Dear Like-(the)-Night-Confused (LNC):

Yes, we talked about Dorsal Vagal Shutdown. I brought it up to you some time ago because that seemed fitting to what you’ve been going through.

Too much emotion=> Overwhelm 😱 => 😐

It makes me feel nice, the idea 💡 of the two of you living in Cyprus.. Just the romantic-by proxy part of me.

😱 😐 🙂 Anita

* Does she plan to go back to Cyprus

The Stone and the Sky:

A monk once asked the master, “Why is peace so hard to find?”

The master picked up a small stone and placed it in the monk’s hand.

“Feel how heavy it is,” he said.

The monk nodded.

Then the master pointed to the sky. “How heavy is that?”

The monk looked up. “It has no weight at all.”

The master smiled. “Peace is like the sky. Your thoughts are like the stone.”

The monk frowned. “So, I must throw the stone away?”

The master shook his head. “No. Just stop gripping it so tightly.”

The monk opened his hand. The stone rested there, unchanged. But his fingers were no longer clenched.

The master said, “Peace is not the absence of stones. It is the absence of gripping.”

Good 🌄 Confused:

You wrote earlier:

“So you mean let them be and pay no attention to them? Rather act on logic/values?”-

I would say: do pay attention to your feelings. Accept them without judgment. Welcome them into your home (your body and mind) without harrassing them with logic and values.

Keep the Logic-Values Guards (LVGs)💂‍♀️ 💂‍♀️ out so that your feelings don’t get harrassed (leading to your feelings getting scared and hiding much of the time).

These guards have a place in the context of what you communicate to other people (through words & actions)

They have no place in context of what you feel internally.

In yet other words, you are not a good person because you feel A and B, and you’re not a bad person for feeling X and Y.

What you feel internally is your private domain. Your business. You don’t owe anyone to feel this or that for them.

Keep the guards 💂‍♀️ 💂‍♂️ out of your private domain. They don’t belong there.

🔮 Anita

Double posting, ha- ha.

Yes, consider a different relationship with those.. wild animals. They don’t listen to “logic/ values”- ..

Your own “wild animals”, 😜 (that emoji just showed up as I typed)-

Tell me about them. If you give them a voice, what do they say (or bark, or howl)?

👿😎 Anita

What an original question, Confused: “Why would they be wilding”?

Maybe the more you try to control them, the wilder they get?

Like, the more you self-doubt them, the angrier they get?

😠 😡 👿 … 🙂 Anita

* and it’s NOT wonderful anymore