You are very welcome, Nils (nice photo, by the way!)

anita

Hey Nis-

I can only imagine how frustrating and upsetting this must be. Losing years of personal memories, connections, and content—without warning or recourse—is beyond disheartening. The fact that your account was disabled due to an Instagram account you had never heard of makes this situation even more baffling.

I don’t have a Facebook account, but I hear that reaching out through Meta’s support forums or social media (Twitter/X, Reddit, etc.), where other users have shared similar experiences increases visibility and may prompt further review. Additionally, checking if any close contacts still have access to your albums or shared photos might help you recover at least some of what was lost.

I sincerely hope you find a solution or at least a way to rebuild your connections outside of Facebook. This is an incredibly frustrating situation, and you have every right to be upset.

anita

Dear Omyk:

I really appreciate your openness in sharing what you’re going through. Your awareness of being in a liminal space—that in-between state of transition—makes a lot of sense. Change, especially emotional change, can feel exhausting when we know we need to move forward but haven’t yet figured out how.

Your insight about intensity and how it affects connection with others is powerful. I hope reflecting on it brings clarity rather than discouragement. Intense emotions don’t make you difficult—they make you deeply engaged with your own experience. Some people may struggle to meet that depth, but others will value it immensely.

Regarding your relationship with your child, I can feel the weight of your words. It’s deeply painful for a loving parent to feel rejected or indifferent treatment from their child, especially after loss. She may appear indifferent when in reality, she’s avoiding the pain of unprocessed grief in regard to her mother and grandparents.

She may be in a phase where independence feels like a priority, leading her to emotionally withdraw from you—not because she rejects you, but because she’s exploring autonomy.

I remember that you shared some time ago that your child was “completely uninterested” in keeping her mother’s belongings. There’s a difference between indifference that signals emotional withdrawal versus indifference that masks emotional difficulty. If her behavior stems from unresolved grief or personal struggles, she might not be rejecting you—she might just be processing things in her own way.

If there were pre-existing tensions or emotional disconnects before the loss of her mother, her current behavior might be a continuation of those dynamics rather than a direct rejection of you now..?

anita

Thinking about you, Laven ✨

anita

Dear Omyk: I am looking forward to read and reply to your post Tues morning (it’s Mon night here).

anita

Dear Omyk:

Welcome back to the forums! From what you’ve shared across your various threads, it’s clear that you’ve been searching for meaningful relationships—true companionship, whether through deep friendships or romantic connections—but have struggled to find and sustain them in the way you desire.

Your self-reflection raises important questions about why this has been challenging, and while there’s no single answer, here are a few possibilities to consider:

* The weight of grief & life experience – Losing your wife, along with your parents years earlier, has given you a profound emotional depth. Because of this, your approach to relationships is likely thoughtful, introspective, and deeply personal. However, not everyone may be equipped or willing to engage at that same level. Some might struggle to connect with the emotional intensity of your experiences.

* High standards for connection – You’re not searching for casual friendships or surface-level relationships—you want deep, meaningful bonds built on mutual yearning. That level of emotional intensity is rare and takes time to cultivate.

* Mixed signals in dating – You’ve expressed a desire for companionship but also hesitated in your approach to dating, sometimes expressing interest and engagement, but at other times pulling back or hesitating. These pauses may make it difficult for potential partners to gauge where you truly stand.

* Lifestyle & priorities – Between single parenting, ministry, full-time work, and personal growth, your responsibilities leave limited time and energy for relationship-building.

* Social & cultural factors – You’ve noted that loneliness is widespread, suggesting that your challenge isn’t just personal—it’s part of a larger societal issue where genuine connection is harder to find.

* Internal conflict between love & independence – You’ve voiced both a longing for companionship and a sense of relief in being single. If that tension remains unresolved, it might create hesitancy in forming deeper bonds.

None of this means you’ve “failed”—it simply means that profound relationships take time, the right circumstances, and people who are equally ready for them. You are clearly thoughtful, intentional, and willing to continue seeking connection, and that alone makes you open to receiving meaningful relationships in ways you might not yet expect.

I’d love to hear your thoughts about the above 🙂

anita