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  • in reply to: lost and alone #215613
    Coach Vernida
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    I know you may think making yourself happy is a hard task but it it can be quite intriguing to explore what makes you happy. It is there, below the surface but it is reacheable.

    in reply to: Emotional Abuse from Family #215413
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    Hi Ally

    In life so often, we can’t have what we truly want.  It’s truly sad when it involves oour familiy. We can’t change people no matter how hard we try.  It’s just waisted time and energy.  When people don’t want what you want, you have to come to the conclusion to leave them alone.  I acknowledge that you are a strong person.  You are holding on for the love of family and I admire that in you but soon you will grow weary and tired and you will let go.  You have nothing to feel guilty about.  You did your part trying to mend the family.  It’s not your fault no one wants to follow pursuit. It’s time to move on with your life so that you can find true happiness.

    in reply to: lost and alone #215405
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    Hi Kay…  Everything you’ve stated is understandable to a point.  You are going to have to find your happiness within yourself. You are key.  Please do not depend on your Ex and your Friend  to receive the happiness you so deserve in life.  I’m happy that you are seeing a therapist and I hope somewhere throughout your sessions that you will realize that you don’t need people in your life that don’t bring any positivity or peace.  People that surrounds you that are not authentic  can make you feel depressed and lonely as well.

    in reply to: Stressball co-worker #215379
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    1. I’ve been in your shoes on my job and it can be draining., the complaining and negative gossip.   I don’t indulge in negative topics anymore.  When negative topics come at me, I respond with positivity.  If you keep positive answers I bet a lot of it will cease because when people are complaining and being negative and we respond like them, we become the coal that keeps the fire burning.  I’ve noticed by me staying with positive responses, the conversations aren’t the same and there’s not a lot to talk about anymore on the negative aspect, but we are still friends.  I had to change the direction of our conversations.
    in reply to: What should I do when someone doesn't like me? #215333
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    It appears that smiling and being happy is part of your character.  You keep being you.  If he is annoyed by a part of your character, let him be.  After all, this is not something that you are doing deliberately, this is who you are.  The way you deal with it is to keep being you.  Continue to learn your job and excel.  It seems like he’s not a happy person but you continue to be.

    in reply to: I feel ugly #213691
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    Hi Katie.

    I too feel that what you’re going through is some form of Low Self Esteem.  It seems that you are way too concerned with comparing yourself with others.  We are all different and we each have something special about ourselves unlike any other.  Beauty is not only seen on the outside but it is very important to have inner beauty which will reflect on the outer.  You are beautiful and you need to spend your time focusing on being YOU.  Get to know yourself, what makes you happy, acknowledging your fears and your strengths.  I hope soon you will find self satisfaction once you discover the beauty in you.

     

    in reply to: Feeling rejected and alone #213279
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    Hi Leni

    Don’t depend on others to find happiness.  Your happiness comes from within and that’s is something you can find but with some help as others are stating.  People can be so cruel to where you start doubting yourself as you are.  Just know that the only difference in you and them is that they are cruel and you are not because if you were, your reaction to this matter would be different than you doubting yourself.  Seek someone to talk to so that you can discover it’s not you with the problem.

     

    in reply to: I'm alone #213227
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    Hi Daniel.  Life can be very difficult at times.  Some, more difficult than others.  It appears to me that you are stinger than you give yourself credit for.  You have endured a lot, but yet you still STAND.  You made it through with your inner strength although it was tough.  That is something you should truly be proud of yourself of.  You are knocking down obstacles but not realizing it Daniel.

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