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September 1, 2019 at 5:07 pm in reply to: Things were going great, all of a sudden she needs space and wants to break up? #309933
AlecseeParticipantAll,
I am not really a guy who would go above and beyond for a girl. But i did on my 4 year relationship, because I thought she was marriage material. At the end of the day I was too late I decided to late and that’s my fault. I tried to become a better person so that she can see that it could work out. I think because I failed I felt entitled. I felt like people should do stuff for me. But why? Because I’ve put in a lot of time to a different person.
In this relationship I tried to be all the things that my ex of 4 yrs said I wasn’t… more loving/affectionate and just show more care. It’s worth at the beginning, but obviously she’s an introvert and a mediator and need space. But my question is why 4 months of a good relationship and 2 weeks of a rocky relationship came to crash it all down. It doesnt make sense. Did she hold it all in? Then how is that my fault?
When someone is told that they are doing wrong if I made a mistake correct me the day of or the moment of and then I will try to fix it as a partner. Now if somebody doesn’t try to do something about it then there’s a problem. But she was never super vocal about how some things made her felt so how could I know how she was really feeling? I’m usually really good at reading people that but like I said it’s hard for me to read introverts for some reason. The majority of people I can read, I pride myself with that opinion.
I can see the guy situation. And why she would see it that way. Shes drinking. So she can control that.
I kind of want to know what I did wrong so in the future if there’s some sort of introvert that I need I can deal with this situation better.
THERE IS NO CLOSURE otherwise for me. And i need it. I think it can still work out otherwise
Also what does quid pro quo mean? Best
Thank you all!
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March 13, 2019 at 12:59 am in reply to: Cannot give up on my ex (4yrs together) with new man of 4 months #284385
AlecseeParticipantMy message must have not gone through…anyways the emotional outbursts are when i can’t take it and i start being aggressive and say that she doesn’t love him and that i want to live with her, marry her and have kids. Just saying stuff that makes her put her defenses up and causes argument. But it works. Her current boyfriend is moving fast in the relationship and wants to take her with him in his International Job that he just got offered. I’m going to be crazy and then go try to propose to see if I can do anything. I love her too much to Let Her Go. If I failed at least I tried. At the end of the day I let her go so I must pay the consequences. And yes Steve the pain sucks but you can get through it! I’m going to try my best cuz I cannot give up
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