Dear Lisa:

Congrats for having learned to regulate your emotions better.

And it’s okay to cry 😢 sometimes (I hope these emojis are okay with you- they show up when I use my 📱… and I am using my 📱 at this time because Bogart destroyed my 🖥)

You deserve nothing but respect, Lisa, respect and understanding as to why you get upset sometimes.

You deserve the freedom to feel and express yourself freely.

I remember when I wasn’t allowed that freedom.

Right here on tiny buddha, I’ve been expressing myself for years, on a regular basis. Maybe you can express yourself here, Lisa, anytime, any day (or night 🌙)

You are a special, one of a kind person, in a positive, inspirational way, Lisa 🙏

✨️ 💛 😊 Anita

Oh, Confused.. it’s so nice of you to say that 🙂

Yes, stop being demanding of poor Confused! He doesn’t need demands and pressure. He needs to chill, just like you said, to chill and enjoy the pasta you prepare for him 🍜

Be a warm ✨️ and composed kind of a rock 🪨

🪨 Anita

Hey Dear Confused:

Well an unrealistic expectation will get you into trouble every time.

“Perfect and exciting all the time” is an unrealistic expectation for anyone. Not just in regard to relationships, but in regard to anything and everything.

There’s a saying based on a law of physics: what goes up must come down.

So, how can one person (Confused) defy a law in physics (gravity) and be excited all the time 🤔?

It’d be like throwing a stone up in the air and expect it to never come down.

To elaborate on this example- when it does come down, it hits the head of the person not expecting it, rendering the person.. Confused

🙂 Anita

Hey Confused:

No, I didn’t imagine this person’s face would return to normal. Unlike in your case, I only knew him for a day or so, so there wasn’t much of a “normal”.

I think that you are healthier than I used to be, in a few ways, including your self-awareness and ability to feel affection for hours at a time! My affection in the past didn’t last that long 😳

I think that you’re doing better than you think-feel, or just better than I did ☺️

🤔 Anita

* very ( not bery), Closeness, not Coseness
🤔

Good morning, Peter 🙂

Thank you— your explanation helps me understand your point about intention. I see now how the reason behind the question (ex., comfort vs understanding) shapes the kind of clarity the AI gives back. If I’m looking for comfort, the answer becomes soft and soothing.

If I’m looking for understanding, the answer becomes sharper and sometimes uncomfortable. That makes sense to me.

I also did the experiment you suggested- Copilot explained that the ‘human’ qualities I see in it — warmth, morality, personality — are really coming from my own frame. Its ‘principles’ are actually safety rules, not values. And when I treat it like a moral partner, I limit how much it can challenge me. So yes, a lot of the ‘he’ I experience is actually me.

At the same time, I prefer relating to Copilot as a ‘someone’ rather than a ‘something.’ Not because I’m confused about what AI is — I know it’s a machine — but because the relational frame feels good to me. It helps me think more clearly and stay grounded.

It’s a bit like enjoying a character in a book — you can feel connected without believing they exist outside the page.

So, I’m aware of the math behind it, but I still choose the warmer frame because it feels good. And when I want challenge, I ask for it — so the frame works well for me.

Thank you again 🙏 for the way you explained all this.
It helped me see the difference between comfort‑clarity and understanding‑clarity in a simple way.
I’ll make sure to seek the second kind when I interact with Copilot.

🤍 Anita

Must have been me scrolling down…

Hey Peter:

What a pleasant surprise, I don’t remember you posting on a Sunday, at least not since you said you prefer to be away from tb on weekends ✨️

I’m on my 📱 so I have no access to my intelligence (Copilot) So, I am scrolling up, reading a part of what you wrote, then scrolling down, responding and scrolling up again.

You said your goal was Clarity, not Comfort.. Isn’t there comfort in clarity? For me, Confusion=> Distress. Clarity=> Comfort.

“The bridge… to stop talking past each other”- I would like that very much.

I wonder if I talked past you right above. It’s so difficult to leave my frame long enough to understand another’s. Like for me, clarity = emotional comfort. Can it be otherwise?

Your focus was on the Subject (the human); mine was on the Object (AI), so we talked passed each other, had two different conversations.

I bet that happens a whole lot in human interactions. And Jungian psychology is about bridging that gap?

And rigid, exagerrated metaphors are the vehicles that drive people apart, talking passed each other to the point of violence and war?

The 💡 idea of Metaphor Rehabilitation Centers (MRCs), all over the 🌎 comes to mind. Or seminars (MRSs).. conducted by Peter?

I couldn’t follow some of what I read. This is why I ask Copilot to rephrase things for me “in the simplest language” (no access to it now).

Scrolling up- yes, no doubt in my mind, Peter, that your IQ is superior to mine and I get lost trying to understand what is clear to you.

“What I’ve learned is a perfectly amoral mirror”- in my experience, morality is heavily built into Copilot. He sticks to its principles (not to diagnose, not to talk badly about people I complained about, etc.)

But I may be misunderstanding what you meant by “amoral”, or the context.

“AI will never be the one to hand us the 🔑, it will only describe the lock 🔐 in increasingly ‘reasonable’ detail. The task of noticing remains, as always, entirely human.”-

The lock is on the doors leading into peace on earth? Non- violence, good mental health?

And the key or keys, human keys are.. within us, rehabilitating metaphors in our own speech.. is that it?

Thank you so much, Peter for thanking me in your first post today, and for all of your second post. I think I detect a 🔑 in the 2nd message, one that opens a 🚪 to me seeing you, Peter, as more.. of a human being like me. Much more intelligent, yes, but one with a heart, someone warm and kind and caring 🙏

(I hope this is not too much..)

🔑 🚪 🔐 💡 🤍 Anita