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August 8, 2017 at 8:23 am #162842
Good luck and safe travels. I have appreciated your feedback. IMO, you are talented and strong communicator. My unsolicited advice is to keep writing as you travel.July 12, 2017 at 1:37 pm #157760
I like the Zevon quote/ sentiment. Going to grad school helped me to develop my current reading habits.
Here are my most recent reads:
Currently reading The Fifth Discipline / Senge and 5 Levels of Leadership /Maxwell
Hostage at the Table/ Kohlrieser
The New One Minute Manager / Blanchard
15 Invaluable Laws of Growth/ Maxwell
Leadership From the Inside Out / CashmanJuly 11, 2017 at 7:53 am #157450
Pearce. As always, I appreciate your thoughtful response. I also appreciate you sharing your personal story. What really stood out to me was your intentionality and consistent reflection. That is a good example for me. People focused on growth are highly reflective. A quote I find informative from John Maxwell is “experience is not the best teacher, reflective experience is”. I am trying to cultivate this more in myself. This is why am interested in learning more.July 6, 2017 at 10:07 am #156668
Good questions. For me, reading growth oriented material is a consistent source of motivation. There are a lot of quality growth oriented books out there. John Maxwell is a good starting point , IMO. It is pretty straightforward in regards to principles and practice. You can get a reading app on a tablet and get many books real cheap. You can also use a library account and get them for free with a time limit. If you go to actionablebooksdotcom (I have no affiliation, BTW) you can explore tons of books that you might find motivating. Good luck.July 6, 2017 at 9:53 am #156664
I appreciate your thoughts and encouragement. As the cliché says “there is no wrong answer”, just a way to try and get people’s thoughts on the issue. Your focus on growth, day to day, is a great example. Keep it up. I find I can get sidetracked by the busyness of life and responsibilities. A one day at a time, be better today than yesterday, perspective is a good way to go about maintaining a growth and grace perspective.June 20, 2017 at 10:12 am #154250
Thanks for introducing the idea of the Descartes Square. It is new to me. I like the simplicity of the square system. I am glad you mentioned it.June 15, 2017 at 12:00 pm #153502
I liked your connection to mindfulness and being present as a way maintain a positive mindset. I am intrigued by the notion you raised about a measurable timeframe for what it “the present”. Honestly, 2.7 seconds sounds about right for describing the right herr, right now. I wonder if that connects to the rate at which our minds come up with new thoughts. If you can recall the source, I would love to check it out further.June 9, 2017 at 6:56 am #152532
I appreciate your thoughts. As you alluded to, it can be very frustrating to be in a conversation with a person who won’t read social clues to let someone else talk. Being in the presence of a “monologuer” can be challenging for me. I find at some point I must assertively cut in or I will be captive to their ramblings. With some people, even the best of listeners will need to cut them off.May 14, 2017 at 5:06 pm #149419
I agree with prior advice. Take a break from media. Like it or not, agendas rule our media sources. Regardless of political per view, studies (can’t quote) indicate that people gravitate towards news sources that will fan their anger. Anyone who is focused on personal wellness consumes measured quantities of news. Can you be content with grabbing the top stories from your media outlet of choice in the morning and then moving for the day? You will stay informed without being consumed. IMO political hatred is toxic. I grew up very aware of the politics of Northern Ireland and I lived in the Balkans for five years from 1997-2002. There is no good that results from political hatred. A quote from a person in NI who lost a close relative that I find informative is “we will learn to live together, or die apart.” Good luck.May 10, 2017 at 9:43 am #148885
“Releasing your expectations, planning ahead, and leaving enough buffer time are good practices of Emotional Mastery in airports” is good advice. I was talking to a friend about the current flying environment these days. People seem to have unreasonable expectation, at times. Can one really plan on showing up to an airport an hour before a flight, getting to their destination airport, and being at their desired location 30 minutes later without leaving room for any hiccups along the way? Generally speaking, when flying, or doing anything, we should plan on bringing our patience and planning for the unplanned. This helps foster EM.May 10, 2017 at 9:37 am #148881
I think you made a good point then you said “Such a state does not come by itself but demands continuos presence”. EM definitely takes a focus. I think our circumstances do influence, or make EM easier or harder, but we can handle a lot if we work at it.April 27, 2017 at 12:57 pm #147021
My advice goes in a different direction from Anita’s. I am 43 and finished a Masters this year. Here is my take on things given my own personal experience: Go for your Masters.
24 is still very young. I consider a person’s 20s their adult-youth stage of life. I did not feel that way when I was in my 20s. I felt like I was getting old. It is a great time to knock out advanced degrees. You likely will not regret doing so in the future and the logistics get more complicated if you have a career and family down the road and then decide to pursue more schooling.
I assume that a Masters from a top school will open more doors if you decide to make non profit work your career. You can stay engaged over the next couple of years by volunteering for your current organization.
Good Luck!April 6, 2017 at 6:15 pm #144011
Good luck with your new direction. I think the key is putting yourself around people who truly want what is best for you.April 4, 2017 at 4:05 pm #143675
Good point. Another challenge I face working in a large public sector agency, is the reality that others, or at least existing SOPs, can dictate a lot of what must be done.March 21, 2017 at 1:57 pm #141039
Thanks for the thoughtful response. I am also interested in the outlook of others on this subject. I think you made a good point about our culture valuing the extrovert personality. It has taken me a while to identify and then feel comfortable with my introvert nature. I can be outgoing for periods but feel most comfortable in crowds having meaningful interaction with fewer people than I do being the center of attention. There is a lot of material online about social hangovers. NYU (I think) did a study recently on it.