Wow, did not expect that. When I was young, I didn’t understand love. I still may not. But, after 29 years of marriage, I understand what it means to live with someone. It takes lots of compassion and understanding. Sometimes compromise. Sometimes I think I am a sentimental cause my heart grows heavy during those romance movies. I feel the pain of separation. And feel the joy when they get back to together. So, those love songs do get to me. But, am thinking the blues might suit me better. Thanks for all the nice words. Alessa too! You, both, have been deeply compassionate and caring.

hey Anita,

You don’t have to make excuses for me. I know when I am wrong. Just don’t like to admit it. Yes, the regrets pile up. But, if I don’t give it the critical eye then who would? It is the constant pressure that lets me keep my eyes open to being a better person. Open minded.

Oh, the song, … it must be the poetic part of me. To say things in a rhyme and not in direct word sense that brings a wholeness to meanings and feelings. Life is a moment in space, when the dream is gone, it is a lonelier place. Or Lady Gaga’s Always remember us this way. I feel the sadness. Maybe I should try listening to the Blues?? Hey, I just noticed aged spots on my arm that remind me of the big dipper.

Makes me wonder if we stay in earth’s orbit for the next rebirth or do we go to the starts to live in another world? What does Karma have in store?

Enough about me. Sadness envelopes me like the darkness when the sun goes down. I can still see a little bit because of the moon. Oh, what three things can not be hidden forever? The sun, the moon and the truth.

That Arizona sky Burning in your eyes,
You look at me and, Babe,
I want to catch on fire,
Its buried in my soul,
Like California gold,
You found the light in me that I could find,

It is such a pretty melody

Looks like Rosa made one post and done. Hasn’t been back. No way to message. So, reply here.
Even though the name of the forum has the word Buddha in it, it really isn’t a Buddhist website.
Rarely is there talk about meditation and enlightenment. However, this place does allow for those who may have issues to find a sympathetic heart. There are people who who have much heart and good wishes. There is much compassion but not enough wisdom as in what the Buddha would have said. The Buddha would always be directing one toward spiritual growth.

So if you are looking for an ear to listen to your woes, this is an excellent place for a compassion.
Advice sometimes comes in the expression of sympathy. But, truly no one wants to give bad advice.
There are many who would like to be friends. Just come back and post.

Hi Lunar,
Controlling wife? Have to live by her rules? I am pretty sure she loves you very much.
It is difficult to live under the control of someone else. But, for love, you just have to shower her with affection.
Then have good conversations where you show how you feel without “the face”. Not all at once but little by little.
The affection will keep her mind open to listen you. The soft voice and willingness to compromise will help move this relationship forward. The nature of the world is change. And things will change. Just be willing to make it happen over time. Good luck.

Anyone want to hear a man’s opinion of what seems to have happened in this relationship? It can be crude and harsh to read. Most men are simple and reactive. Present a good front and things seem to go well. If one begins to express frustration then it becomes annoying. No man wants to hear how bad he is. You may think that is not how it came out. If it isn’t encouragement to do more because it is fun and makes one happy then it is like complaints. In one ear and out the other. He says he wants to you then you say you need space. That means rejection. Rejection from someone you don’t know is easy to take. Rejection from someone you care about, that hurts. Just seems the two people involved were on two different planets. The only thing to do is to grow from your experiences. Someone better will come along. Just be open to love.