Hahahha , love this !
Inky I have always imagined you as someone who just speaks her mind and tells it how it is! the kind that gives Tough love! I imagined you as an artist though I guess because of “ink”y 🙂 I imagine you being pale and have dark hair for some reason and someone who does have some sort of wild side:):)

@Jasmine-3 is such a kind soul , I imagine her to look exotic and to have black hair and big brown eyes she is wise and caring but I feel like she doesnt get mad fast but when she does it is scary 🙂
Big blue I dont know that well but have read a few forums where he has answered and I can see that he is probably some sort of jokester ( I think thats a word:p) seems like the type that takes life easy , wise in a sort of care free kind of way I pictured him as a big man (not heavy just big boned and tall) and for some reason wearing a white tea shirt 🙂 !
I dont really know matt well enough though 🙁
Who do you think I am:p but you guys probably dont know me well enough yet 😉

Hello Claire:)
First of all I would like to say that in my opinion I find nothing wrong with you at all ! I think it is beautiful that you know who you are and that you are introverted like reading and are different than everybody else. To be honest everyone is different but people these days are so worried about what people think of them that they are all being the same but if they all were their authentic selves, then this would change and we would see a lovely world where everyone was unique. So I would suggest that you embrace being different and enjoy the fact that people will see you different. At least when they think of you they will know who you are because you stand out! When it comes to the negative thinking and analyzing what people think of you, DON’T waste your time! I have been in your shoes before and analyzed SO many thoughts in my mind about what the person in front of me thought of me (all of the thoughts were negative obviously ) and eventually this person would end up being my friend and tell me something SO DIFFERENT than what I had thought they thought of me. And in other times the people I thought might actually like me , turn out to not really care for me at all. So dont waste your time trying because more than likely they are not thinking what you think they are thinking , dont forget everyone has their own way of thinking , own life experiences and own ways of deciding so there is a very small chance you think exactly how someone else thinks. You know how someone you just dont like because they remind you of someone you dont like? Yeah that kind of thing, so you cant really guess because everyone thinks differently. Plus , dont take compliments or insults too seriously because in the end of the day you are the one who has to look at herself in the mirror , so technically no one can push you down or put you up unless you let them! When it comes to the negative thinking I’m not exactly sure what kind of thoughts you have? But remember that your mind is a sacred garden that nothing and no one can enter without YOUR permission !
Hope I helped let me know if there is anything else you would like to know:)
alpal

Hello Lee,
It is a very big step to start changing yourself , you have to push yourself out of your comfort zone and try your hardest to become the person you have always wanted to be . But trust me it can be done! I was once a completely different person disloyal, not confident, a liar, gossiper and was always very nosy but with self discipline and a hell of a lot of will power , I overcame everything and changed myself in every way and find my true self that I was created to be. You can do it trust me , just remember that you might make some mistakes but you have to be easy on yourself and talk to yourself as if you were your best friend. I would suggest looking for hobbies or something nice that you can do by yourself so you realize just how amazing YOU truly are ! Take time to get to know yourself if you would like to look more into that let me know, I have a lot of links and stuff about finding yourself since I too am on that journey . Try to keep track of the way your changing and break down your goals about how you want to stop your co dependency that way you can see how much you are changing. If you forget to keep track you might feel bad and feel as if you are not changing because it will take time to change your way of life. Just don’t ever give up ! Great things take time!

Hello Vera,
Yes I really understand what you mean ! All this new stuff and theories that are coming out that keep saying that we are responsible for everything , makes you feel pressured because you have so much to deal with and to be optimistic all the time ! It is exhausting ! I think you just need to go easy on yourself, I personally believe that you can send out strong signals that may bring you bad things, but sometimes things happen! And you have to deal with it , what you are responsible for is the way you react to it. Anyways , when it comes to not being right now , that is not what it is, we all grow and change , learn and understand new things that is the beauty of life! The journey we have in creating ourselves and making ourselves better and stronger and change the way we think so we can be happy. It is not so much changing yourself as it is just changing the way you control your thoughts, you are just focusing on the better side of you not a different you!
Hope I helped

Hello,
Well it seems as if you have already made a hell for yourself in your mind. I am somewhat of a religious person and consider myself to have an amazing relationship with God, but I too have made so many mistakes in my life , mistakes that religion say will banish you to hell, but that is just the scary side of religion , where they show how mean and frighting God can be. But that isnt the beautiful side of it, if you look deep into your religion you will see how beautiful and forgiving He is, trust me , He has already forgiven you, but you have not forgiven yourself for what you did. We are only human, in my religion they teach us that God has more mercy on us than a mother would have on her newborn child, so I’m sure he has forgiven what you have done. So what you made a couple of mistakes? He’s always waiting for you to return to him with open arms. And they say that He waits and hopes that one day you will return to him . Stop researching and looking for the scary side of the religion , the part that I think a lot of people tend to exaggerate about , this is not how it is suppose to be. And there is no such thing as you are damned to Hell. You are still alive, still breathing , still able to make a change, so He has still given you a chance to change and become a better person and to find your true self. We all make mistakes thats how we learn and grow , it takes a very strong person to be able to change and make themselves better and I believe you have that in you . Try listening to Joel Osteen on youtube , he doesn’t speak of the scary and frighting parts of the religion that fill you up with guilt, he talks about the love of it and how amazing it is. Think of Him as your best friend , thats how I talk to him , every time I pray I feel as if I am calling Him to talk to Him about all the problems I have,thank Him for everything and if I have done anything that would upset Him , I would ask for forgiveness and expect Him to forgive me, because that is a promise He made to us and then I would never repeat what I did again. and I for one can promise you this , He hears you every single time . Just try to start fresh with Him , try listening to more uplifting people, if you can get your hands on ” A pocketful of promises for Women” that would help alot because it is a very beautiful book that makes you feel so loved and cared for from Him
Good luck and I hope I helped , if you have any questions let me know . We are all in this together 🙂