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    Kanedr,

    Thanks for introducing the idea of the Descartes Square. It is new to me. I like the simplicity of the square system.  I am glad you mentioned it.

    #153502

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    PearceHawk,

    I liked your connection to mindfulness and being present as a way  maintain a positive mindset. I am intrigued by the notion you raised about a measurable timeframe for what it “the present”. Honestly, 2.7 seconds sounds about right for describing the right herr, right now.  I wonder if that connects to the rate at which our minds come up with new thoughts. If you can recall the source, I would love to check it out further.

    #152532

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    PearceHawk,

    I appreciate your thoughts. As you alluded to, it can be very frustrating to be in a conversation with a person who won’t read social clues to let someone else talk. Being in the presence of a “monologuer” can be challenging for me.  I find at some point I must assertively cut in or I will be captive to their ramblings.  With some people, even the best of listeners will need to cut them off.

    #149419

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    Helliongoddess,

    I agree with prior advice. Take a break from media. Like it or not, agendas rule our media sources. Regardless of political per view, studies (can’t quote) indicate that people gravitate towards news sources that will fan their anger.  Anyone who is focused on personal wellness consumes measured quantities of news. Can you be content with grabbing the top stories from your media outlet of choice in the morning and then moving for the day? You will stay informed without being consumed. IMO political hatred is toxic. I grew up very aware of the politics of Northern Ireland and I lived in the Balkans for five years from 1997-2002. There is no good that results from political hatred. A quote from a person in NI who lost a close relative that I find informative is “we will learn to live together, or die apart.” Good luck.

    #148885

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    Inky,

    “Releasing your expectations, planning ahead, and leaving enough buffer time are good practices of Emotional Mastery in airports” is good advice.  I was talking to a friend about the current flying environment these days.  People seem to have unreasonable expectation, at times.  Can one really plan on showing up to an airport an hour before a flight, getting to their destination airport, and being  at their desired location 30 minutes later without leaving room for any hiccups along the way? Generally speaking, when flying, or doing anything, we should plan on bringing our patience and planning for the unplanned.  This helps foster EM.

     

    #148881

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    Susannah,

    I think you made a good point then you said “Such a state does not come by itself but demands continuos presence”.  EM definitely takes a focus.  I think our circumstances do influence, or make EM easier or harder, but we can handle a lot if we work at it.

     

    #147021

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    Pete96,

    My advice goes in a different direction from Anita’s.  I am 43 and finished a Masters this year.  Here is my take on things given my own personal experience: Go for your Masters.

    My reasons:

    24 is still very young.  I consider a person’s 20s their adult-youth stage of life. I did not feel that way when I was in my 20s. I felt like I was getting old.   It is a great time to knock out advanced degrees.  You likely will not regret doing so in the future and the logistics get more complicated if you have a career and family down the road and then decide to pursue more schooling.

    I assume that a Masters from a top school will open more doors if you decide to make non profit work your career.  You can stay engaged over the next couple of years by volunteering for your current organization.

    Good Luck!

     

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    Jennifer,

    Good luck with your new direction. I think the key is putting yourself around people who truly want what is best for you.

    #143675

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    Good point. Another challenge I face working in a large public sector agency, is the reality that others, or at least existing SOPs, can dictate a lot of what must be done.

    #141039

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    Hello Rich,

    Thanks for the thoughtful response. I am also interested in the outlook of others on this subject.  I think you made a good point about our culture valuing the extrovert personality. It has taken me a while to identify and then feel comfortable with my introvert nature.  I can be outgoing for periods but feel most comfortable in crowds having meaningful interaction with fewer people than I do being the center of attention. There is a lot of material online about social hangovers. NYU (I think) did a study recently on it.

     

    #139345

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    Thanks for sharing. Good luck. Building any house is an impressive undertaking.  I am sure the new skills developed will help if you decide to build larger one in the future.

    #131745

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    I liked your point “It was recently suggested to me that we are our own soul mates. That in the finding and becoming our authentic self we discover our soul.” I do think that we need to be aware of, and comfortable with, who we are to be happy with or without another person.

    #128413

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    BB,
    Glad to hear. I am more naturally inclined to look at the roadblocks”out there,” I think real growth happens when I face the ones inside. Thanks for your thoughts.

    #128275

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    Hi Anita,
    I agree that fear can be a limiting factor. For me with grad school there was a fear of not finding the right fit, failure, finances, Once I felt comfortable dealing with those issues I found that hard work was something else I had to admit I was afraid of. Maybe not everyone is the same, but many probably would relate. Thanks for your feedback.

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    #127805

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    I recently watched an interview with Tim Ferriss where he discussed his latest book Tools of Titans. He mentioned that the common thread among successful people is the habit of some sort of meditation or mindfulness practice. So yes, I think self awareness is a requirement for you ideal life. In fact, it is likely the first step.

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