George sorry to hear your on your own and dealing with loss of relationship x 35 year a long time  I am finding it hard after 27 years    we have both agreed on house and finances and I got good advice x what’s your story ?

I’m ok this evening been very emotional day but I’m trying to have an hour just on me

Yes I can relate to some of your comments

I think I need to accept for whatever reason it’s over and try and move forward

I’m really hurting myself I just turn it over and over in my mind and I’m making myself ill . I want to show my son that I’m a proud women that’s happy in my own skin x

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In an argument we both would just say things such as we’re done with each other or the other was being Silk and over reacting but it was never in a way that made me feel it was true always felt out of frustration for the situation we always resolved it and apologies came and we made up

He would say he wasnt very nice as most of the disagreement came from his moodiness he would say I deserve better and that he really didn’t like himself

His Mum and Dad divorced but very close neither met other people so we alwAys got together as a family but they were not conventional his dad has mental health issues and need a lot looking after so my ex didn’t really have the normal farther son relationship he was the adult in that on  His Mum very hard lady but deep but in recent years has dementia so again we became carer      He is an amazing son does all he can for his parents but still has a lot of guilt thinks he should do more

We met through my brother who was same age we went around in group became friends for a number years but spent all time together no physical relationship until he was 17 no secrets parents were ok at time I don’t think they thought it was last as long as it did

Disagreement over 27 years were for many different reasons but if I focus on last 5 years where we hAve had added pressures of caring for our parents   time together was hard never seen be the time of we argued we are both stubborn and could not speak for days keep out each others way  of say hurtful things that you probably don’t mean

He’s has always had low self esteam say he’s not a very nice person and He doesn’t deserve to be happens could be very up or very down but that was just part of his personality   in truth he was a very kind person that would do anything or anyone and socially a few drinks in he was life soul of the party but at home he could be the complete opposite

We as a couple were complete opposites I do not smoke or drink he loved a drink and smokes and also cannabis

He was also very vocal to me my fAmily and my friends that I was his world his queen he also mAde me feel loved and secure never ever did I think he did want to be with me

The night before he told me we had a family dinner watched a film sleeped in bed were physical  then he told.me he wanted out ?? confused to say the least

I really don’t understand why hes angry with me he walked away he made the decision to leave, I thought we had a strong relationship over 27 years of course there were times we had disagreement and He suffers with low self worth something I’ve always told.him was wrong   He was moody suffered low and high moods but that was part of him and I accepted that I don’t thing we ever mistreated each other   this is why it’s all such a shock to me    im.so heartbroken

So I receive a text to say from ex       I’ve had to open all boxes today where did you pack folder from book case     I ask what are you looking for       reply.     Does it matter not packed in any boxes not your problem don’t worry

I felt was so rude no further text I don’t deserve his frustration being taken out on me really upset my He keeps saying wants to be there for support but text this way

Can’t believe it’s come to this he’s been my best friends for all theses years