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CBParticipantIm not sure exploring will.help my ex has no explorations for this situation he just said a switch has flicked for him and he needs to do this for himself he need some independence He understands the consequences of his actions but still feels the need to do it I need to decide to move forward and I understand how I can do it He keeps .saying He wants me I his life and to be friends but I’m not sure I have the strength to do thAt it hurts too much to be in touch and see him.move on but I also feel devestted when I’m no in touch so hard
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March 29, 2020 at 2:33 am in reply to: Trying to deal with anxiety and loss after relationship break up #345980CBParticipantMichele thank you this forum has really helped and Reading that what I’m feeling is normal and others have been there we can go for a walk so I’ve been doing that everyday and will continue to. Lockdown has made moving forward hard feel like I’m stuck here alone with my thoughts and my mind is just in repeat why what how has this happens after 3 months I thought I’d be better I think this with and lack of contact from ex and family has compounded my sadness x One day at time positive thoughts and fresh air
March 29, 2020 at 12:05 am in reply to: Trying to deal with anxiety and loss after relationship break up #345966CBParticipantGenie thanks for your posItive world I’ve been consumed with sadness last few days many years and feeling worthless But I need to refocus and try some positive steps I have given my self in whole to this family loving them good bad and the ugly unfortunately I haven’t received that love back in return neex. I’m totally .broken need rebuild I guess it’s so so hard Lockdown has become so overwhelming
March 28, 2020 at 1:34 pm in reply to: Trying to deal with anxiety and loss after relationship break up #345926CBParticipantGenie thanks for your kind words x Your right I do miss ‘akl those things but in these unprecedented times of lockdown I miss my family unit we should be going through this together but I feel alone with my worries and anxiety and the longer it goes on your trapped you can’t keep busy and do new things it’s so hard he’s taken so much from me family friends and my social contacts I don’t know where to start and move forward
Hope your in a good please and happy x
CBParticipantdo you feel that I could have been so blind for 27 years to not see the real person I hope that’s not true I do feel as you said he’s had. mid life crisis and the way he’s acting is the only way he can move forward unfortunately his actions have destroyed my unconditional love and respect for him it’s devastating
CBParticipantThanks I will I called the hospital direct and have updates so I’m happy that i am aware of there current status im am totally heartbroken that my partner can change in his treatment of me it’s just unbelievable I always though whatever happened we would at least remain friends I see now that’s not the case I’ve lost my family Best friend Lover and social life . Hes moved out and carried on as normal like he just cut me out and carried on I’m broken a
CBParticipantMy ex would have no.problem with me calling but I have had to take a step back A a it hurts to call and hear him as he’s move forward very fast and seams to be in a good place me and my ex were the closest to both in laws in just hurt that ex shows no respect in these challenging times to keep me informed would take a second to text
CBParticipantYes both can not have visitors so very hard they both no how much I love them I just find it hard that ex family do not feel need to keep me updated after all the years of care I have as I love them. I will call the hospital direct and get updates. The whole situation hurts they are all alone that’s the hard thing to accept
CBParticipantToday tough very alone in-laws both in hospital one Covid19 the other Sepsis. Do I call or contact ex. My sons worried they hadn’t contacted me direct don’t know what to do
March 28, 2020 at 1:16 am in reply to: Trying to deal with anxiety and loss after relationship break up #345828CBParticipant@ Michelle thanks for your kinds words I hope time really does help I just feel so lost and lonely and being in lockdown doesn’t help. People tell you to keep busy and try new things but that’s not possible at the moment my whole world was wrapped up in him and his family and it’s all gone in one conversation the shock is so so painful
@Genie thanks also for your kind words. It’s been three months I have soul searched as he feels it was very much habitual for me no I was happy loved my life and that’s what’s so hard it was such a shock to me. We had plans things we were going to do. The pain for me is as bad as the day he left i am finding it hard to move forwardThe Covid 19 situation has put many things for people into perspective for me it makes me miss him more and his family I should not be going through this alone I should have the m but I find contact with them all so painful
Lost and very very lonely
CBParticipantYes accurate account. He hoping I can buy him out of the home and give him the equity as I have a good job and could afford to do this. We have no rights here as not married but we both is house and as our sons 20 an adult he is entitled to the equity
when first told me he felt it was over I offered to stay in the house and pay for six months so he could have space and sort his head out he refused and said that wasn’t right as it would be having his cake and eating it said he want an independent live without me and all the responsibility. We only ‘re mortgaged our home 2 months before he told me why would you make that sort of commitment of so unhappy
March 27, 2020 at 4:02 am in reply to: Trying to deal with anxiety and loss after relationship break up #345704CBParticipantJust wanted to say this thread has really helped.me in last few days of isolation. I am going through the most painful breakup as per my thread After 27 years together I find myself along and in total shock.The support you have shown to each other is amazing and the positive steps your all making gives me hope that things will get better
CBParticipantYes of course year we talked about making more time for just two.if us but life deck for in the way work rasing our son and carering for all 4 parents we had not been arguing or had a conversation of this sort in many years we had started doing things on our own I do believe the change in job and going back to uni has had a massive impact He also has 4 friends that have divorced and moved on with new people last year I guess his prioritise have change where as I’m just the same person I ever was The last few years I’ve have been dealing with the menopause and back injury I think this has been hard he is used to me being the strong caring oceans I’ve needed a bit of support. I feel he’s just cut and run I wanted to talk about it go counselling try and resolve after all the years we spent together I felt it was worth it But he just told me left and since held me at arms length hurtful. I’m so lost and alone locked in our family home with all these memories and with the covid19 lockdown very very isolated
CBParticipantYes this was his first real relationship \ girlfriend for me I’m 7 years older and have had a few serious boyfriends before him As for getting married we did talk about it but was never too important to us our son came along and then our home we have had a good relationship over the years of course ups and downs but have never talked about ending it as I said over the last 4 to 5 years we have had lots of pressure due to parents needing care and help it was hard but we were both happy to do it I felt this was our time to shine and start putting us first again he is a good man to both me and my son and would do anything for anyone and did this is why this behaviour is so out of character He did not believe I was sad about losing him just our life I guess we have taken each other for granted at times during our relationship but who doesn’t it’s 27 years but never ever did I think he wanted out
CBParticipantHe believed when he told.me if be other same place as he is he was surprised at my reaction he doesn’t believe I want him and I can’t imagine any life without him in it
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