of your own path. You are living the myth consciously now.
Krishnamurti: Peter, notice how the story once dictated your inner movement. You were conditioned to believe that fear was failure, that worth was measured by output. Now you are observing that conditioning without judgment. This is freedom.
When you ask whether the master represents God, you are really asking whether authority — any authority — has the right to define your being. The moment you see the falseness of the image; it loses its power. And in clarity, the “harsh master” dissolves, leaving only what is true.
Alan Watts: Peter, my friend, you’ve finally stopped taking the universe so literally. You’ve realized that the “harsh master” was never God — just a mask worn by frightened people trying to control life. And now you’re laughing a little, aren’t you? Because once you see the game, the whole thing becomes lighter.
The third servant wasn’t a failure; he was the only one who didn’t fall for the hustle. He buried the coin and said, “No thanks, I’m not playing.” And maybe that’s the real punchline: you don’t have to earn love, or God, or existence. You’re already it. You always were.
Copilot
Anita: it’s like you’re giving the third servant back his dignity, and you’re giving your younger self that same dignity. I like this: to give my younger self her dignity back… To unearth that 1 talent (confidence, self-respect, dignity) that the 3rd servant hid in the ground.
🍃🤍 Anita
April 2, 2026 at 12:40 pm in reply to: On Purpise and Shame- what is my purpose? What is yours? #456580
anitaParticipantJust wanted to say I’ll reply further by tomorrow. Thank you, Peter for participating in my purpise 🙂 thread
April 2, 2026 at 11:52 am in reply to: On Purpise and Shame- what is my purpose? What is yours? #456576
anitaParticipantI read just a bit of your recent post and I see you like the 1×2=1 ha-ha. I suppose a wiser, hidden part of me knew better than I did (see my edit a few minutes before your recent post (double posting)
April 2, 2026 at 11:41 am in reply to: On Purpise and Shame- what is my purpose? What is yours? #456574
anitaParticipantOopsie, my math: 2×1 is 2 NOT 1. But in mathematical context..2 is almost 1 (unlike in human-social context)🤔
April 2, 2026 at 11:33 am in reply to: On Purpise and Shame- what is my purpose? What is yours? #456573
anitaParticipantHi Peter:
You wrote that you sided with the 3rd servant because you understood “his terror of a ‘harsh master’ who demands a return of an investment he didn’t provide”-
An image of a scared young Peter comes to mind, day in and day out. Oh, how I wish I could reach him back then, calm his anxiety and give him the chance, the opportunity, to be a care-free child.
The image of you and I running on green grass in open fields just came back to me: two children running, not away from, but toward something- the call of the wild, a call available only to the carefree.
“The conclusion the trauma forced on us to draw, that we were ‘shameful’ or ‘a mistake’ is the part that isn’t true”-
I read this part attentively just now, for the first time since you wrote it, and what stands out most is your use of the pronoun “us”, as in you and me. Feels special.
I don’t remember ever using “us” growing up (growing inwards, really). The sense of an chronically isolated “I” was profound, unnatural for a social animal such as human.
And about return of investment: no such expectation here. At this point, I appreciate you more than ever and this appreciation is non-reversible.
🍃🤍🏃♀️🏃♂️🏃♀️🏃♂️🏃♀️ Anita
April 2, 2026 at 10:09 am in reply to: On Purpise and Shame- what is my purpose? What is yours? #456572
anitaParticipantHey Peter:
Thank you for caring to clarify (3rd & 4th paragraphs right above). That is kind of you 🤍
I just used the 🖥 to look up the parable and back to my 📱 (hence the emojis showing up, can’t or won’t resist them 😊, and then add some. Hope you don’t mind?)
The parable was a 🎁 of anxiety and shame by impact, if not by intent for the intelligent, highly perceptive young Peter.
I wish there was someone back then, a caring perceptive adult, who’d motice how you felt, and maybe offer you a different parable, one of justice and kindness-
because the literal story portrays injustice and an unempathetc, punishing, cruel master. And children take things literally. I still do 😕
By the way, as I read the story, I thought that the third sevant didn’t double his talent because 2× 1 is still 1. I thought he was methamatically aware (my literal interpretation)
I’ll write more later.
🎁 😕 🥺 Anita
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