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BenzRabbitParticipantHi Echo,
It broke my heart reading your post !
You have gone through more than any human should have to and as Jasmine said above you have done very well just to have made it through those terrible experiences !!
Let me begin by saying that today is a new day – I pray all the negative experiences from your past will be left behind and you start a new life filled with hope. To do so, you first have to put the past behind and move forward just one day at a time. Do not think about anything more than that – the answers will come as you go along.
Here is the link to an excellent website that should help you:
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/emotional_psychological_trauma.htmAlso, please listen to this song called ‘The Sun is Rising’ by Britt Nicole – it helped me get through tough times. Here is the youtube link:
GOD Bless !
BenzRabbitParticipantSN,
You have identified your own problem: “Due to my fears, since the age of 14 I have not been without a companion more than maybe a few months.” So, you do not want to be ‘ALONE’ !
Our fears develop when we are young. I do not know your history but can tell you that in most cases, the fear of being alone comes from childhood when we are not loved/treated right by one of both of our parents !
You have to first clear the fears/past from your mind and gain ‘SELF-LOVE’ !
Here are 2 website links that will help you get started:
http://rohan7things.wordpress.com/2013/01/10/how-to-overcome-loneliness-and-a-fear-of-being-single/
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-legacy-distorted-love/201109/why-am-i-so-afraid-being-aloneGod bless !
BenzRabbitParticipantI am much older than most of you and can tell you from personal experience there is one simple question that gives you the answer:
What would you do if money was not a criteria ?
Answer that and you will find your direction !
God bless !!
BenzRabbitParticipantHi Elle,
I understand your pain – it is very difficult when we have faced life’s challenges for a long time and then something else comes along to knock us down when we least expect it !
Please know that you are not alone and Light ALWAYS overcomes darkness – just do the best you can and take it one day at a time !! Your angels will guide you forward.
Here is the link to a song called ‘Hands’ by Jewel that helped me – hope it helps you too:
God bless !
BenzRabbitParticipantHi Alyce,
You have been given some good advice above.
I would only add that please realize you did the best you could and do not beat yourself up – you are Human and there is only so much you can do !!
God bless !
BenzRabbitParticipantHi Zaica,
You have been given some good advice above by Inky and Matt.
I would add to that by recommending 2 articles – here are the links:
http://www.focusonthefamily.com/marriage/communication_and_conflict/inlaw_relationships.aspx
http://drphil.com/articles/article/28
God bless !
BenzRabbitParticipantHi KT,
In my opinion, not having confidence in yourself is a major factor.
You are young and have your entire life ahead of you – so, work on building your self-confidence and self-esteem. Do not worry about what others may think. The answers will come to you.
There are some good articles on the main page of this site (Tiny Buddha) and here is the link to a site that has simple advice: http://www.wikihow.com/Build-Self-Confidence
God Bless !
June 24, 2014 at 7:54 pm in reply to: Depression, extraordinary loneliness – need to talk to anyone! #59503BenzRabbitParticipantDermot,
Please click on the link below and read this:
http://www.deepakchopra.com/blog/view/998/tired_of_life
God bless !
June 14, 2014 at 3:19 pm in reply to: Depression, extraordinary loneliness – need to talk to anyone! #58837BenzRabbitParticipantHi Dermot,
You have been give some good advice by folks above. I am much older and would add the following:
1) There are no set times for life events – some make it earlier, some later. You are only 20 and have your entire life ahead of you.
2) Just take it one day at a time and try to fill your day with activities that move you forward. I pray your angels guide you toward your dreams from this day on !
Listen to this one song by Josh Groban called ‘You are loved, don’t give up’ – it helped me tremendously – here is the youtube link:
God bless !
BenzRabbitParticipantHi Skot,
People can be very mean/nasty and make life miserable !
I am much older than you and found out from personal experience that there are so many of them you cannot payback all of them – you have to adapt/change yourself otherwise you will drive yourself mad with anger !
You are 29 and have the best years of your life ahead of you – don’t let the past haunt/spoil your future !
As Mike said above, karma will take care of things. Even the Bible says in Romans 12:19:
“Never take your own revenge, beloved, but leave room for the wrath of God, for it is written, ‘Vengeance is Mine’ says the Lord”So, let go of the past and start dreaming about the life you want going forward – then take positive steps towards building that future.
God bless !
ps: listen to this song by Fragma called ‘you are alive’ – it helped calm me – here is the youtube link:
BenzRabbitParticipantHi SadieSullivan:
From personal experience I can tell you that being introverted and isolated is very tough after a break-up !
However, we need to move forward with the next chapter of our life and the right person always shows up at the right time – so don’t give up hope – that would be my first suggestion !
There is a book by Louise Hay titled ‘You can heal your life’ that helped me. It is also available as a movie download on the web. She also has affirmations – here is the youtube link to one of them:
Hope that helps.
God bless !
BenzRabbitParticipantHi Jaime,
Almost everyone comes to a fork in the road at some point in life – some earlier and some later!
We feel lost and confused and that is a natural feeling. It is the Universe asking us to decide which road we want to take going forward.
I recommend taking a long walk outdoors and asking yourself what would make you happy going forward. I pray you find your answer soon.
Please listen to this one song called ‘Lost’ – here is the youtube link:
God bless !
BenzRabbitParticipantHi Jara,
There are no accidents and there are no ugly people – we are all human beings that are different from each other !
Please know you ARE a good person – don’t ever doubt that! You feel lost now but I pray you will find your way out soon.
Here is the link to one of my favorite songs called ‘Lost’ – please listen to it.
God bless !
BenzRabbitParticipantHi Jo,
Please know you are not alone and you are NOT a wasted human being !
We go through tough times that make us feel tired and alone but please don’t give up. It is never too late – you never know what tomorrow will bring! I pray it brings hope and new beginnings for you.
Please take 5 minutes and listen to this one song – it is my favorite song by Delta Goodrem who was diagnosed with cancer at age 18, beat it, and came out better/stronger and more successful. Here is the youtube link:
GOD bless !
BenzRabbitParticipantHi Suze,
You misunderstood my response.
1) You don’t have any addictions but the reason I brought it up was because you wrote: “I’m seriously attempted to restart my old addictions (drinking & smoking) to escape the way I feel that there is no point to life”.
As you know, resisting any addiction (including drinking) is a lifelong effort because the demons can get triggered by any stressful life event. So, I just wanted you to be aware that it could become an issue under stressful circumstances.
2) Same goes for depression – in most severe cases, it is a lifelong effort to keep the demon away. The reason I mentioned post-partum depression is because in people with a prior history of depression there is a high probability of developing depression after having a baby.
Finally, I did not say your bf was going to leave you penniless – when I said resources I meant resources for emotional support.
I hope things work out for you.
God bless and good luck !
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