I sympathize with your heartbreak.

However I do believe you are not seeing things clearly. If someone breaks up with you it is up to them to repair the relationship… But the real question is why would you even consider dating someone who doesn’t love you in return? Doesn’t this sound like an unhealthy relationship? Masochistic behavior? Please focus your energy on self improvement and finding a more suitable mate… Women have plenty of options these days as they are in shortage.

I would use this as a learning experience. Looks and physical attraction initially attract a male but it the personality that makes them stay. Were you a positive sweet and supportive mate or one that was negative and nagging? How well you treat your bf plays a very large role in the outcome. In return your mate should be confident, affectionate, and a lot of fun.

To be honest in your email it sounds like your ego is having a difficult time being dumped. Do not take it personal as even the rich powerful and beautiful get their hearts kicked around.

Sometimes the most empowering thing you can do is nothing. This will prove to your ex that you are over them not by writing a “I know we had to breakup before you actually dumped me” type of letter. The only exception to this rule is in the rare case that you really messed up such as cheating, threatening, or being unloving. In that case, by all means swallow your pride and admit fault… But the letter should read more along the lines of… “I’m sorry for how I treated you. It was wrong. I still care deeply about you. Can we grab coffee this week?”.

Namaste

Only losers cheat. People with integrity and class end the relationship first. You have to draw the line somewhere and realize that this behavior is not acceptable or desirable in a mate.

Don’t be so hard on yourself even the rich and famous get their hearts kicked around. Take for instance Jennifer Anniston or Justin Timberlake.

If this is a trend in your life (always getting dumped) it is possible you are repeating your mistakes. Or it could be the same type of man you are attracted to that is the problem. Men love feminine women that are sweet and supportive. If you are harsh and critical or nagging that is a man’s worst nightmare. Maybe reflect on this. Looks are what lure men in but your attitude makes them stay long-term.

As far as your feelings of inadequacy, this is something all humans share in common. Welcome to the club. In my experience the only way to break through this is a mix of healthy behaviors and habits. Are you neglecting your body? Diet? Need for friendships? Need for meaningful work?… Are you meditating daily? Praying? Having a spiritual life? Setting goals?…. I suggest developing a mindfulness practice… Otherwise you’ll be doomed to having your recurring thoughts and fears dominate your life and drain you of energy. Controlling your self defeating thoughts will restore the energy needed to make positive changes. Lastly I suggest you to be thankful for ending a toxic relationship. It is better to be alone than to be someone’s slave or second option.

Namaste