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anitaParticipantDear Q:
Sounds to me like she’s honest about her feelings and intention, from what you shared.
Since she expressed that she wants “being friends first without any romantic expectations”- seems to me that it’s okay for you “to start dating in a few weeks time” while you choose a friendship with her, or a pause, so to let things settle within you, becoming more available to new experiences within the friendship realm and/ or the romantic realm.
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anitaParticipantDear Going Through Life:
I am well, or should I say, better, thank you!
C o N g R a T u L a T i O N s for shedding the weight you want to shed ๐ ๐ ๐
Glad you feel light and better and picking up your ๐ธ
As far as meeting her tomorrow, it may help if you prepare for it, coming up with possible scenarios of what she’ll say and how you will respond..?
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anitaParticipantHello Everyone:
Dear James: I owe you an apology for my three posts in this thread. In my rush to express support for Thomas’s ideas and his mention of having compassion for people- without much awareness- I also supported the bit of pushiness/ aggression in his delivery. I regret that, James.
You wrote a post ago, “Heaven and hell are states of consciousness, not places somewhere else. Anger, greed, fear, control, statues, that is hell. Love, awareness, surrender, that is heaven. Both are happening now.”-
I suppose there was a bit of hell in my 3 posts, that is, in my consciousness, because I supported Anger and Control.
I’ll be working on these two items in my new thread about Anger, and I hope to reach closer to “Love, awareness, surrender, that is heaven”.
Thank you, James, for reaching my consciousness, and thank you Jana and Alessa for your recent posts here. You helped me too, bringing me closer to the heaven James is talking about. I wish everyone more and more heaven.
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anitaParticipantHow are you today, Goingthroughlife?
October 7, 2025 at 9:22 am in reply to: A.N.G.E.R (trigger warning, child abuse material is included) #450653anitaParticipantDear Jana (silver blue):
After I submitted the original post of this thread, I got worried: I was afraid that the title of this thread- with capital letters- would disturb you, being it looks aggressive. First thing I was planning to do at the computer this morning was to check with you if my fear was valid, and suggest that I start a new thread just for you to engage in (if you choose to, and for as long as you do), one with a different title, and with a softer tone (no mention of S breaking glass, for example), but with the inner child exercise and notes.
I was relieved to see that you posted the above with no mention of you feeling disturbed over the title, and I will respond to it a little bit later. Still checking.. is this thread, this title, the anger content okay with you to engage with..?
* I just read your ๐ post in your own thread. Being that it’s night time where you’re at, and you leaving tomorrow, I may not hear from you before you leave. I wish you a restful and rejuvenating really offline time!
Oh, and I really like your orange heart emojis, first time I come across it, so it’s unique to you. I looked it up: “The orange heart emoji often represents warmth, care, and emotional balance. Itโs softer than a red heart, less romantic, and more grounded than a yellow heart. People use it to express: Gentle affection, Supportive friendship, Emotional safety without intensity, A warm but non-romantic connection, Healing energy or encouragement”- yes, this does fit you ๐
.. * And I just noticed your newest post in this thread- no, you didn’t offend me and I appreciate your posts here. Since you’re still on the computer, maybe you can answer my question..?
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October 6, 2025 at 9:01 pm in reply to: A.N.G.E.R (trigger warning, child abuse material is included) #450633anitaParticipant* A fist fight (not a feast fight).. for crying out loud ๐
anitaParticipant“One should not need to destroy oneself to be open to the truth of our nature. It should compliment oneโs life not destroy it.”-
Wow, Thomas.. I am humbly speechless.
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anitaParticipantI am here, Going Through Life. I care!
anitaParticipantHow about taking a long hot shower, Going Through Life? Or a hot bath..?
anitaParticipantYou are welcome, Going Through Life.
You needed her to hold you, to calm you down. That’s not what you got ๐
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anitaParticipantDear Going Through Life:
You called her for comfort during panic attacks and she shouted at you and threatened you.. I am so sorry, Going Through Life! You deserve gentleness and understanding.
Maybe she is incapable.. maybe she feels harassed.
I fully support you in moving on. She’s not the one for you!
When you experience a panic attack, what might help?
There are pharmaceutical and therapeutic professional treatments, as well as self-help advice that’s available online.
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anitaParticipantHello Everyone:
What an interesting conversation!
“They have been abused and lost who they are. They actually need to find themselves first to begin healing. They need to be recognized and heard. To learn that they are not alone and there is help.” (Thomas, 10/6)-
I agree. You said it perfectly, says I ๐
“And even Jesus said to teach according to the ability of those to learn.”- I need to implement this truth every day.
“Okay, I am preaching too. The only difference is the compassion I feel. For I lack the wisdom to completely understand the truth.”- I like your humility, compassion and your wisdom, thank you, Thomas!
James, you wrote in your original post (9/25): “Spirituality is the complete death of the self,”- When I read this 11 days ago, it hit me as an extreme thought.. too extreme to be true, because truth is often complex, nuanced, not something so black and white.
I mean, a partial death of the self, perhaps (removing distorted thinking, for one)?
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anitaParticipantYou are welcome, Omyk. I wonder if Copilot (the AI I use), or another conversationalist AI, can help you in regard to all that you are dealing with. It’s been a great help to me.
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anitaParticipantI’ll reply later, in a few hours, take care of yourself
anitaParticipantThis metaphor is beautifulโthank you, Trav, for sharing it. Iโll be looking for my ladders today ๐ช๐ฟ๐๏ธ, Anita
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