Hi Michele,

Thanks for your response.

I haven’t been to Canada but I have heard many good things about it. I plan to apply for a work visa /PR. Toronto and Vancouver are the places I know that have Finance jobs. I hold an MBA in Finance; with 5 years experience; but applying for PR is a matter of luck!?

Cheers!

Hi Gabrielle,

I can very well relate to what you’re going through. This happens when we give unconditionally to people around us; and when we realize that we haven’t got in return what we deserve; we burst out with emotions. The longer we give the stronger are the emotions. And people take you for granted when you don’t raise your voice at the right time.

I would say, make peace with the reality. After all; you have been a wonderful human being all your life; so why not now. Do what you need to to express your emotions; in the end accept it, and move ahead with the way you would want to see yourself as.

Stay blessed!

Hi Nikki,

I completely understand what you’re going through. This was kind of my plight a week ago. I have lost hope to find another person for my life, but I have accepted that I don’t need to be thinking and worrying about it right now. Life goes on. Day before yesterday I was stuck with many negative thoughts in the bed while waking up; losing time and not realizing it. Then I shook myself and got up; engaged myself in household chores, watching tv, etc. I started feeling better.

My friend, it’s not easy to go through fights, specially when it turns physical (I had been through it and the worst part I still share the same neighbors who had seen it all).

I believe, it’s always better to part ways when we are not sure if we want to go ahead with a person (in other words, if you’re not happy with your decision, you would never be able to keep him happy). As an Indian, I can only say that you saved yourself from the mess that could come after marriage (where you are not just married to the guy, but the family). Stop feeling guilty, stop being harsh on yourself. And in his and your better interests, cease all the contacts, if any, with him; more because he is starting a new life now. I would say to you ‘MOVE ON’. It’s easier said than done. But you have gathered the courage and will to make your life better. You can do it. Go easy with yourself. Be gentle to yourself. Love yourself. Because you’re an amazing person at heart. Make peace with your past.

Get REAL
R: Realise that you have been through hurtful situations. Realize the reality.
E: Engage yourself in Positive thinking. Do things that make you happy.
A: Accept the fact that you’re not perfect. Don’t compare yourself to others.
L: Love yourself unconditionally. For you have a beautiful heart and you’re unique.

Hope it helps!

Lots of positivity and courage to you:-)

Hi Trixie,

Many of us have this problem with ‘guilt factor’. And good to know that I’m not the only one 🙂 Last year, I was thinking exactly what you’re going through right now. Thank God I didn’t text him. For the reason being ‘It is now a ‘PAST”. And it would be better for both to MOVE ON.

More importantly, if he hasn’t sent you text in a year; isn’t it clear enough for you to understand that he has moved on; or want to.

I have learned in the past one year to hold on to this thought of ‘caring’ and believe me, it has only helped me to grow and be better!

Hope it helps…

Stay blessed!:-)

Hi Saurav,

Yes, it does happen. I recently had two breakups. 1) Marriage – I’m sure you understand how difficult it is to break a marriage in India! Pheeeww.. Yes, I came over it!
2) Relationship.

Of late, I had been blaming myself over these two failures in relation. I thought the problem was with me, may be I was wrong that’s MY relationships broke. 1) 6 year relationship and 2) 3 years.

Practically speaking, our generation has changed. It’s no more like our parents who would stick around with each other in the marriage no matter what. We are more like, if it’s not working and if we are not happy, we will move forward rather than being stuck. Here comes the phase which we find difficult, to live alone, and make up for the heartbreak.

Always, it just takes time. And partially, it also depends on how much we are ready to help ourselves come over with it. Your blog tells that you want to get over with it and move forward. Which in itself is a good sign. And my friend, you’re way too lucky to not have married the wrong person; it could have been a mess among families and society.

Just remember, ‘Life goes on’. Whenever you’re emotional and stuck with the past feelings…Say to yourself….’Life goes on’.

Cheers!
Stay blessed and all the best for your career in photography.

I feel the same way. Even I used to think that I’m crazy and it’s a small mind that thinks this way. But I guess we all are on right track to appreciate all the small and beautiful things we have around us. Isn’t it?

Cheers!
Stay blessed:-)
Lots of positivity from India!