Hi Nichole,

I sympathize with your story and would like to be there for you by being a listening ear and relying to you any positivity that I can in the moment. If you are willing to talk pls reach out to me through email Amisha0127@gmail.com.

Hi Alexandria,

I do believe that trauma can change you, for some it’s for the better and others it can be for the worst. Some people tend to use what it is that they went through to help others by letting them know they are not along. They also use what they’ve been through to make them stronger and may start blogs, social media pages or community activities to up lift others, also may turn to a religion or spirituality to help them heal from what it is they’ve gone through and see another perspective of the trauma. Some tend to allow what they’ve been through to deter them from their goals and aspirations and turn towards substances to help them cope and others engage in lustful activities to get them through.

Either way it does changes you, it all depends on what you want for yourself and your life. It’s okay to feel down, sad and at times hopeless. However it’s not about how many times you fail it’s all about how you decide to get up. I pray that your situation and mental health from those pass traumas gets better and that you become a stronger individual that inspire many people with your story.

• This reply was modified 4 years, 10 months ago by Amisha.

Hi Harry,

Congratulation on graduating. I think a gap year is best for those who are still searching for the things they truly enjoy or want to do.  It’s a great choice, you also mentioned that you have a sense of emptiness within, it may be because you haven’t found what it is that you truly enjoy, you’ve gone to school and accomplished that goal and now you’re planning on finding a job and figuring out what grad program you want to enter. Though it’s not as exciting because at this point in your life you thought you’d be further than where you are in other aspects of you life.

It’s best for you to process those feelings that you are having and try to understand what it is that you are going through deep within and why you feel the way you do. Once you understand why it is,  you’d be more aware of them and can deal with it head on, instead of distracting yourself and pushing your feeling aside. Happiness is an inside job, the thing is you may have not been able to gain that happiness within because you haven’t dealt with what or whom has hurt you or disappointed you.

What I’ve learned on my journey of self healing and happiness is that I first had to forgive others and myself from either letting me down or leaving me. It can be a daunting task however, it’s a task that’s worth taking on for your peace, happiness and self care.

If you rely on other’s to determine your happiness there’s chances that they will hurt you, because we are only human beings and we do make mistakes, if we put our all in to people to satisfy us we will be left disappoint someday. You seem like a honest and good person. I know everything will work out for you. Try journalizing, or voice recording so that you can look back on how far you’ve came from the place you were once in. Which will be an uplifter and help you be more aware of yourself and emotions.