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BenzRabbitParticipantHi Lexcee,
Most times there is an event that triggers such loss of drive !
Something has happened to you or around you – you are the only person that can figure out what that is !!
Also, perfectionism caused by high expectations from parents can be a very heavy burden. Please read this short article – it will help:
http://www.wikihow.com/Control-PerfectionismDon’t worry about the future – life always works itself out !
GOD Bless !!
BenzRabbitParticipantGo for a walk – even for a few minutes !
Chewing gum helps – as does Nicorette !!
Worst case try e-cigs.
BenzRabbitParticipantHi Alexandra,
I am sorry you had to go through so much at such a young age !
As you know, old memories/scars take time to heal – all we can do is keep moving forward. When the bad memories come, acknowledge them but don’t give them space in your mind.
Keep doing positive things that you like. Also, any form of physical activity helps – a walk outside calms my mind !
Read the book ‘The Highly Sensitive Person’ by Dr. Elaine Aron – here is the link to her site:
http://www.hsperson.com/GOD bless !
November 16, 2014 at 5:56 pm in reply to: Loss of First Love – A Grieving Period I Need Help To Understand #67948BenzRabbitParticipanthi Megan,
I am much older and can tell you from life experience that breaking up is hard to do at any age !
If you have a great bond/connection with someone it makes it even harder to let go, and sometimes is worse than someone dying because we feel we could have done something to save the relationship and cannot let go of the regrets !!
But we have to let go and move forward because there is no other way – you have to go through the emotions and keep taking small steps forward otherwise you will end up depressed and make things worse.
I can tell you are a kind and gentle soul and you deserve someone that will truly love you and won’t leave you.
Listen to this song by Josh Groban – it helped me get through some tough times:
GOD Bless !
BenzRabbitParticipanthi SN,
Time heals us but emotions have to be dealt with early or else it leads to depression which can lead to other dark places !
At the end of the day, we just want to be loved since we are human !!
Please read these 2 short articles:
1) http://www.professional-counselling.com/how-to-deal-with-rejection.html#.VGk_JKQo6rw
2) http://www.wikihow.com/Handle-Rejection
Also, listen to this song – it will bring you some peace and hope:
GOD bless !
BenzRabbitParticipantYohannes,
Joe’s last line above reminded me of the song ‘You are not alone’ – here is the link:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8FXLo3aCkuQ
Don’t give up – your angels will guide you forward !
GOD Bless !!
BenzRabbitParticipantYohannes,
If your dog is the reason to keep breathing then please keep breathing for him – pets are our Angels here on earth !
Just try to take it one day at a time and do not think further than that – if you do, you will overwhelm yourself with concerns about the future.
Please treat your depression – here is a link to get you started:
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/treatment_strategies_depression.htmIf you feel suicidal you can chat online to a person that will listen – here is the link for that:
http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/gethelp/lifelinechat.aspxThere are days when we feel like the darkness will never go away but the sun always rises ! Please listen to this one song called ‘The Sun is rising’ by Britt Nicole – if not anything it will get you thru the day – here is the link:
GOD bless !
BenzRabbitParticipantKristi, you seem to be a member of Lakewood / follower of Joel 🙂
BenzRabbitParticipantHi Julie,
You are going through change and sometimes change makes us uncomfortable !
The core reason seems to be that your passion is nursing and you are not where you want to be – so all the other external events add to your unhappiness ! Ellish has given you some good advice above on this.
In addition, you probably had low self-esteem/confidence before (that you were not consciously aware of), and it has come to the forefront now because of your situation.
Please read this short article – it will help:
http://www.wikihow.com/Develop-Self-EsteemGOD bless !
September 20, 2014 at 12:50 pm in reply to: Not All Who Wander Are Lost – Though It Sure Seems Like It #65279BenzRabbitParticipantHi AniaK:
Let me begin by saying you are not alone in feeling the way you do, and many of us ‘talk to GOD’ 🙂
The reason you feel lost is because you are an ‘old soul’ and have been here before !
Please realize we come here on different ‘journeys’. It is not fair to yourself to compare your path to anyone else – society has groomed us to do so and it takes a lot of will power to break that thought process.
It is ok that you haven’t found your ‘calling’ yet. Sometimes the answers come to us when we least expect them.
You are only 32 and things can turn around for the better in no time. Don’t give up on yourself !
Here is the link to a simple article that may help you:
http://www.wikihow.com/Find-Your-Life’s-PurposeGOD Bless !
BenzRabbitParticipantHi Yohannes,
You have got some excellent advice from the good folks above.
Please read the book ‘The Highly Sensitive Person’ by Elaine Aron – here is the link to her website which also has a self-test:
http://www.hsperson.com/GOD Bless !
BenzRabbitParticipantHi Ibarry,
I feel your pain !
Breaking up is hard enough and then having the ex move 2 houses down with someone else is ‘salt on the wound’ !!
Obviously, the situation is still impacting you. So, first, I would sell the house and Move – “Out of sight, out of mind”.
Next, you need to take steps to build your self-worth, and when you are ready the right person will come along.
Here is the link to a great book by Louise Hay called “You can heal your Heart’ – please read it:
I pray you find Love again !
GOD Bless !
September 6, 2014 at 6:01 pm in reply to: Feeling ashamed and not being able to forgive myself. #64488BenzRabbitParticipantHi Harmony,
Inky is right – considering your circumstances you can easily get an annulment.
The issues that came up at the beginning of your marriage are not small issues !
Sometimes, things are just not meant to be and it is better to be in no relationship than in a bad one !!
Please don’t beat yourself up – stressful situations will make us do things we normally would not do.
God bless !
September 6, 2014 at 5:31 pm in reply to: Feeling incredibly lonely since the end of a relationship #64487BenzRabbitParticipantHi Bren,
You have been given some good advice above.
Please listen to this one song called ‘You are loved’ by Josh Groban – it helped me get through some very tough times and hope it works for you too – here is the link:
God bless !
BenzRabbitParticipantHi Lauren,
You are young and need to deal with depression now before it becomes a bigger issue into adulthood.
Please read the following short article – it will help get you:
http://www.wikihow.com/Overcome-Depression
God bless !
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