This forum is a safe place for those who wish to express themselves. But, that seems to be only for the chosen few. Anyone with a dissenting position gets hacked at by the resident therapist, Anita. She has been doing this so long that she has made a name for herself here. She is much loved and cared for here. I can see why. Unfortunately, she doesn’t see what she has done. But, that is just the way life is. Harsh and crude. I hope anyone who encounters such a situation can overcome their position and make a better life for themselves. Waiting for my membership to be revoked.

[quote quote=436483]I saw this man on an off for over two years. He was toxic towards me, told me from the start he does not want a relationship with me. I was obviously too stupid to not leave him. We were only intimate from behind and he never kissed me and only wanted to see me when he wanted too. He told me he never wants to be in a relationship and he never wants to marry or have children. [/quote]Hmmm, okay.

[quote quote=436483]January this year he left me for another woman – who lives down the street from me. They are now in a committed relationship and he moved in with her – and she has a child. [/quote]Yeah, he should be beaten within and inch of his life for doing that to you.

[quote quote=436483] I decided to change my number and my last message to him is to leave me alone and stay out of my life and never dare to contact me again. I ended everything. [/quote]That should have told him off.

[quote quote=436483]And now he completely hates me and hes not afraid to show it. I feel depressed, hurt and angry. He treated me like trash, and now he treats her like a Princess. He told me he does not want children, now she has a child. What is wrong with me that I was not good enough? Why was I treated badly and not her? I wish I was good enough – but Im not and that breaks me everyday. I need some advice please and thank you.[/quote]I wonder why? You have been nothing but nice.

[quote quote=436646]Dear Lily-Mae: I am so sorry for the rude and very inappropriate reply by the member Tommy. This is not his first rude reply, but it’s his first rude reply to an OP (original poster) who expressed suicidal thoughts, so his inappropriateness has arrived at a new low. I am very disturbed by this and I just emailed the website owner a message about what happened here. I will reply to you further, Lily-Mae. Again, I am sorry. anita[/quote]

Thank you Anita for showing me that I was wrong to reply to a suicidal person. My post has since been removed. It was not my intention to press her suicidal mood. Sorry. But, I do believe that she had all the signs that this was not a good relationship and yet she pressed forward with it. It was a poor choice. Just like my choice of words.

I found myself on the edge of a razor. Looking at her actions and listening to her words. Neither made any sense in light of the other. She definitely needs professional help. I am sorry for my ability to see both sides of an argument. Lily-Mae obviously doesn’t deserve to be treated so harshly. And yet, by her own words, she tells how bad a relationship it was. If you feel the need, then you can ask that I be banned from this website. But, I will continue to add my two cents cause life isn’t just one sided. Live long and prosper.

Lily-mae, if you are reading this then I hope you get the help you really need to recover and live a better life.

You are turning every encounter with a female into a crush. Hormones must have you captured. Getting jealous? That is a weak man’s excuse for being insecure. Wouldn’t people have a life? Other men or women in their lives? You are suppose to be open to new relationships. Not have intricate feelings woven into every little meeting.

Sorry, I think it is great to have few days without porn. But, do not count the days. Or the number will turn into an excuse for “why not”. In any case, please don’t hide parts of your life. Be open to love. It will happen.

Wait, I understand the condition with the Ghoster guy. That was a relationship that failed. Who is this new guy? And were you involved with him like you were with the ghoster? Did the new guy make any promises of love or relationship? It doesn’t make sense to me why a guy would do that. If they are involved with you romantically then why would another woman even be with that guy?

I am sorry for your new heartbreak. It is not an easy thing to do to survive one break up after another. You seem to be a super nice person. Just do not understand why any guy would walk away like that. Nothing wrong with you.

Oh, I forgot to mention, my mom did not speak English very well. And the dementia made English even more difficult for her. She couldn’t communicate her feelings or her needs to the staff. Towards the end, she spent more time sleeping than awake.

Wow, that is a lot of tragedy for one person to go thru. I am sorry for such sorrow. What can one do to forget and not have to bring up memories of bad stuff? If you find out then let me know. I have a memory of a day with my high school girlfriend. It went terrible and she broke up with me. I go back to that day in my mind and go thru what I should have done. What I could have done. Anything to make me not feel this way. And this memory pops up everyday.  Oh, I found her thru the internet and called her up. We talked but I am still haunted by my memory of that day. She since has passed away from lung Cancer.

I know this sounds easy, forgive. Forgive them and forgive yourself. This will lighten the load on your heart. I have spent much time sitting in meditation. The time spent just sitting and watching my breath has helped me. Helped me to understand myself. It has let me know that I can choose to identify with my thoughts or not to be swept away by my thoughts. It allows me to let go of the memory of that day. I do not have to relive it over and over again. Regret? Sure, why not. Something I did or did not do?? Doesn’t matter anymore. Love? Just a feeling?

I try to practice being here and now. Watch people’s actions and their intentions. It isn’t what they say that matters. It is what they do (their actions) and their intentions when they do it. If you found out your SO or whatever is bad mouthing you, then did you ask why they do that? Ask why they feel the need to hurt you? Make them understand that they are hurting a person. Not just an insignificant person. But, someone they are suppose to care for?

Yeah, listen to Anita. She has been here helping people for almost forever. She is good. “god, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

Call it what you will, it is the practice that takes one away from where we stand to enter the stream and finally to cross over.

What did the blonde say to the other blonde across the river? 1st blonde: How did you get across the river? 2nd blonde: Don’t be silly. You are already there.